Husband is very secretive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh sales is a marriage killer. My DH got a job in it about 6m ago for the first time. It’s a lot to handle and I see it going in the wrong direction for him.
Has he ever been a flirt, etc before?
Probably need to stay a lot more in touch when he’s traveling from here on out.

International development is much worse. I travel for work to Russia and Eastern Europe for extended periods of time and the amount of drinking and flirting that goes on is unbelievable. Also long term affairs. When you are abroad, you really feel like you can let yourself go.

[Anonymous]

I think it really does depend on HOW they are traveling. I'm not in sales, but I travel a bit for meetings and often I'm not the only one from my office attending the meetings. I never tell my DH who is attending the meetings - I tell him about the meetings, the clients, the hotel (when I get there).

The difference is that we all make our own travel arrangements and don't necessarily sit together on the plane going to the meeting (or even have the same flight). If we happen to be on the same flight, we'll share a cab to the hotel (I don't tell DH) but if not, we end up meeting somewhere at the hotel pre-meeting to discuss whatever we need to discuss.

To me, we are all "traveling together" to the same meeting, but it feels like I am traveling alone.

I think it's different if they carpooled to the airport, made the travel reservations for 2, cabbed it to the hotel, etc. I think it's all in the way the travel arrangements are handled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh sales is a marriage killer. My DH got a job in it about 6m ago for the first time. It’s a lot to handle and I see it going in the wrong direction for him.
Has he ever been a flirt, etc before?
Probably need to stay a lot more in touch when he’s traveling from here on out.

International development is much worse. I travel for work to Russia and Eastern Europe for extended periods of time and the amount of drinking and flirting that goes on is unbelievable. Also long term affairs. When you are abroad, you really feel like you can let yourself go.

No, I've been abroad. Cheaters do, not someone that cares about their spouse and family. Not worth getting a disease either.

OP pay attention. If it doesn't seem right..check up on him. My friend hired a local PI where her husband traveled frequently. Caught him on the 1st night. Either way at least you would know, and he wouldn't ever find out you checked on him.

[Anonymous]

OP, do you have any updates?