Anonymous wrote:Those of you who say you wouldn't have married if you were your husband's second choice sound very young and simple in your thinking. She may have been his second choice at one moment in time when they had just met and he already had history and unfinished business with someone else. It sounds like he later chose her first when he proposed and continues to choose her first every day that he stays committed.
How many of you were hoping to conceive a boy and got a girl, or vice versa. Did that diminish your joy when you actually got to hold the baby you actually delivered? He or she was your second choice, after all.
How many of you have ever wavered about putting in an offer on a house, then lost the bid and kicked yourself for missing out on that great opportunity, only to find a house later that was a better fit in every way? It was your second choice, but you quickly realized it was perfect.
My point is just that people make choices at different times, and not necessarily at the first opportunity. What matters is that we make them eventually and then feel good about it.
This is great to consider, pp. I still wouldn't give a flaky man a second -or third- chance. My husband is decisive and he knew what he wanted (me) and he went for it. If he ran off to work things out with an ex, he would have been dead to me. I deserve respect and I insist on it.
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