If you went out on a limb to get someone hired...

[Anonymous]

Agree with pp's. Both op and the dh are overly invested in this. Asking someone to "put in a good word" does not translate into an obligation to take take any job offered. I'm not going to disagree that the kid may be missing out on a good opportunity, but crap happens.

[Anonymous]

I'm not seeing "the limb" that was gone out on here.

[Anonymous]

Just like a job seeker shouldn't put all their eggs in one basket, a company shouldn't put all their eggs in one candidate either.

Did they hault all other interviews while pursuing this kid? My company wouldn't do that because we can't risk it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh my god, can we talk about the real issue here? OP, why are you posting here when it's your husband's problem? I presume he's an adult who can type well enough to ask the interwebs a question...

If that were the criteria for this section of this site then there would be almost no posts. Almost every thread has some wife chiming in with "my DH says...".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not seeing "the limb" that was gone out on here.

Yeah, just saying, "hey, be on the lookout for this kid's resume" to a recruiter is networking 101.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, it's almost always a bad idea to stick your neck out for someone I have found. People are unreliable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not seeing "the limb" that was gone out on here.

Yeah, just saying, "hey, be on the lookout for this kid's resume" to a recruiter is networking 101.

+1

[Anonymous]

Putting a good word in for someone is not "sticking your neck out." Is your DH going to get fired if the kid turns down the offer? No.

So the kid is burning a bridge with one contact in the industry. That's his choice and a part of his career path now. Nothing your DH can or should do about it.

[Anonymous]

I find it hard to sympathize with OP's hyperbolic description of all the time wasted by the executives and recruiters.

Countless job seekers on a daily basis take PTO from work to go and interview at different companies (often times going through multiples rounds/days of interviews) and don't ultimately get the job. Yes, the job seekers time was wasted, but that's the transactional cost of the hiring process. I don't see companies going out of their way to apologize (let alone reimburse) for all of the time wasted by applicants who are interviewing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Need more info here. Did the guy approach your husband and persist? Did he mention he'd like help? Did your DH just offer?

I don't think this kid is under any kind of obligation to take this job. He owes it to himself to do multiple interviews, and to take the best job for him. Perhaps he found out in this process that he was a better candidate than he thought.

It kind of sounds like your DH really wanted to help and pushed the recruiter. He shouldn't have done that unless the kid really begged, and no one should do that if the applicant is not qualified (which it seems he's not).

I should clarify. The kid found out they were hiring and asked my husband if he could put in a good word for him. He did, to the recruiter. He told him to look out for X's resume. The recruiter told him he'd do him one better and find it and start the process.

I don't know why your husband is so upset. I do this for lots of people, and that's where my obligation ends. Some people get hired, some people don't, but after I put in a word, I'm out of it.

+1. I do this for people at my job, and I don't think it means they have to take the job if it's offered. I only do it if I believe they're a good fit, so I see it as a service to my employer as well as the candidate. Although one judge I worked for would not call anyone on my behalf unless I told him I would take the job if they offered it to me (which I thought was fair).

[Anonymous]

That wife of the kid is trouble. She'll cause another issue at some point. Which is worse, her saying he could do better or the guy telling the employer? I'm guessing the candidate doesn't have much in the hopper and will have to come back looking for the discarded gig.