Bad hosts

[Anonymous]

I bet they assumed there would be leftover pizza. Only once at a party, all the pizza and cake was eaten. At all other parties, there were always leftovers.

Plus they assumed properly that the kids would eat when the pizza was offered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your kids were hungry at her house, why did you have to ask her to get them something or if she could order delivery? Could you not have googled and ordered something yourself? This is family - no need to be helpless. She probably just didn't think of it because pizza was served at the party.

I asked if there was a place I could order from or a store i could run to - I don't know their area well and also didn't know if she did have a plan for dinner that just hadn't materialized. And again, her kids were the first to say they were hungry!

Did you ever figure out where she went to get food, why it took her so long to get it and why it was cold by the time she brought it home?

She bought refrigerated and frozen food from a grocery, meatballs, a chicken dish, vegetables and salad. All perfectly nice food.

Was the store fairly far away?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your kids were hungry at her house, why did you have to ask her to get them something or if she could order delivery? Could you not have googled and ordered something yourself? This is family - no need to be helpless. She probably just didn't think of it because pizza was served at the party.

I asked if there was a place I could order from or a store i could run to - I don't know their area well and also didn't know if she did have a plan for dinner that just hadn't materialized. And again, her kids were the first to say they were hungry!

Did you ever figure out where she went to get food, why it took her so long to get it and why it was cold by the time she brought it home?

She bought refrigerated and frozen food from a grocery, meatballs, a chicken dish, vegetables and salad. All perfectly nice food.

Was the store fairly far away?

I have no idea. They live near a bunch of shops but I don't know which one she went to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your kids were hungry at her house, why did you have to ask her to get them something or if she could order delivery? Could you not have googled and ordered something yourself? This is family - no need to be helpless. She probably just didn't think of it because pizza was served at the party.

I asked if there was a place I could order from or a store i could run to - I don't know their area well and also didn't know if she did have a plan for dinner that just hadn't materialized. And again, her kids were the first to say they were hungry!

Did you ever figure out where she went to get food, why it took her so long to get it and why it was cold by the time she brought it home?

She bought refrigerated and frozen food from a grocery, meatballs, a chicken dish, vegetables and salad. All perfectly nice food.

Was the store fairly far away?

I have no idea. They live near a bunch of shops but I don't know which one she went to.

Maybe google where her nearest shopping center is. If she drove 15 minutes there, spent 15 minutes shopping and then drove 15 minutes back, it would be easy for her to have been gone 45+ minutes even if she was getting the food as fast as she could.

Bottom line is, she did get you a nice meal. I would let this go and next time have more packages of snacks in my purse or simply hit the drive thru or stop at a gas station on the way to her house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your kids were hungry at her house, why did you have to ask her to get them something or if she could order delivery? Could you not have googled and ordered something yourself? This is family - no need to be helpless. She probably just didn't think of it because pizza was served at the party.

I asked if there was a place I could order from or a store i could run to - I don't know their area well and also didn't know if she did have a plan for dinner that just hadn't materialized. And again, her kids were the first to say they were hungry!

Did you ever figure out where she went to get food, why it took her so long to get it and why it was cold by the time she brought it home?

She bought refrigerated and frozen food from a grocery, meatballs, a chicken dish, vegetables and salad. All perfectly nice food.

Was the store fairly far away?

I have no idea. They live near a bunch of shops but I don't know which one she went to.

Maybe google where her nearest shopping center is. If she drove 15 minutes there, spent 15 minutes shopping and then drove 15 minutes back, it would be easy for her to have been gone 45+ minutes even if she was getting the food as fast as she could.

Bottom line is, she did get you a nice meal. I would let this go and next time have more packages of snacks in my purse or simply hit the drive thru or stop at a gas station on the way to her house.

If I had a house full of hungry kids I would go to the nearest shop and buy something ready to eat. That's just lacking in common sense. Np.

[Anonymous]

How old are these kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your kids were hungry at her house, why did you have to ask her to get them something or if she could order delivery? Could you not have googled and ordered something yourself? This is family - no need to be helpless. She probably just didn't think of it because pizza was served at the party.

I asked if there was a place I could order from or a store i could run to - I don't know their area well and also didn't know if she did have a plan for dinner that just hadn't materialized. And again, her kids were the first to say they were hungry!

Did you ever figure out where she went to get food, why it took her so long to get it and why it was cold by the time she brought it home?

She bought refrigerated and frozen food from a grocery, meatballs, a chicken dish, vegetables and salad. All perfectly nice food.

Was the store fairly far away?

I have no idea. They live near a bunch of shops but I don't know which one she went to.

Maybe google where her nearest shopping center is. If she drove 15 minutes there, spent 15 minutes shopping and then drove 15 minutes back, it would be easy for her to have been gone 45+ minutes even if she was getting the food as fast as she could.

Bottom line is, she did get you a nice meal. I would let this go and next time have more packages of snacks in my purse or simply hit the drive thru or stop at a gas station on the way to her house.

If I had a house full of hungry kids I would go to the nearest shop and buy something ready to eat. That's just lacking in common sense. Np.

Lol, me too. Hot dogs and popcorn from the service station market - coming up!

[Anonymous]

OP, you needed to use your words and take responsibility for your own family.

"We'll see you back at the house. The kids didn't eat much, so they will be hungry--can I pick anything up on my way there?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are these kids?

Mine are 2, 4 & 6. Hers are 6 & 9.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you needed to use your words and take responsibility for your own family.

"We'll see you back at the house. The kids didn't eat much, so they will be hungry--can I pick anything up on my way there?"

Sure in 20/20. At the time she had no idea that nothing would be offered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op - id give them the benefit of the doubt except the party was at a playspace where everything was organized by the venue. Yes plus, they invited us over in advance, and presumably knew that there wouldn't be food for adults at the party so what were they planning to eat? It's just weird.

Come on, dude! Even if it's organized by the venue, it still takes mental energy and focus to make sure everything goes smoothly, everyone is doing ok, the parent who knows no one is introduced around, etc. If you really wanted to give them the benefit of the doubt, you would! You asked if you were wrong in thinking it was "really bad form..." and my opinion is yes, you are wrong in thinking that. They should've had food but it's not "really bad form." You shouldn't have asked if you didn't want to know! I'm guessing you don't much care for your SIL.

My SIL tends to be thoughtless and self-centered but today took it to a new level. I was the parent who knew no one and wasn't introduced to anyone, and the party was run by the staff at the location. Sure it takes some planning on her part but inviting someone to your home should as well. Dh wasn't there today and I just told him what happened and he was appalled that they did that, and he quite often takes her side on things (he grew up being the peacemaker in his family), and said I should've left and brought the kids home stopping for food on the way. The reasons I didn't were A they'd been in the car for over 2 hours already and they wanted to play with their cousins. He got that and is really annoyed at his sister.

Oh well... I won't be going there again without a plan for eating decent meals at normal times.

Really he was appalled! I'm so thankful for my family and that my brothers did not marry drama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If SIL isn't back in 5 minutes - permission to raid her pantry and fridge.

Lol - I sort of did when my 2yo opened the fridge, saw some watermelon inside and started asking for it. Aside from that, leftover cupcakes and condiments there was almost nothing in the fridge.

She came back about 45 mins later with food that I then heated and served, which was slightly awkward but if I hadn't it would've been who knows when when the kids finally ate. We left @8:30, well after bedtime for my little ones, but fortunately with a decent meal in their bellies

The horror!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you needed to use your words and take responsibility for your own family.

"We'll see you back at the house. The kids didn't eat much, so they will be hungry--can I pick anything up on my way there?"

I ALWAYS ask hosts if I can stop to get them anything. And I wouldn't show up empty-handed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We eat dinner at 5pm (my kids are hungry after school and go to bed on the early side) so mine would have eaten the pizza greatfully.

Mine would have eaten it gratefully.

[Anonymous]

Your dinner was served at 4:45. It was pizza. I don't expect "guests I invited over to my house" to require a second meal less than an hour after the first was served. If your kids weren't hungry then, too bad. She is not a short order cook.