Anyone go from SAHM to retirement?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We definitely define work differently as you think people retire from parenting.

No one said you retire from parenting! You are a parent when your kids are in the forties and fifties with homes and kids of their own - you simply are no longer a SAHP. There is no reason to stay at home if there is no child to care for so you lose that job!

Okay. My reason is that I’m rich- the same reason most people retire from paid work.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 53, my youngest is 15 years old. 3 more years at home before he's off to college. I keep batting around returning to work but it's been nearly 18 years for me...yikes.

If I go back sometime between now and when we have an empty nest when I'm 56, I have to really think about the value in returning to work. At 56 I won't exactly be looking to start a new career. It would be strictly for the added income and it wouldn't be for that long, maybe 5 years? I've never approached working with quite that view before so the answer as to whether to go back or not isn't that obvious to me. Still debating....

At 56, reality check...no one is hiring you unless you want a service job or some other low-level part-time job that the employer finds difficult to fill. So not much to debate.

O.k. I haven't worked in a long time so I don't thing that's exactly unfair. I do not expect to be able to step back in right where I left off.

I see a fair amount of people older than me working service jobs. There is no shame in that work.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We definitely define work differently as you think people retire from parenting.

No one said you retire from parenting! You are a parent when your kids are in the forties and fifties with homes and kids of their own - you simply are no longer a SAHP. There is no reason to stay at home if there is no child to care for so you lose that job!

Okay. My reason is that I’m rich- the same reason most people retire from paid work.

PP, please stop embarrassing yourself. Do you care for children who still live at home? If yes, you are a SAHM. Are your children grown or in college? Then you are not a SAHM.

Seriously, it is not a difficult concept to grasp.

[Anonymous]

No. It’s embarassing that you’re spending this much time yelling about how ther people should define themselves. If you call people who have never worked retired you’re interesting!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. It’s embarassing that you’re spending this much time yelling about how ther people should define themselves. If you call people who have never worked retired you’re interesting!

Fine, Sweetie - You can call yourself a Dog Walker even is you have no dog to walk or a Street Sweeper without a broom or a street. You win.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We definitely define work differently as you think people retire from parenting.

No one said you retire from parenting! You are a parent when your kids are in the forties and fifties with homes and kids of their own - you simply are no longer a SAHP. There is no reason to stay at home if there is no child to care for so you lose that job!

Okay. My reason is that I’m rich- the same reason most people retire from paid work.

PP, please stop embarrassing yourself. Do you care for children who still live at home? If yes, you are a SAHM. Are your children grown or in college? Then you are not a SAHM.

Seriously, it is not a difficult concept to grasp.

+1 PP is just dense.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No. It’s embarassing that you’re spending this much time yelling about how ther people should define themselves. If you call people who have never worked retired you’re interesting!

Fine, Sweetie - You can call yourself a Dog Walker even is you have no dog to walk or a Street Sweeper without a broom or a street. You win.

Or I can call myself retired since I quit work and can live off of my own investments earned via my career and not off of my husbands income.

Now pick up that dog poop while you sweep that street.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you also retired from parenting once your children turn 18? It’s just a strange way of looking at parenting.

I don't think it's weird at all. By the time my kids leave the nest, they will be prepared to be independent. College age are still young so of course they aren't completely on their own and they will still be reliant on us for some things but they won't be at home either. We'll be there for guidance and moral support whenever they need it (we always will be) but they will be on their own and calling the shots for themselves.

I will no longer be actively parenting them and supervising them in a daily sort of way. That time of life will be over and my kids will be responsible for themselves and making decisions for themselves.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. It’s embarassing that you’re spending this much time yelling about how ther people should define themselves. If you call people who have never worked retired you’re interesting!

Fine, Sweetie - You can call yourself a Dog Walker even is you have no dog to walk or a Street Sweeper without a broom or a street. You win.

Or I can call myself retired since I quit work and can live off of my own investments earned via my career and not off of my husbands income.

Now pick up that dog poop while you sweep that street.

Yes, Sweetie, calm down - you can call yourself whatever you want. You are a good girl!

[Anonymous]

If I go back sometime between now and when we have an empty nest when I'm 56, I have to really think about the value in returning to work. At 56 I won't exactly be looking to start a new career. It would be strictly for the added income and it wouldn't be for that long, maybe 5 years? I've never approached working with quite that view before so the answer as to whether to go back or not isn't that obvious to me. Still debating....

At 56, reality check...no one is hiring you unless you want a service job or some other low-level part-time job that the employer finds difficult to fill. So not much to debate

This resonates with me. I was enthusiastic to return to a professional job after SAHM but couldn't find anything that would make our life better. I was willing to start-again at the bottom of the pay scale but two weeks off a year? I'm not signing up for that. I now have elderly parents who, though I'm not responsible for day-to-day, I do want to travel and see. My DH, a fed, now has 5 weeks of vacation so I wouldn't be able to vacation with him. Our vacations are very modest, but still ... Fast forward, he has now retired and parents have passed, so, am I going to choose now to return to work? Again, it's about time off not salary. If I could get 4 weeks off a year I'd do it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. It’s embarassing that you’re spending this much time yelling about how ther people should define themselves. If you call people who have never worked retired you’re interesting!

Fine, Sweetie - You can call yourself a Dog Walker even is you have no dog to walk or a Street Sweeper without a broom or a street. You win.

Or I can call myself retired since I quit work and can live off of my own investments earned via my career and not off of my husbands income.

Now pick up that dog poop while you sweep that street.

Yes, Sweetie, calm down - you can call yourself whatever you want. You are a good girl!

The irony of the working woman on a thread that is in no way about her using reductive language to address other women isn’t lost on you- right? You dont watch your own kids and you arent retired so forgive me for questioning your “expert” opinion.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. It’s embarassing that you’re spending this much time yelling about how ther people should define themselves. If you call people who have never worked retired you’re interesting!

Fine, Sweetie - You can call yourself a Dog Walker even is you have no dog to walk or a Street Sweeper without a broom or a street. You win.

Or I can call myself retired since I quit work and can live off of my own investments earned via my career and not off of my husbands income.

Now pick up that dog poop while you sweep that street.

Yes, Sweetie, calm down - you can call yourself whatever you want. You are a good girl!

The irony of the working woman on a thread that is in no way about her using reductive language to address other women isn’t lost on you- right? You dont watch your own kids and you arent retired so forgive me for questioning your “expert” opinion.

I am currently a SAHM but still earn money through my investments and residuals from my previous career. However when my children leave my home for college, I will be retired from being a SAHM.

Honestly, I have no clue what bee flew up your butt this morning, PP. This is an OPINION SITE and I gave clearly (and repeatedly to you) given my opinion.

Here is a further opinion: YOU ARE DEEPLY TROUBLED, PP.

[Anonymous]

Maybe this discussion would have gone better in the "Fifty and over" forum. Ignore the ugliness. For those for whom this topic is relevant, pls continue contributing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. It’s embarassing that you’re spending this much time yelling about how ther people should define themselves. If you call people who have never worked retired you’re interesting!

Fine, Sweetie - You can call yourself a Dog Walker even is you have no dog to walk or a Street Sweeper without a broom or a street. You win.

Or I can call myself retired since I quit work and can live off of my own investments earned via my career and not off of my husbands income.

Now pick up that dog poop while you sweep that street.

Yes, Sweetie, calm down - you can call yourself whatever you want. You are a good girl!

The irony of the working woman on a thread that is in no way about her using reductive language to address other women isn’t lost on you- right? You dont watch your own kids and you arent retired so forgive me for questioning your “expert” opinion.

I am currently a SAHM but still earn money through my investments and residuals from my previous career. However when my children leave my home for college, I will be retired from being a SAHM.

Honestly, I have no clue what bee flew up your butt this morning, PP. This is an OPINION SITE and I gave clearly (and repeatedly to you) given my opinion.

Here is a further opinion: YOU ARE DEEPLY TROUBLED, PP.

You seem confused- you introduce yourself as a retired stay a Home Mom- I can’t wait to get that at a dinner party!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. It’s embarassing that you’re spending this much time yelling about how ther people should define themselves. If you call people who have never worked retired you’re interesting!

Fine, Sweetie - You can call yourself a Dog Walker even is you have no dog to walk or a Street Sweeper without a broom or a street. You win.

Or I can call myself retired since I quit work and can live off of my own investments earned via my career and not off of my husbands income.

Now pick up that dog poop while you sweep that street.

Yes, Sweetie, calm down - you can call yourself whatever you want. You are a good girl!

The irony of the working woman on a thread that is in no way about her using reductive language to address other women isn’t lost on you- right? You dont watch your own kids and you arent retired so forgive me for questioning your “expert” opinion.

I am currently a SAHM but still earn money through my investments and residuals from my previous career. However when my children leave my home for college, I will be retired from being a SAHM.

Honestly, I have no clue what bee flew up your butt this morning, PP. This is an OPINION SITE and I gave clearly (and repeatedly to you) given my opinion.

Here is a further opinion: YOU ARE DEEPLY TROUBLED, PP.

You seem confused- you introduce yourself as a retired stay a Home Mom- I can’t wait to get that at a dinner party!

I introduce myself as Mary and I doubt you would ever be invited to any dinner party that I attend.