Host informs parents "don't bring your monsters"

[Anonymous]

I would stay out of it.
Frankly, although his language was crude, I appreciated his candor. He clearly articulated the guidelines for the event. Too many parents expect the world to conform to their needs, the 'Move aside, I have a double wide stroller' demand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would stay out of it.
Frankly, although his language was crude, I appreciated his candor. He clearly articulated the guidelines for the event. Too many parents expect the world to conform to their needs, the 'Move aside, I have a double wide stroller' demand.

I want to know what every poster like you thinks about destination weddings and aggressive brides.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would stay out of it.
Frankly, although his language was crude, I appreciated his candor. He clearly articulated the guidelines for the event. Too many parents expect the world to conform to their needs, the 'Move aside, I have a double wide stroller' demand.

I want to know what every poster like you thinks about destination weddings and aggressive brides.

I'm a PP who was also in support (somewhat) of the host, and I think destination weddings are obnoxious. Eloping is fabulous (did it myself) but don't expect anyone else to attend. Which means not inviting people, because if people are invited then on some level they'll feel obligated or expected to attend.

Not sure what you mean by aggressive brides, but in general I think most brides are a bit obnoxious. Hence the part about us eloping, I suppose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would stay out of it.
Frankly, although his language was crude, I appreciated his candor. He clearly articulated the guidelines for the event. Too many parents expect the world to conform to their needs, the 'Move aside, I have a double wide stroller' demand.

I want to know what every poster like you thinks about destination weddings and aggressive brides.

I'm a PP who was also in support (somewhat) of the host, and I think destination weddings are obnoxious. Eloping is fabulous (did it myself) but don't expect anyone else to attend. Which means not inviting people, because if people are invited then on some level they'll feel obligated or expected to attend.

Not sure what you mean by aggressive brides, but in general I think most brides are a bit obnoxious. Hence the part about us eloping, I suppose.

I think people who support this host but hate destination weddings and aggressive brides are hypocrites capitalizing on it being socially acceptable to ostracize parents and demonize children in public spaces.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would stay out of it.
Frankly, although his language was crude, I appreciated his candor. He clearly articulated the guidelines for the event. Too many parents expect the world to conform to their needs, the 'Move aside, I have a double wide stroller' demand.

I want to know what every poster like you thinks about destination weddings and aggressive brides.

I'm a PP who was also in support (somewhat) of the host, and I think destination weddings are obnoxious. Eloping is fabulous (did it myself) but don't expect anyone else to attend. Which means not inviting people, because if people are invited then on some level they'll feel obligated or expected to attend.

Not sure what you mean by aggressive brides, but in general I think most brides are a bit obnoxious. Hence the part about us eloping, I suppose.

I think people who support this host but hate destination weddings and aggressive brides are hypocrites capitalizing on it being socially acceptable to ostracize parents and demonize children in public spaces.

The host states that unless the parents wish to be ostracized and their children demonized, please stay away. People who assume liberties create unnecessary problems.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would stay out of it.
Frankly, although his language was crude, I appreciated his candor. He clearly articulated the guidelines for the event. Too many parents expect the world to conform to their needs, the 'Move aside, I have a double wide stroller' demand.

I want to know what every poster like you thinks about destination weddings and aggressive brides.

I'm a PP who was also in support (somewhat) of the host, and I think destination weddings are obnoxious. Eloping is fabulous (did it myself) but don't expect anyone else to attend. Which means not inviting people, because if people are invited then on some level they'll feel obligated or expected to attend.

Not sure what you mean by aggressive brides, but in general I think most brides are a bit obnoxious. Hence the part about us eloping, I suppose.

I think people who support this host but hate destination weddings and aggressive brides are hypocrites capitalizing on it being socially acceptable to ostracize parents and demonize children in public spaces.

Notwithstanding your post making no sense whatsoever, a private function is not a public space, by definition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here,

I contacted them both privately. It's not like I put it all out there for everyone to read. I sent the message more so for the 30 y/o mother (my aunt). She is upset with his post and wants him to take it down. I have no special relationship with my cousin obviously but I did not think it would hurt for him to hear from another family member that his was post causing so much drama. It was not well received and I was told where I could go. I am not going to bring it up again.

How does a 30 year old mother have a 21 year old son?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would stay out of it.
Frankly, although his language was crude, I appreciated his candor. He clearly articulated the guidelines for the event. Too many parents expect the world to conform to their needs, the 'Move aside, I have a double wide stroller' demand.

I want to know what every poster like you thinks about destination weddings and aggressive brides.

I'm a PP who was also in support (somewhat) of the host, and I think destination weddings are obnoxious. Eloping is fabulous (did it myself) but don't expect anyone else to attend. Which means not inviting people, because if people are invited then on some level they'll feel obligated or expected to attend.

Not sure what you mean by aggressive brides, but in general I think most brides are a bit obnoxious. Hence the part about us eloping, I suppose.

I think people who support this host but hate destination weddings and aggressive brides are hypocrites capitalizing on it being socially acceptable to ostracize parents and demonize children in public spaces.

The host states that unless the parents wish to be ostracized and their children demonized, please stay away. People who assume liberties create unnecessary problems.

Exactly. And it is somehow socially acceptable to insult a portion of the guests by insulting their children and being ridiculously over the top about not inviting or accommodating them whatsoever because 'everyone understands how awful children are.' I'm not arguing BTW that this event is child appropriate or that the host should have provided childcare. It is not and he had no obligation to do that. But it is acceptable to push out a message that is extremely rude and dismissive of children because it is socially acceptable to talk about how horrible kids are in public places. He would never write that message subbing out children for autistic people or stupid people or alcoholics or whatever. It isn't socially acceptable to be extremely rude to those groups, but it is acceptable to be that rude to parents and children because there is a presumption that parents are themselves rude and idiotically unaware of the trouble their children cause. Which is not true of most parents.

The people who asked the host to take care of their children are rude and stupid. That is not an excuse to be rude to everyone else you invited to the party who were not assuming liberties at all.

[Anonymous]

One or two parents ruin it for everyone by not watching their children, and/or thinking that their child's destructive behavior is "so adorable!".

OP, it is not your child's day, it is the host's day. Get over it. You seem to have an awful lot of ego tied up in your children. Do them a favor and learn to decipher which is which, not everything is about you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would stay out of it.
Frankly, although his language was crude, I appreciated his candor. He clearly articulated the guidelines for the event. Too many parents expect the world to conform to their needs, the 'Move aside, I have a double wide stroller' demand.

I want to know what every poster like you thinks about destination weddings and aggressive brides.

I'm a PP who was also in support (somewhat) of the host, and I think destination weddings are obnoxious. Eloping is fabulous (did it myself) but don't expect anyone else to attend. Which means not inviting people, because if people are invited then on some level they'll feel obligated or expected to attend.

Not sure what you mean by aggressive brides, but in general I think most brides are a bit obnoxious. Hence the part about us eloping, I suppose.

I think people who support this host but hate destination weddings and aggressive brides are hypocrites capitalizing on it being socially acceptable to ostracize parents and demonize children in public spaces.

The host states that unless the parents wish to be ostracized and their children demonized, please stay away. People who assume liberties create unnecessary problems.

Exactly. And it is somehow socially acceptable to insult a portion of the guests by insulting their children and being ridiculously over the top about not inviting or accommodating them whatsoever because 'everyone understands how awful children are.' I'm not arguing BTW that this event is child appropriate or that the host should have provided childcare. It is not and he had no obligation to do that. But it is acceptable to push out a message that is extremely rude and dismissive of children because it is socially acceptable to talk about how horrible kids are in public places. He would never write that message subbing out children for autistic people or stupid people or alcoholics or whatever. It isn't socially acceptable to be extremely rude to those groups, but it is acceptable to be that rude to parents and children because there is a presumption that parents are themselves rude and idiotically unaware of the trouble their children cause. Which is not true of most parents.

The people who asked the host to take care of their children are rude and stupid. That is not an excuse to be rude to everyone else you invited to the party who were not assuming liberties at all.

Children ARE separate from other groups, including the ones you identified, because they have different social rules. If a child starts crying in the middle of a public place, that's normal. If an adult does, it is not. A child is excused for many, many behaviors that are outside of social norms and rules for adults. That's why they are identified as "awful" because they are allowed to be, because they are children and they do not know any better.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would stay out of it.
Frankly, although his language was crude, I appreciated his candor. He clearly articulated the guidelines for the event. Too many parents expect the world to conform to their needs, the 'Move aside, I have a double wide stroller' demand.

I want to know what every poster like you thinks about destination weddings and aggressive brides.

I'm a PP who was also in support (somewhat) of the host, and I think destination weddings are obnoxious. Eloping is fabulous (did it myself) but don't expect anyone else to attend. Which means not inviting people, because if people are invited then on some level they'll feel obligated or expected to attend.

Not sure what you mean by aggressive brides, but in general I think most brides are a bit obnoxious. Hence the part about us eloping, I suppose.

I think people who support this host but hate destination weddings and aggressive brides are hypocrites capitalizing on it being socially acceptable to ostracize parents and demonize children in public spaces.

The host states that unless the parents wish to be ostracized and their children demonized, please stay away. People who assume liberties create unnecessary problems.

Exactly. And it is somehow socially acceptable to insult a portion of the guests by insulting their children and being ridiculously over the top about not inviting or accommodating them whatsoever because 'everyone understands how awful children are.' I'm not arguing BTW that this event is child appropriate or that the host should have provided childcare. It is not and he had no obligation to do that. But it is acceptable to push out a message that is extremely rude and dismissive of children because it is socially acceptable to talk about how horrible kids are in public places. He would never write that message subbing out children for autistic people or stupid people or alcoholics or whatever. It isn't socially acceptable to be extremely rude to those groups, but it is acceptable to be that rude to parents and children because there is a presumption that parents are themselves rude and idiotically unaware of the trouble their children cause. Which is not true of most parents.

The people who asked the host to take care of their children are rude and stupid. That is not an excuse to be rude to everyone else you invited to the party who were not assuming liberties at all.

Children ARE separate from other groups, including the ones you identified, because they have different social rules. If a child starts crying in the middle of a public place, that's normal. If an adult does, it is not. A child is excused for many, many behaviors that are outside of social norms and rules for adults. That's why they are identified as "awful" because they are allowed to be, because they are children and they do not know any better.

So the trade off is that people are allowed to say whatever they want regardless of level of rudeness/disrespect to their parents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
One or two parents ruin it for everyone by not watching their children, and/or thinking that their child's destructive behavior is "so adorable!".

OP, it is not your child's day, it is the host's day. Get over it. You seem to have an awful lot of ego tied up in your children. Do them a favor and learn to decipher which is which, not everything is about you.

You have very low reading comprehension. I'm not even sure we know OP has a child. They (OP) did not ask if their child could come and they did not ask for the host to provide childcare to their child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would stay out of it.
Frankly, although his language was crude, I appreciated his candor. He clearly articulated the guidelines for the event. Too many parents expect the world to conform to their needs, the 'Move aside, I have a double wide stroller' demand.

I want to know what every poster like you thinks about destination weddings and aggressive brides.

I'm a PP who was also in support (somewhat) of the host, and I think destination weddings are obnoxious. Eloping is fabulous (did it myself) but don't expect anyone else to attend. Which means not inviting people, because if people are invited then on some level they'll feel obligated or expected to attend.

Not sure what you mean by aggressive brides, but in general I think most brides are a bit obnoxious. Hence the part about us eloping, I suppose.

I think people who support this host but hate destination weddings and aggressive brides are hypocrites capitalizing on it being socially acceptable to ostracize parents and demonize children in public spaces.

The host states that unless the parents wish to be ostracized and their children demonized, please stay away. People who assume liberties create unnecessary problems.

Exactly. And it is somehow socially acceptable to insult a portion of the guests by insulting their children and being ridiculously over the top about not inviting or accommodating them whatsoever because 'everyone understands how awful children are.' I'm not arguing BTW that this event is child appropriate or that the host should have provided childcare. It is not and he had no obligation to do that. But it is acceptable to push out a message that is extremely rude and dismissive of children because it is socially acceptable to talk about how horrible kids are in public places. He would never write that message subbing out children for autistic people or stupid people or alcoholics or whatever. It isn't socially acceptable to be extremely rude to those groups, but it is acceptable to be that rude to parents and children because there is a presumption that parents are themselves rude and idiotically unaware of the trouble their children cause. Which is not true of most parents.

The people who asked the host to take care of their children are rude and stupid. That is not an excuse to be rude to everyone else you invited to the party who were not assuming liberties at all.

Children ARE separate from other groups, including the ones you identified, because they have different social rules. If a child starts crying in the middle of a public place, that's normal. If an adult does, it is not. A child is excused for many, many behaviors that are outside of social norms and rules for adults. That's why they are identified as "awful" because they are allowed to be, because they are children and they do not know any better.

So the trade off is that people are allowed to say whatever they want regardless of level of rudeness/disrespect to their parents?

People ARE allowed to say whatever they want regardless of the level of rudeness. You are included in that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would stay out of it.
Frankly, although his language was crude, I appreciated his candor. He clearly articulated the guidelines for the event. Too many parents expect the world to conform to their needs, the 'Move aside, I have a double wide stroller' demand.

I want to know what every poster like you thinks about destination weddings and aggressive brides.

I'm a PP who was also in support (somewhat) of the host, and I think destination weddings are obnoxious. Eloping is fabulous (did it myself) but don't expect anyone else to attend. Which means not inviting people, because if people are invited then on some level they'll feel obligated or expected to attend.

Not sure what you mean by aggressive brides, but in general I think most brides are a bit obnoxious. Hence the part about us eloping, I suppose.

I think people who support this host but hate destination weddings and aggressive brides are hypocrites capitalizing on it being socially acceptable to ostracize parents and demonize children in public spaces.

The host states that unless the parents wish to be ostracized and their children demonized, please stay away. People who assume liberties create unnecessary problems.

Exactly. And it is somehow socially acceptable to insult a portion of the guests by insulting their children and being ridiculously over the top about not inviting or accommodating them whatsoever because 'everyone understands how awful children are.' I'm not arguing BTW that this event is child appropriate or that the host should have provided childcare. It is not and he had no obligation to do that. But it is acceptable to push out a message that is extremely rude and dismissive of children because it is socially acceptable to talk about how horrible kids are in public places. He would never write that message subbing out children for autistic people or stupid people or alcoholics or whatever. It isn't socially acceptable to be extremely rude to those groups, but it is acceptable to be that rude to parents and children because there is a presumption that parents are themselves rude and idiotically unaware of the trouble their children cause. Which is not true of most parents.

The people who asked the host to take care of their children are rude and stupid. That is not an excuse to be rude to everyone else you invited to the party who were not assuming liberties at all.

Children ARE separate from other groups, including the ones you identified, because they have different social rules. If a child starts crying in the middle of a public place, that's normal. If an adult does, it is not. A child is excused for many, many behaviors that are outside of social norms and rules for adults. That's why they are identified as "awful" because they are allowed to be, because they are children and they do not know any better.

So the trade off is that people are allowed to say whatever they want regardless of level of rudeness/disrespect to their parents?

People ARE allowed to say whatever they want regardless of the level of rudeness. You are included in that.

Of course they are allowed. Maybe that was the wrong word. How about, 'the trade off is that it is socially acceptable to say whatever they want regardless of level of rudeness/disrespect to their parents?'

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
One or two parents ruin it for everyone by not watching their children, and/or thinking that their child's destructive behavior is "so adorable!".

OP, it is not your child's day, it is the host's day. Get over it. You seem to have an awful lot of ego tied up in your children. Do them a favor and learn to decipher which is which, not everything is about you.

You have very low reading comprehension. I'm not even sure we know OP has a child. They (OP) did not ask if their child could come and they did not ask for the host to provide childcare to their child.

You have very low social skills, and probably low reading comprehension to boot. This is not OP's argument to have with the host, especially of OP does not have children. Sorry for you that you are so proud to be ignorant.