Teen got a speeding ticket

[Anonymous]

Didn't realize it was 25? Most of the city and suburban neighborhoods are 25. What else she doesn't notice or realize? How does a 17-year old not notice signs? They are big and everywhere. Bad eyesight?
Noticing signs is kind of important when driving.

[Anonymous]

I'd make her pay the ticket, spend some of those countless hours web surfing hours sending me some articles about speeding deaths (that she presumably reads) and paying for the increase in insurance that you tell her you received (even if you don't). Tell her next time she gets caught her ticket and her premium go up again.

[Anonymous]

When my kids got their licenses I told them all the same thing: if you get a ticket for speeding or reckless driving you lose the car for a year. No exceptions.

3 kids later, no one has ever had a violation. But then again I'm the type of parent that doesn't need to ask a bunch of anonymous strangers what I should do if my child is acting nonchalant about the real possibility of killings someone with their hubris. I just know how to set limits without the fear of upsetting them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my kids got their licenses I told them all the same thing: if you get a ticket for speeding or reckless driving you lose the car for a year. No exceptions.

3 kids later, no one has ever had a violation. But then again I'm the type of parent that doesn't need to ask a bunch of anonymous strangers what I should do if my child is acting nonchalant about the real possibility of killings someone with their hubris. I just know how to set limits without the fear of upsetting them.

+10000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:17yr old DD got a speeding ticket for going 44mph in a 25mph. She knows she has to pay the ticket(has afterschool babysitting job) but she really doesn't care and doesn't think it's a big deal. I asked why she was in such a hurry and she just shrugged and said "it's not like I was doing 80, I just didn't realize I was going fast." Husband thinks we should take away the car but she will be an adult in August and I feel like she needs to manage these kinds of things on her own.

WTF kind of lazy-ass parenting do you subscribe to?!? Do you also shrug your shoulders when you do shit like this, because she must have gotten it from somewhere.

Your daughter would have KILLED someone if she hit a pedestrian going 44 in a 25 MPH--she was going nearly 20 miles over the speed limit.

Your lame excuse that she will be an adult in August seems to neglect the fact that she probably didn't pay for the car she drives, won't be paying for college on her own dime, will not be paying for her own health insurance or car insurance, etc., etc. In other words, she may be legally an adult, but you are still funding her and she is still largely dependent upon you. This means that you are paying for a driver who is reckless and, even worse, doesn't show any remorse or any concern about her terrible driving. Worse yet, perhaps, is the fact that you are willing to let her loose on the street even thought August is still 8 months away. Take that damn car away from her until she's 18, and when she's 18, she can pay for her own car and insurance.

[Anonymous]

Am I the only one here that would just talk to my kid about driving a reasonable speed and just pay the ticket for them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one here that would just talk to my kid about driving a reasonable speed and just pay the ticket for them?

Yes, that's being as immature and irresponsible as the teen here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one here that would just talk to my kid about driving a reasonable speed and just pay the ticket for them?

Why would you let your teen get off so easy? Are you confident that your teen understands the implications of dangerous driving? What it means to kill or injure a pedestrian, to have that on her conscience for the rest of her life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one here that would just talk to my kid about driving a reasonable speed and just pay the ticket for them?

Why would you let your teen get off so easy? Are you confident that your teen understands the implications of dangerous driving? What it means to kill or injure a pedestrian, to have that on her conscience for the rest of her life?

This isn't minor speeding.

[Anonymous]

To the [poster who would only talk about speeding and pay the ticket, I bet you are "a friend" to your teenager rather than "a parent"!

As described by the OP, this should be viewed as a serious offense as most parents have posted. 18 is no magic age to have a serious view of driving and safety. Too many parents go way too easy on their kids when they know they are probably speeding, texting or talking on the phone along with driving with friends or other siblings. In this case, i would have DD keep her sitter jobs to pay for the ticket and any insurance increase AND I or DH would drive her to and from the job or better yet tell her to ask the parents for a ride at least home AND have to explain why is asked!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one here that would just talk to my kid about driving a reasonable speed and just pay the ticket for them?

Yes, that's being as immature and irresponsible as the teen here.

+1

I got the exact same ticket as a college student (my first speeding ticket). I was required to go to a one day defensive driving class to avoid points on my license. That was stuff I did not learn in driver's ed, and use it to this day.

At the very least, your daughter needs a defensive driving class. If you did not set out consequences for speeding in advance, now is the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one here that would just talk to my kid about driving a reasonable speed and just pay the ticket for them?

Yes, that's being as immature and irresponsible as the teen here.

+1

I got the exact same ticket as a college student (my first speeding ticket). I was required to go to a one day defensive driving class to avoid points on my license. That was stuff I did not learn in driver's ed, and use it to this day.

At the very least, your daughter needs a defensive driving class. If you did not set out consequences for speeding in advance, now is the time.

I would insist on a defensive driving class, and she would be paying the ticket *and* for her own car insurance. She would also not be allowed to drive the car for non-essential reasons; i.e., no using it to drive to a friend's house or to the movies. I would also give her the information about pedestrian fatalities. Speeding in a residential neighborhood is so, so dangerous.

[Anonymous]

The fact that your daughter isn't at all afraid of your reaction to the ticket tells me everything I need to know.

Why bother asking OP? You'll probably do nothing about it except ask her to please be a little bit more careful next time.

[Anonymous]

Op, laws will take care of some of the problem. In our area she would now be required to go to a state approved driver's improvement course - required since she hasn't had her license very long.

[Anonymous]

How is this not reckless? It's much more than 15 mph over the limit.