Wife is about to leave me, don’t know what to do

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're a sex addict. They come in many forms. If you're putting a cdm girl sex before your wife thrn you need help.

Stop the madness.

[Anonymous]

My guess is you both disgust one another. you readily admit that you couldn't bring yourself to touch your wife after she cheated. And your wife is equally disgusted to discover that you are back to your creepy porn ways. Cut your losses. Divorce and try to be friends.

[Anonymous]

It sounds to me as if both sides have hurt each other so much so that the damage done may be irreparable at this point.

There are too many hurt/raw feelings exposed as well as extreme resentment built up.

Sure you both can agree to marriage counseling if you BOTH feel the marriage is worth salvaging.
However you both sound like you may have reached the point of no return at this point.

I know you are hurting, but you need to seek help for your issue.
Otherwise you will be alone for the rest of your life which doesn’t sound like something you want for yourself.

Could your porn cam viewing possibly be due partly to the fact that you are still hurt over your wife’s past betrayal?
Ask yourself this honestly.

[Anonymous]

At no point did OP say he was addicted to porn. I think people are reading into this. I think his issues are mostly with her cheating. It’s incrsdible that he forgave her. She must have hurt him pretty bad.
I would also break up with her, OP.you have the upper hand here. Tell her you’re done. And move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At no point did OP say he was addicted to porn. I think people are reading into this. I think his issues are mostly with her cheating. It’s incrsdible that he forgave her. She must have hurt him pretty bad.
I would also break up with her, OP.you have the upper hand here. Tell her you’re done. And move on.

good point, PP. an addiction would mean he deserves understanding for his "disease." Instead he's just a scuz of a dude who gets off watching women he doesn't know degrade themselves. Oh, and this activity is something that he had already sworn off at his wife's request. So he's just a liar with an unhealthy habit. That's easier to leave than someone with a "disease"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At no point did OP say he was addicted to porn. I think people are reading into this. I think his issues are mostly with her cheating. It’s incrsdible that he forgave her. She must have hurt him pretty bad.
I would also break up with her, OP.you have the upper hand here. Tell her you’re done. And move on.

good point, PP. an addiction would mean he deserves understanding for his "disease." Instead he's just a scuz of a dude who gets off watching women he doesn't know degrade themselves. Oh, and this activity is something that he had already sworn off at his wife's request. So he's just a liar with an unhealthy habit. That's easier to leave than someone with a "disease"

Haha. I love the women that come on here and talk about men getting off on women degrading themselves. What do you think porn is. I think the majority of the country doesn’t see a problem in what OP did...see president Trump...and if that’s not enough...see Bill Clinton. People don’t care. These women actually make good money from the comfort of their homes.

I don’t think op is a any different than most men. My husband goes to the strip club with clients all the time. I don’t love it, but I know it’s part of society and it will never change.

[Anonymous]

Bill Clinton, the man that gets a BJ in the Oval Office by an intern and is revered by the left. Love it. And people attacking OP for being a sleaze. I’m with him. Lol

[Anonymous]

Hold the door open for her and let her go. You're better off without her

[Anonymous]

Would love to hear an update from OP. I think the wife is just angry that he did it again. Don’t see her leaving him for, what I consider, a stupid, but minor transgression. I mean it’s a waste of money.
I’m with many here that think she’s still the source of his unhappiness or rather the lack of his sex life. It’s her that broke him. Cheating can harm a relationship in extraordinary ways. Some couples do grow, but it takes a long time.
Clearly they haven’t grown. I wish you all the best OP and I hope you find happiness. You don’t sound like a bad dude.

[Anonymous]

You sound like my husband. He uses porn or hookers. He hasn't touched me in years and it's ruined my self esteem. I've hung on to maintain our lifestyle but it's not worth it anymore. I simply don't care enough to keep up the facade. I spend most of the time in my bedroom, alone.

[Anonymous]

DO NOT DIVORCE OP. Talk to your wife. Tell her you lover her. Tell her everything you wrote here. Tell hr you want to fix your sex life, and you are sorry for punishing her. Tell her you appreciate the hard work she put in after infidelity, and forgive her for her mistake. Go get your wife back! And have hot sweaty sex. Good luck. It can be done. I went through something similar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife is looking to end our marriage. I have been unfaithful. Not with a person in particular, but I have an ugly online cam habit in that I pay for these online sex cam websites every now and then. My wife and I haven’t been intimate in a long time. Part of that is my fault for frequenting these sites. Not the first time she caught me either. Promised her last year I’ll stop using, which I did, but then I get lonely and horny and I’m looking at them again.
I somehow justify it as just porn personalized porn. I don’t know their names and it’s a transaction to me. But I understand why she’s unhappy abou it.

We’ve had a long relationship and it’s been a rollercoaster. She cheated on me years ago and that almost ended out relationship. She was remorseful, she changed. I didn’t get over it for a long time and we stopped having sex. I just couldn’t. And then it became a way of life. She didn’t want to push me, but also never tried very hard to entice me. She’s been a great partner since, while I’ve acted out. I never cheated with another woman in person, like an emotional affair. I’ve just been looking at viewing porn and these camgirl sites. But I know it hurts her and still did it.

I was out on a business trip and she saw my cc statement. Told me not to come back home etc, so I got a hotel. Been 4 days and I think it’s finally over.

She changed her ways after her misstep. You refuse to. #teamwife

[Anonymous]

What is your question?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At no point did OP say he was addicted to porn. I think people are reading into this. I think his issues are mostly with her cheating. It’s incrsdible that he forgave her. She must have hurt him pretty bad.
I would also break up with her, OP.you have the upper hand here. Tell her you’re done. And move on.

good point, PP. an addiction would mean he deserves understanding for his "disease." Instead he's just a scuz of a dude who gets off watching women he doesn't know degrade themselves. Oh, and this activity is something that he had already sworn off at his wife's request. So he's just a liar with an unhealthy habit. That's easier to leave than someone with a "disease"

I also think the porn addiction label gets thrown around way too much. He likes porn. He watches porn. This doesn't mean he's addicted to porn. Same with sex addiction. Just because your SO has had an affair or three doesn't mean that he's a sex addict. It means he's cheating on you. If you want to forgive and stay with him, that's OK. I suppose the "sex addict" label makes it easier for you to live with that decision, but it isn't usually isn't a real diagnosis. Especially since it is an armchair diagnosis.