Middle school dating- 14 year olds

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not allow my kids to date in jr. high/middle school. High school freshman? Maybe in groups.

How would you stop it?

All girl's school. Done.

I went to an all girls high school. Boys used to come by the school at the end of the school day. They'd cut their school and come out during our lunch hour. We'd hop the fence in the back yard and go walk out into the nature preserve. It was a day school and boarding school. For the girls who lived there, they'd have mall nights during the week and on weekends, and just arrange to meet boys at the mall.

There are ALWAYS ways.

[Anonymous]

Op, group dates are fine, allowing her to date is fine. But dates at this age should be parent supervised. For example, if they want to go on a date to the mall, drop them there and back or have an uber drop them. You know your daughter best but giving her birth control is premature and may make her think that you are promoting sex.

[Anonymous]

All of you who are in favor of early dating are leaving your 13-14 vulnerable to sexual harassment, sexual assault and being accused of rape.

Stakes are too high for wanting to be the cool parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of you who are in favor of early dating are leaving your 13-14 vulnerable to sexual harassment, sexual assault and being accused of rape.

Stakes are too high for wanting to be the cool parent.

I guess you haven't been reading the posts on this thread about what "dating" in middle school consists of?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Were none of you dating and having sex at that age? Most of the people I knew were.

Why s everyone sticking their heads in the sand about this?

In 8th grade? No, I was not having sex. At 14 in 9th grade? No, I was not having sex. In 10th grade I was flirting with boys and then the summer between 10th and 11th grades, I had my first boyfriend. When I was in 9th grade a list went around of the half dozen or so girls who were alleged to be having sex. They were the dirtbags of the school.

My DD is 14 and there's no rush. As long as she dates before she graduates from high school so she gets some experience being in a relationship before she goes off to college where she doesn't have the backup of parents, I'll be satisfied.

I had boyfriends when I was 14. There was kissing and even some other bases! This was true of everyone I knew at that age. And I was no dirtbag...I didn't actually lose my virginity until I was 20, for christ's sake.

I can't believe this isn't normal to more people here.

[Anonymous]

People on here are crazy! I'd much rather my kids have developmentally appropriate friendships/romantic interests at this age than have a huge heartbreak Junior year of high school. And no, I will not be having conversations about "domestic violence" before any of them goes on their first date. That's obviously a conversation to be had along the way but it's not going to be all fear tactics over here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not allow my kids to date in jr. high/middle school. High school freshman? Maybe in groups.

How would you stop it?

I talk with my kids. They know my rules and they follow them. Plus, they are surrounded by adults in our community who all know them and know me. Grandparents, teachers, principals, other kids' parents, etc. But mostly, we are a very warm and close family. My kids are very concerned with disappointing me. Maybe when they hit high school that'll change, but right now in middle school? No.