Bad hosts

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Anonymous wrote:Um, the food was served at the party. Eat, go hungry, or be prepared to get your own food. The host did provide dinner. It was pizza.

Did you not see that the pizza was only served to the kids and that the party was from 3:30-5? If you invite someone to your home at 5pm or after you should definitely offer some food.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your hosts did offer food at dinnertime. Your kids didn't eat it.

I'm not sure why you expected another dinner to be provided.

+1 it's your kids' fault they didn't eat at the party

and maybe they assumed you would eat before you got there? That part isn't clear whether they invited you over to eat a meal.

Np - a birthday party from 3:30-5 is a weird time to eat. Inviting people over at 5:30 is equal to inviting them for food if some sort. Op posted that it wasn't just her kids who were hungry.

eh, if I had just fed you pizza at 4:45, why on earth would I think to feed you, yet again, at 5:30.

Your kids should have eaten at the party. And if they aren't big pizza eaters you should have put some packages of snacks in your purse to tide them over. Your sister is not helping matters by taking so long to return from the store/take out/wherever she went to get food.

Heir own kids didn't eat at the party! They were the first to say they were hungry. I did have snacks though many had been consumed during our drive there which was twice as long as normal thanks to traffic. And they didn't feed me and by the time I mentioned getting something for dinner it was about 6:30.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your hosts did offer food at dinnertime. Your kids didn't eat it.

I'm not sure why you expected another dinner to be provided.

+1 it's your kids' fault they didn't eat at the party

and maybe they assumed you would eat before you got there? That part isn't clear whether they invited you over to eat a meal.

Np - a birthday party from 3:30-5 is a weird time to eat. Inviting people over at 5:30 is equal to inviting them for food if some sort. Op posted that it wasn't just her kids who were hungry.

eh, if I had just fed you pizza at 4:45, why on earth would I think to feed you, yet again, at 5:30.

Your kids should have eaten at the party. And if they aren't big pizza eaters you should have put some packages of snacks in your purse to tide them over. Your sister is not helping matters by taking so long to return from the store/take out/wherever she went to get food.

Heir own kids didn't eat at the party! They were the first to say they were hungry. I did have snacks though many had been consumed during our drive there which was twice as long as normal thanks to traffic. And they didn't feed me and by the time I mentioned getting something for dinner it was about 6:30.

They have no PB&J, no crackers, no food at all at their house? That seems really unlikely. I can absolutely see how you might not be prepared to serve a meal right after you just got back from a kiddie party that you planned and prepared for.

What did your SIL go to get? Hope/cross fingers that your kids like whatever it is that she brings back...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Um, the food was served at the party. Eat, go hungry, or be prepared to get your own food. The host did provide dinner. It was pizza.

Did you not see that the pizza was only served to the kids and that the party was from 3:30-5? If you invite someone to your home at 5pm or after you should definitely offer some food.

If OP's kids are really that hungry, leave and get them food. Problem solved!

[Anonymous]

If SIL isn't back in 5 minutes - permission to raid her pantry and fridge.

[Anonymous]

We might have the same SIL.

[Anonymous]

This is an interesting foil to the "family birthday party" thread - in that one people are skewering the op for not offering anything in addition to cake. In this one they're blaming op for her young kids not eating pizza at weird times or not preparing enough snacks.

Y'all are weird.

[Anonymous]

Well it's obvious OP doesn't like her in-laws much, and she is building a dossier of things to hold against them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is an interesting foil to the "family birthday party" thread - in that one people are skewering the op for not offering anything in addition to cake. In this one they're blaming op for her young kids not eating pizza at weird times or not preparing enough snacks.

Y'all are weird.

There's a huge difference between ice cream and a birthday cake (i.e. junk that nobody could consider a meal) and PIZZA, which almost everyone would consider a meal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is an interesting foil to the "family birthday party" thread - in that one people are skewering the op for not offering anything in addition to cake. In this one they're blaming op for her young kids not eating pizza at weird times or not preparing enough snacks.

Y'all are weird.

There's a huge difference between ice cream and a birthday cake (i.e. junk that nobody could consider a meal) and PIZZA, which almost everyone would consider a meal.

Op - I don't think a single slice of pizza served before 5pm constitutes a meal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If SIL isn't back in 5 minutes - permission to raid her pantry and fridge.

Lol - I sort of did when my 2yo opened the fridge, saw some watermelon inside and started asking for it. Aside from that, leftover cupcakes and condiments there was almost nothing in the fridge.

She came back about 45 mins later with food that I then heated and served, which was slightly awkward but if I hadn't it would've been who knows when when the kids finally ate. We left @8:30, well after bedtime for my little ones, but fortunately with a decent meal in their bellies

[Anonymous]

Well now you know that from here on out you'll need to hit the drive thru on your way to SIL's house, lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op - id give them the benefit of the doubt except the party was at a playspace where everything was organized by the venue. Yes plus, they invited us over in advance, and presumably knew that there wouldn't be food for adults at the party so what were they planning to eat? It's just weird.

Come on, dude! Even if it's organized by the venue, it still takes mental energy and focus to make sure everything goes smoothly, everyone is doing ok, the parent who knows no one is introduced around, etc. If you really wanted to give them the benefit of the doubt, you would! You asked if you were wrong in thinking it was "really bad form..." and my opinion is yes, you are wrong in thinking that. They should've had food but it's not "really bad form." You shouldn't have asked if you didn't want to know! I'm guessing you don't much care for your SIL.

[Anonymous]

More important question: are they serving alcohol in a meantime?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op - id give them the benefit of the doubt except the party was at a playspace where everything was organized by the venue. Yes plus, they invited us over in advance, and presumably knew that there wouldn't be food for adults at the party so what were they planning to eat? It's just weird.

Come on, dude! Even if it's organized by the venue, it still takes mental energy and focus to make sure everything goes smoothly, everyone is doing ok, the parent who knows no one is introduced around, etc. If you really wanted to give them the benefit of the doubt, you would! You asked if you were wrong in thinking it was "really bad form..." and my opinion is yes, you are wrong in thinking that. They should've had food but it's not "really bad form." You shouldn't have asked if you didn't want to know! I'm guessing you don't much care for your SIL.

My SIL tends to be thoughtless and self-centered but today took it to a new level. I was the parent who knew no one and wasn't introduced to anyone, and the party was run by the staff at the location. Sure it takes some planning on her part but inviting someone to your home should as well. Dh wasn't there today and I just told him what happened and he was appalled that they did that, and he quite often takes her side on things (he grew up being the peacemaker in his family), and said I should've left and brought the kids home stopping for food on the way. The reasons I didn't were A they'd been in the car for over 2 hours already and they wanted to play with their cousins. He got that and is really annoyed at his sister.

Oh well... I won't be going there again without a plan for eating decent meals at normal times.