Things About your significant other that would’ve been a dealbreaker if you had known

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The sex is really bad but we waited until after marriage. He sucks at giving massages too. I get a lot of paid massages but it's not the same. He also has a really bad temper sometimes. I wish I could go back and tell my 26 year old self that being compatible sexually is important. I was so native and stupid.

I would bet that any guy who is okay with waiting until after marriage to have sex has a reason. Like he knows he's lousy in bed, or he's inhibited to the point of no return, or whatever. Huge red flag to me, I would not recommend to any young person that they wait until marriage. Very important to find out if you are sexually compatible and hopefully also find out if your partner has some kind of weird quirks or attitudes about sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The sex is really bad but we waited until after marriage. He sucks at giving massages too. I get a lot of paid massages but it's not the same. He also has a really bad temper sometimes. I wish I could go back and tell my 26 year old self that being compatible sexually is important. I was so native and stupid.

I would bet that any guy who is okay with waiting until after marriage to have sex has a reason. Like he knows he's lousy in bed, or he's inhibited to the point of no return, or whatever. Huge red flag to me, I would not recommend to any young person that they wait until marriage. Very important to find out if you are sexually compatible and hopefully also find out if your partner has some kind of weird quirks or attitudes about sex.

It could be a religious thing. Isn't Tim Tebow openly a 30 year old virgin?

[Anonymous]

Are you being sarcastic, PP? Tim sets off a lot of peoples' gaydar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My fiance was super miserly and I just accepted it as one of his quirks. Till he yelled at his mother and me because we picked too expensive cuts of meat to serve at his birthday dinner. Literally, at the table, he started screaming at us and how we wasted so much money on beef and that we are both irresponsible. I took my ring off, sat it on the table, said "you will not speak to me that way". Then I got up and walked out, never looked back.

Good for you for walking out! You dodged a bullet.

+1. Brave and wise of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The sex is really bad but we waited until after marriage. He sucks at giving massages too. I get a lot of paid massages but it's not the same. He also has a really bad temper sometimes. I wish I could go back and tell my 26 year old self that being compatible sexually is important. I was so native and stupid.

I would bet that any guy who is okay with waiting until after marriage to have sex has a reason. Like he knows he's lousy in bed, or he's inhibited to the point of no return, or whatever. Huge red flag to me, I would not recommend to any young person that they wait until marriage. Very important to find out if you are sexually compatible and hopefully also find out if your partner has some kind of weird quirks or attitudes about sex.

Was just rewatching SATC and reminds me of Charlotte finding out Trey couldn't get it up hours before her wedding.