He runs with her 5-6 days a week.

[Anonymous]

Start running with him.

[Anonymous]

You don't have to be a runner to understand not to say 'hello gorgeous' to somebody else's spouse. OP, this is not about your family history, except it is making you doubt yourself.

Other people can go ahead and talk that way and the rest of us can feel just as free to dislike it and have an objection to it.

If it was me, I'd take up running and have my DH as my running buddy.

[Anonymous]

What's your determination, OP? Would love an update

[Anonymous]

I'd never text hello gorgeous to another woman's husban, much less a work colleague. OP, would you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's ok. He's a committed father, loving husband, leaves his phone around and is willing to talk about it. If any of that changes, then maybe I'd get worried.

This seems to be the minority opinion, but, I agree. He doesn't seem to be cagey about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Start running with him.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's ok. He's a committed father, loving husband, leaves his phone around and is willing to talk about it. If any of that changes, then maybe I'd get worried.

This seems to be the minority opinion, but, I agree. He doesn't seem to be cagey about it.

That's the ultimate tool of a cheater. No sneaking around. My stepdad brought his AP around my mom plenty. They, too, were work colleagues (and, incidentally, he took up "running" as a means to meet her).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's ok. He's a committed father, loving husband, leaves his phone around and is willing to talk about it. If any of that changes, then maybe I'd get worried.

This seems to be the minority opinion, but, I agree. He doesn't seem to be cagey about it.

That's the ultimate tool of a cheater. No sneaking around. My stepdad brought his AP around my mom plenty. They, too, were work colleagues (and, incidentally, he took up "running" as a means to meet her).

Interesting...how did you learn of your stepdad's affair then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's ok. He's a committed father, loving husband, leaves his phone around and is willing to talk about it. If any of that changes, then maybe I'd get worried.

This seems to be the minority opinion, but, I agree. He doesn't seem to be cagey about it.

That's the ultimate tool of a cheater. No sneaking around. My stepdad brought his AP around my mom plenty. They, too, were work colleagues (and, incidentally, he took up "running" as a means to meet her).

Interesting...how did you learn of your stepdad's affair then?

It started with small hints, mostly from my much-younger brother (preschooler) talking about her and her son. (Klassy, right? They would get the little kids together so they could f***.) Also, when my mom was on a business trip I'd gone to Dupont Circle and was late getting back (got home at ten). I thought I'd be in big trouble but my stepdad was cool as a cucumber, in no small part because he had AP over for a cocktail with him.

[Anonymous]

Hard no, OP. I'm not the jealous, insecure type at all. My DH and I have been married 30 years. It's less about what your DH's intentions are and all about the situation. People who have been married for a long time understand that everyone feels temptation at some point. You protect your marriage by avoiding situations that could lead to an affair. There is nothing wrong with a guy having a female running buddy. Running 5 days a week together? Red flag. Inappropriate texts? Another red flag. I would be honest. Tell your DH you are uncomfortable. And remember, your intuition is rarely wrong. That's thousands and thousands of years of instinct that you are tapping into. You should always pay attention to that gut feeling.

[Anonymous]

I think OP is an insecure person.

I think OP is jealous because someone else has something in common with her husband and she wishes she had an activity she could share with him, but doesn’t.

OP’s husband has done absolutely nothing—zip, zilch, nada, NOT ONE THING—that indicates infidelity or even disinterest in OP. So, go ahead, OP. Take advice from all the bitter, controlling nut jobs on this board. Start making accusations. Start controlling who he can be friends with. See how wonderful that works for your marriage. Go ahead! Report back please.

[Anonymous]

Talk to the guy who only shows up 20%. He KNOWS what's going on. Seriously, you are not asking your DH to quit running. You are asking him to quit running with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has a female friend at work who he talks to often, has lunch with often, etc. She's much younger, and is beautiful. I have no problem with it.

But if I ever saw a text from her that called him gorgeous, I would flip my s**t.

Probably nothing is happening, but she definitely wants HIM to want HER. And he probably likes the attention.

Agree. I wouldn't necessarily ask my DH to stop running with her but I would ask him to set up some boundaries with her. He needs to make it clear to her he's not interested. If there's nothing going on, he shouldn't have a problem telling her to cut it with the "hey gorgeous" sh*t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Start running with him.

+1

+2

[Anonymous]

I would ask him to find another running partner. This frequency with one person is not okay. I would also say this makes me uncomfortable. I am not the jealous type at all.