Would you date a convicted felon?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, for a violent crime like armed robbery definitely no. For a non-violent offense, say a white collar crime like securities fraud, insider trading or the like, I might say yes.

They are both thieves who helped themselves to another's property

Yes, but one uses a weapon in commission of that crime!

[Anonymous]

Why is this even a question? This has to be a troll.

[Anonymous]

You know, it depends on the crime. Non-violent crime where there was no real victim, sure. I am thinking of possession with intent to distribute. There may be some sex crimes....for example, 2 HS students dating, but on the wrong side of a boundary (rarely prosecuted, but does happen).

But Armed Robbery? No. No. No.
White collar crime? You ok with effing over grandma? No. In many ways that is worse, because presumably the person had enough to live on. Shows no ethics and willing to lie and cheat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, for a violent crime like armed robbery definitely no. For a non-violent offense, say a white collar crime like securities fraud, insider trading or the like, I might say yes.

White collar? Not a chance. Like someone else said, you're stealing from grandma. You have no conscience. Your conscience is only greed, deception, and selfishness. Those aren't traits I want in a partner. Furthermore, white collar crime is always an ongoing, conscious pattern of conduct. So you employ these awful personality traits Day in and day out. Your entire life is literally deception. No thanks.

[Anonymous]

you need to find a way to develop some self esteem instead of wasting time looking for advice to justify your insane idea

[Anonymous]

I suppose every rule has an exception, but generally no. and its hard to imagine what the exception would be here. if he really came to jesus, turned his life around, made amends, went back to school, got steady employment and was honest about it? still . . . I find it hard to imagine this not being a dealbreaker.

[Anonymous]

Is it this guy? In a heartbeat.

[Anonymous]

No. Use your head before your heart gets involved.

I think this person could be a perfectly nice and loving person. I have someone in my life who has a felony from 35 years ago, armed robbery when he was young. And I'd never knowingly date a felon because of how hard it makes life. Love is not enough to build a life together.

[Anonymous]

My sister dated a felon (financial crimes) and ended up dead. No joke. She was hugely lacking in self-esteem, especially with men, and could not resist the attention (manipulative attention), and then could not get out of the relationship when she began to recognize that he was fleecing her and abusive, and that she was in danger. Extreme example...but that is the risk.

[Anonymous]

Before I read it I thought, maybe depends on the situation. That situation, twice in jail?? Hell no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How the hell do you even meet someone like that? Upgrade your social circle.

Also, no, no, no, HELL NO.

To infinity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it this guy? In a heartbeat.

Me too.

That guy is hot.

Apparently he models now so no more need to hustle from the law.

[Anonymous]

Just reading the title, my answer was "probably not, but it depends on the circumstances". Like someone else said, maybe white collar crime 20 years ago, I *may* have been able to get over. But your example. Armed robbery and then a DWI with eluding police, etc? NOPE. NOPE. NOPE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the first one, if a victim of abject poverty at the time, without proper role models, and since then has turned life around and was doing something noble with his life.

But the second arrest years later? Hell no!!

+1 - my stepdad was a convicted felon as a 19 year old, he did his years in prison, got out early on good behavior and has been on the straight and narrow ever since. He's almost 50, one of the kindest people ever including raising me as one of his own kids.

Yeah - but this guy reoffended 15 years later in a bad way when he should have known better- so no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister dated a felon (financial crimes) and ended up dead. No joke. She was hugely lacking in self-esteem, especially with men, and could not resist the attention (manipulative attention), and then could not get out of the relationship when she began to recognize that he was fleecing her and abusive, and that she was in danger. Extreme example...but that is the risk.

There are too many women who say yes...
Sorry about your sister.