Caught with alcohol in dorm

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son had a similar incident. He was very drunk in the dorm. He fell down and hit his head. Campus security and paramedics came when police came. He was resistant to their care. He was belligerent. He ended up in ER.

His consequences have been severe. He was not allowed back into his dorm. They did agree to let him move to a different dorm but he doesn't want that so he is living back home. He had to give apologies to staff involved. He had to attend alcohol counselling.

He also has been told that he is banned from campus pubs permanently. This didn't happen in a campus pub. He is 18 and the legal age of drinking here where we live is 19. They also said he cannot ever have a drink on campus. Am i wrong in thinking these consequences are too harsh? These consequences will last 4 years. We are thinking of appealing this on principle.

This seems insanely harsh....I would absolutely appeal. These consequences will impact your child's entire college experience.

Belligerent and injured to the point of needing ER care? Yes the consequences should impact his whole experience because he clearly can't control himself. The dorm staff proabably didnt want him back after his behavior and they should not be required to deal with him. Of course campus will ban him from drinking there even when he becomes legal - they don't want liability for him because he has demonstrated a lack of control coupled with anger. Sounds to me like the punishment fits the crime and you want your son to get off easy.

I hope next time (because there will be a next time) you get to pick him up from the ER again and not the morgue.

[Anonymous]

My husband is a campus police officer with a large university. Sworn and armed like all police officers. Most kids caught like OP son with alcohol in the room is because they do something else stupid like display stolen street signs in the window that attracts police attention or call to complain about their roommate and when the officer comes, they see the fun bottle collection lining the walls.

[Anonymous]

One month into school and formally busted for boozing in a dorm? Safe assumption she's whoring around, just bombed all of her mid-terms and is on her way to failing out.

[Anonymous]

Definitely don’t diss the cop. My DD was arrested, booked & in (real) jail overnight until we could post her bail -cash only. She jaywalked while the police officer was directing traffic after a big college basketball game. Yes I’m sure alcohol was involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son had a similar incident. He was very drunk in the dorm. He fell down and hit his head. Campus security and paramedics came when police came. He was resistant to their care. He was belligerent. He ended up in ER.

His consequences have been severe. He was not allowed back into his dorm. They did agree to let him move to a different dorm but he doesn't want that so he is living back home. He had to give apologies to staff involved. He had to attend alcohol counselling.

He also has been told that he is banned from campus pubs permanently. This didn't happen in a campus pub. He is 18 and the legal age of drinking here where we live is 19. They also said he cannot ever have a drink on campus. Am i wrong in thinking these consequences are too harsh? These consequences will last 4 years. We are thinking of appealing this on principle.

This seems insanely harsh....I would absolutely appeal. These consequences will impact your child's entire college experience.

Belligerent and injured to the point of needing ER care? Yes the consequences should impact his whole experience because he clearly can't control himself. The dorm staff proabably didnt want him back after his behavior and they should not be required to deal with him. Of course campus will ban him from drinking there even when he becomes legal - they don't want liability for him because he has demonstrated a lack of control coupled with anger. Sounds to me like the punishment fits the crime and you want your son to get off easy.

I hope next time (because there will be a next time) you get to pick him up from the ER again and not the morgue.

Yes he needed to be assessed for a concussion after he hit his head.
We don't want him to get off easy, that's why we had him move home and not live on campus anymore. We were not going to allow him back. There is nothing about getting off easy here.
He did act like an idiot. But I don't think the punishment should go on for four years. Everyone matures a lot from 18-22.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One month into school and formally busted for boozing in a dorm? Safe assumption she's whoring around, just bombed all of her mid-terms and is on her way to failing out.

Who cares if she is whoring around? College is the time to do it. I wish I did more of that!

[Anonymous]

Man have times changed. When we would get caught with alcohol in the dorms in the late 90s, we had to give over some of the alcohol as a bribe to keep quiet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son had a similar incident. He was very drunk in the dorm. He fell down and hit his head. Campus security and paramedics came when police came. He was resistant to their care. He was belligerent. He ended up in ER.

His consequences have been severe. He was not allowed back into his dorm. They did agree to let him move to a different dorm but he doesn't want that so he is living back home. He had to give apologies to staff involved. He had to attend alcohol counselling.

He also has been told that he is banned from campus pubs permanently. This didn't happen in a campus pub. He is 18 and the legal age of drinking here where we live is 19. They also said he cannot ever have a drink on campus. Am i wrong in thinking these consequences are too harsh? These consequences will last 4 years. We are thinking of appealing this on principle.

This seems insanely harsh....I would absolutely appeal. These consequences will impact your child's entire college experience.

Belligerent and injured to the point of needing ER care? Yes the consequences should impact his whole experience because he clearly can't control himself. The dorm staff proabably didnt want him back after his behavior and they should not be required to deal with him. Of course campus will ban him from drinking there even when he becomes legal - they don't want liability for him because he has demonstrated a lack of control coupled with anger. Sounds to me like the punishment fits the crime and you want your son to get off easy.

I hope next time (because there will be a next time) you get to pick him up from the ER again and not the morgue.

I think you're being a bit melodramatic. Think back to when you were in college.....plenty of people had a bad night here or there. One bad night isn't indicative of some underlying anger issue. Lighten up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son had a similar incident. He was very drunk in the dorm. He fell down and hit his head. Campus security and paramedics came when police came. He was resistant to their care. He was belligerent. He ended up in ER.

His consequences have been severe. He was not allowed back into his dorm. They did agree to let him move to a different dorm but he doesn't want that so he is living back home. He had to give apologies to staff involved. He had to attend alcohol counselling.

He also has been told that he is banned from campus pubs permanently. This didn't happen in a campus pub. He is 18 and the legal age of drinking here where we live is 19. They also said he cannot ever have a drink on campus. Am i wrong in thinking these consequences are too harsh? These consequences will last 4 years. We are thinking of appealing this on principle.

This seems insanely harsh....I would absolutely appeal. These consequences will impact your child's entire college experience.

Belligerent and injured to the point of needing ER care? Yes the consequences should impact his whole experience because he clearly can't control himself. The dorm staff proabably didnt want him back after his behavior and they should not be required to deal with him. Of course campus will ban him from drinking there even when he becomes legal - they don't want liability for him because he has demonstrated a lack of control coupled with anger. Sounds to me like the punishment fits the crime and you want your son to get off easy.

I hope next time (because there will be a next time) you get to pick him up from the ER again and not the morgue.

You sound like a lunatic. How old are your kids? Did you go to college?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son had a similar incident. He was very drunk in the dorm. He fell down and hit his head. Campus security and paramedics came when police came. He was resistant to their care. He was belligerent. He ended up in ER.

His consequences have been severe. He was not allowed back into his dorm. They did agree to let him move to a different dorm but he doesn't want that so he is living back home. He had to give apologies to staff involved. He had to attend alcohol counselling.

He also has been told that he is banned from campus pubs permanently. This didn't happen in a campus pub. He is 18 and the legal age of drinking here where we live is 19. They also said he cannot ever have a drink on campus. Am i wrong in thinking these consequences are too harsh? These consequences will last 4 years. We are thinking of appealing this on principle.

This seems insanely harsh....I would absolutely appeal. These consequences will impact your child's entire college experience.

Belligerent and injured to the point of needing ER care? Yes the consequences should impact his whole experience because he clearly can't control himself. The dorm staff proabably didnt want him back after his behavior and they should not be required to deal with him. Of course campus will ban him from drinking there even when he becomes legal - they don't want liability for him because he has demonstrated a lack of control coupled with anger. Sounds to me like the punishment fits the crime and you want your son to get off easy.

I hope next time (because there will be a next time) you get to pick him up from the ER again and not the morgue.

You sound like a lunatic. How old are your kids? Did you go to college?

lol.....+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son had a similar incident. He was very drunk in the dorm. He fell down and hit his head. Campus security and paramedics came when police came. He was resistant to their care. He was belligerent. He ended up in ER.

His consequences have been severe. He was not allowed back into his dorm. They did agree to let him move to a different dorm but he doesn't want that so he is living back home. He had to give apologies to staff involved. He had to attend alcohol counselling.

He also has been told that he is banned from campus pubs permanently. This didn't happen in a campus pub. He is 18 and the legal age of drinking here where we live is 19. They also said he cannot ever have a drink on campus. Am i wrong in thinking these consequences are too harsh? These consequences will last 4 years. We are thinking of appealing this on principle.

This seems insanely harsh....I would absolutely appeal. These consequences will impact your child's entire college experience.

Belligerent and injured to the point of needing ER care? Yes the consequences should impact his whole experience because he clearly can't control himself. The dorm staff proabably didnt want him back after his behavior and they should not be required to deal with him. Of course campus will ban him from drinking there even when he becomes legal - they don't want liability for him because he has demonstrated a lack of control coupled with anger. Sounds to me like the punishment fits the crime and you want your son to get off easy.

I hope next time (because there will be a next time) you get to pick him up from the ER again and not the morgue.

You sound like a lunatic. How old are your kids? Did you go to college?

lol.....+1000

A freshman at my son's college died of alcohol poisoning about a week ago.

[Anonymous]

Crazy stories of Va kids getting in a ridiculous amount of trouble. My 2 just finished college and I can tell you I thought about this. Out of state made a lot more sense. I sure slept better at night.

[Anonymous]

My husband is a campus police officer with a large university. Sworn and armed like all police officers. Most kids caught like OP son with alcohol in the room is because they do something else stupid like display stolen street signs in the window that attracts police attention or call to complain about their roommate and when the officer comes, they see the fun bottle collection lining the walls

But it's NOT Virginia, is it?
We're talking about Virginia being particularly rough

[Anonymous]

Sending your kids to college in Virginia - - you have been warned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In Virginia, has anyone had recent experience with this? Police were called and kid received citation.
Do they automatically lose driver's license for a period of time?
Consequences at school too.
My level of disappointment is indescribable.

I certainly hope so

Why? Much better than driving somewhere to drink.