Would you date a convicted felon?

[Anonymous]

No. I wouldn't even consider it.

[Anonymous]

If it was just the first felony, and many years had passed, and the person had obviously changed, maybe did some therapy, shown evidence of leading a responsible, disciplined life (decent career, finished college, etc.) I might consider it. But it's obviously a major red flag.

The second felony, 15 years later, is a deal-breaker. A DUI would be one thing, but fleeing the scene of an accident and assaulting a police officer is ridiculous -- especially for someone who is probably 40 years old at this point. It's hard to believe that this person has "changed."

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not, under any circumstances. I also wouldn't want to be in this person's company in any context - friend, neighbor, coworker, whatever.

[Anonymous]

In the abstract, I say no f'ing way. In reality, you know, I always find there are more variables than I'd imagined.

[Anonymous]

The first one could be mitigated by the 20 years in between then and now, what that person did in those 20 years to mitigate the underlying issues that led up to it.

The second one...shows a serious lack of judgment, which frequently happens when drunk - but more to OP's relationship - shows a serious lack of impulse control.

Run, don't walk

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it was just the first felony, and many years had passed, and the person had obviously changed, maybe did some therapy, shown evidence of leading a responsible, disciplined life (decent career, finished college, etc.) I might consider it. But it's obviously a major red flag.

The second felony, 15 years later, is a deal-breaker. A DUI would be one thing, but fleeing the scene of an accident and assaulting a police officer is ridiculous -- especially for someone who is probably 40 years old at this point. It's hard to believe that this person has "changed."

This!

[Anonymous]

Never. Convicted of a felony is deal breaker as is substance abuse and/or mental health issues. I'll rather be by myself than deal with issues like these.

[Anonymous]

Maybe if I lived on Wisteria Lane.

[Anonymous]

This thread again?

[Anonymous]

Nope. Both of those charges tell me that this person has bad judgment. I don't like dating people who have bad judgment. Some other woman might not care as much, so this guy will probably find someone else.

[Anonymous]

no way, I cant believe this is even a question. Both of those crimes are really bad and I would seriously question his values and maturity

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not, under any circumstances. I also wouldn't want to be in this person's company in any context - friend, neighbor, coworker, whatever.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The first one could be mitigated by the 20 years in between then and now, what that person did in those 20 years to mitigate the underlying issues that led up to it.

The second one...shows a serious lack of judgment, which frequently happens when drunk - but more to OP's relationship - shows a serious lack of impulse control.

Run, don't walk

+1 This, exactly. Young people make poor decisions, some get caught. I can almost get past a DWI, but not evading arrest. This guy can't own his behavior. Run, run, run!

[Anonymous]

Depends. Is she hot?