Help! My parents are arriving this weekend and DH just emailed me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That he lost his wedding ring. Can we get another ring before Saturday in either Bethesda or Silver Spring? And no, he's not having an affair.

How can you be so sure? Don't be so quick to dismiss.
His sub-conscience is obviously telling you something.
When someone shows you who they are, you'd better listen.

+1!

[Anonymous]

OP here. It's my mother. The woman is like Hedda Hopper on steroids. Seriously, she has a vicious mind and the tongue of a viper. I don't care what she thinks but I'd rather not deal with her thousand questions and her deposition on why my husband wasn't wearing his wedding ring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sure. For men it's really easy. Any jeweler will sell on the spot.

And for women? I am even more baffled by this post than by the OP's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It's my mother. The woman is like Hedda Hopper on steroids. Seriously, she has a vicious mind and the tongue of a viper. I don't care what she thinks but I'd rather not deal with her thousand questions and her deposition on why my husband wasn't wearing his wedding ring.

I get it, my mom is the same. Eventually you say, enough is enough. Get a backbone, OP. Seriously! Stand up to her. You'll feel wonderful. You are a grown adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It's my mother. The woman is like Hedda Hopper on steroids. Seriously, she has a vicious mind and the tongue of a viper. I don't care what she thinks but I'd rather not deal with her thousand questions and her deposition on why my husband wasn't wearing his wedding ring.

I get it, my mom is the same. Eventually you say, enough is enough. Get a backbone, OP. Seriously! Stand up to her. You'll feel wonderful. You are a grown adult.

I do stand up to her. It's simply more pleasant not to have the evening's topic of conversation be his ring finger.

[Anonymous]

"He's sleeping with three other women. A ring on his finger would be a farce. Now.. can we move on?"

[Anonymous]

You can get a ring on Amazon.

[Anonymous]

Is this actually going to be the main topic of conversation when your parents visit? Is it a family heirloom from your side or something? What will happen if he just says that he misplaced it?

[Anonymous]

I just realized I have no clue if my husband wears his ring or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can get a ring on Amazon.

+1 Don't waste your money just to pacify your crazy mother. You can get a ring for $10-20 on Amazon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It's my mother. The woman is like Hedda Hopper on steroids. Seriously, she has a vicious mind and the tongue of a viper. I don't care what she thinks but I'd rather not deal with her thousand questions and her deposition on why my husband wasn't wearing his wedding ring.

Send your dh to a jewelry store for a plain gold band. I got one when I was pregnant to fit my newly fat finger (still wearing it and my youngest is four!!).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That he lost his wedding ring. Can we get another ring before Saturday in either Bethesda or Silver Spring? And no, he's not having an affair.

How can you be so sure? Don't be so quick to dismiss.
His sub-conscience is obviously telling you something.
When someone shows you who they are, you'd better listen.

+1!

Typical DCUM reaction--don't take an OP at her word; assume she's deceiving herself because of course no one should be confident in a spouse's fidelity; and turn any topic, however small, into a potentially marriage-killing situation the poor OP is just too blind to see. Toss in some armchair faux psychology for good measure. Sit back feeling good you helped OP with her real problem.

Ignore these PPs who are projecting their own pasts or problems onto your situation, OP.

OP, isn't you mom going to notice and ask questions anyway if she realizes any new ring is not the one your DH has had previously? Or was his ring very plain and easily replaced with a look-alike? Either way I do agree with those who say not to get one. Point it out as soon as she walks in and act like it's funny then drop it. Every time she brings it up after that: "Mom, WE are fine with this. How about that episode of show X-- I was so surprised when..." Firm reminder followed by change of topic. EVERY time. If you scramble like this over her reaction lost ring, imagine the gymnastics you'll end up doing to avoid her questions and prying over bigger things in years to come. Now is a chance to start showing you and DH do not respond to her questions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FWIW, my husband doesn't wear his wedding ring because he's allergic to it apparently. He puts it on and develops an itchy red rash on his finger. It's actually a running, inside joke between us.

He doesn't wear wrist watches either for the same reason.

I guess people look at us when we're out and think "Look at that floozy married woman out with that single guy!" Lol.

It's opposite here-- DH wears his ring and I don't. The other night we were out at a bar and the waitress gave us the side eye and asked if we wanted our checks separate or together. DH and I just LOLd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It's my mother. The woman is like Hedda Hopper on steroids. Seriously, she has a vicious mind and the tongue of a viper. I don't care what she thinks but I'd rather not deal with her thousand questions and her deposition on why my husband wasn't wearing his wedding ring.

I get it, my mom is the same. Eventually you say, enough is enough. Get a backbone, OP. Seriously! Stand up to her. You'll feel wonderful. You are a grown adult.

I do stand up to her. It's simply more pleasant not to have the evening's topic of conversation be his ring finger.

So tell her to drop it and walk out of the room if she doesn't. Set boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It's my mother. The woman is like Hedda Hopper on steroids. Seriously, she has a vicious mind and the tongue of a viper. I don't care what she thinks but I'd rather not deal with her thousand questions and her deposition on why my husband wasn't wearing his wedding ring.

I get it, my mom is the same. Eventually you say, enough is enough. Get a backbone, OP. Seriously! Stand up to her. You'll feel wonderful. You are a grown adult.

I do stand up to her. It's simply more pleasant not to have the evening's topic of conversation be his ring finger.

So tell her to drop it and walk out of the room if she doesn't. Set boundaries.

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Or bring it up yourself, repeatedly, every time she raises another topic of conversation. "Coming for Thanksgiving? I dunno, we may be busy shopping for a new wedding ring for Dan."

Or do totally strange things. "Why I am hopping through the living room? Just trying to get your mind off Steve's ring. Is it working?"