DS hiding food again!

[Anonymous]

OP, you know junk food is addictive, right? Maybe you are contributing to the problem by serving or allowing too much junk food. You said you sometimes have pizza and let the kids make cookies, and that may be keeping your son addicted to those foods. I can’t believe how many people especially on this forum are still unaware of the perils of the standard American diet. There’s a study that shows if you ate the same diet today that someone ate in the 1980s you would still way more today even if you got the same amount of exercise. Something is happening to our food that is making everyone fat. Food companies don’t use their research dollars to make food healthier, they use it to make food more addictive.

My DD is overweight at 16. It breaks my heart. When she was younger we were making good progress with her weight by completely eliminating all sugar and processed foods from her diet. It made her mood happier too. But when her dad and I divorced and she spends half her time at his house, he feeds her all the foods that we eliminated when she was younger. All that does is make her crave more and more of those foods. The road leading to her school is lined with fast food restaurants. I see kids going in and out of them at drop off and pick up times. It’s no wonder that Americans are now too fat to join the military and that every it breaks my heart. When she was younger we were making good progress with her weight by completely eliminating all sugar and processed foods from her diet. It made her mood happier to. But when her dad and I divorced and she spends half her time at his house, he feeds her all the foods that we eliminated when she was younger. All that does is make her crave more and more of those foods. The road leading to her school is lined with fast food restaurants. I see kids going in and out of them at drop off and pick up times. It’s no wonder that Americans are now too fat to join the military and that our lifespans are no longer increasing. Food company should be held accountable for what they have done to us. Accountability can only come from more people realizing that the diet we eat is terrible for us. It’s bad for our waistlines it’s bad for heart it’s bad for our health.

It sounds like you’re trying to do the right thing. Maybe by being as permissive as you are you’re actually hurting your cause.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Give him a space for where he can ut his snacks that the dog can't get into.

If he can't comply with that then he loses the snack money privilege.

I don’t want them in the house all the time. If he wants to buy a candy bar after school and eat it before he comes home, I do not care. But I don’t want a box of candy bars hanging out in the pantry. Hell, if he’s at home on the weekend and feels the need for a candy bar and wants to ride his bike somewhere to buy one, I don’t care. I fundamentally believe that when junk food is constantly accessible, people will eat more of it than they otherwise would. If you have to go buy it every time, you’ll eat less of it.

Ok. Keep doing what you’re doing. Your kid is well on his way to an eating disorder and learning how much nicer you are to him when he lies to you. Excellent parenting.

Actually, he’s only in trouble for the hiding/sneaking/dishonesty. We had nice and hopefully productive talk this evening about the issue, and I’m hopeful that it’s resolved. I’ve been surprised by the responses here because I just can’t see how this approach I’ve laid out is particularly restrictive. If I said I expected my kid to spend 80% of his weekend doing something other than video games and limit video game play to 20%, I doubt I’d get this kind of pushback. But where we’re talking about the consumption of junk food, something we likely all agree is unhealthy, I apparently can’t reasonably expect anything other than sneaky, dishonest behavior. Odd.

How old is your DS? I made an appointment for my DD with a nutritionist, she is a teen, and honestly I am just wanting her to hear about healthy eating habits, as right now, I am worried about her overeating and undereating at the same time, as confusing as that makes me sound. She was making poor choices, alternating with healthy choices and then eating candy, after not eating all day, or making me cook only really healthy and then eating junk at school. Surprise, surprise as I mentioned the appointment, which is coming up, she denied any food issues(she would even say things like I wish I was anorexic) she is back to eating home made healthy food. I am still keeping the appointment, I this point I think she and I both need to hear how and what she should eat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you know junk food is addictive, right? Maybe you are contributing to the problem by serving or allowing too much junk food. You said you sometimes have pizza and let the kids make cookies, and that may be keeping your son addicted to those foods. I can’t believe how many people especially on this forum are still unaware of the perils of the standard American diet. There’s a study that shows if you ate the same diet today that someone ate in the 1980s you would still way more today even if you got the same amount of exercise. Something is happening to our food that is making everyone fat. Food companies don’t use their research dollars to make food healthier, they use it to make food more addictive.

My DD is overweight at 16. It breaks my heart. When she was younger we were making good progress with her weight by completely eliminating all sugar and processed foods from her diet. It made her mood happier too. But when her dad and I divorced and she spends half her time at his house, he feeds her all the foods that we eliminated when she was younger. All that does is make her crave more and more of those foods. The road leading to her school is lined with fast food restaurants. I see kids going in and out of them at drop off and pick up times. It’s no wonder that Americans are now too fat to join the military and that every it breaks my heart. When she was younger we were making good progress with her weight by completely eliminating all sugar and processed foods from her diet. It made her mood happier to. But when her dad and I divorced and she spends half her time at his house, he feeds her all the foods that we eliminated when she was younger. All that does is make her crave more and more of those foods. The road leading to her school is lined with fast food restaurants. I see kids going in and out of them at drop off and pick up times. It’s no wonder that Americans are now too fat to join the military and that our lifespans are no longer increasing. Food company should be held accountable for what they have done to us. Accountability can only come from more people realizing that the diet we eat is terrible for us. It’s bad for our waistlines it’s bad for heart it’s bad for our health.

It sounds like you’re trying to do the right thing. Maybe by being as permissive as you are you’re actually hurting your cause.

So you are eating disordered, too. She said they have pizza every three weeks, and homemade cookies periodically.

Your poor daughter. With a mom like you, she will always be overweight.