Am I an asshole?

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Anonymous wrote:So.....this will be an unpopular point of view, but I'm in a sharing mood.

Lost my mom when I was 23. She was my best friend. It was sudden and awful.

I have very little patience for people 30+ who are thrown into crisis by elderly parents getting sick and dying.

His mom isn't even expecting him until 9 am in the morning and there is absolutely no reason why he could not accommodate your plan, other than being a bit histrionic about his mom. And I get it--I LOVED my mom. But again, zero patience for people who get thrown into hysterics about an elderly parent beginning a long decline. He needs to pace himself. And show up to fucking Christmas, he has a spouse and a family now.

This is an asshole OP.

No, it's not. It's a person who suffered a horrible loss at too young of an age, and has a perspective that few of us realize. I thought this was a very insightful comment.

Bullshit. My cousin lost both his parents at 15. He's not a douche like this poster. What is magical about turning 30 that suddenly you should brush off losing a parent? This poster is a cold, unfeeling person. I hope she does not have children because she is obviously broken inside and needs help.

Why is your cousin's tragedy making PP an asshole?

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12/24/2016 23:53

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1. He didn't do this for you and your father because he had never experienced this himself.

2. You accommodated him more because you had gone through it with your father.

3. You did nothing wrong whatsoever, and he should not have reacted the way he did.

4. In the circumstances, I think it's best that he does not come to any family gatherings. Leave him be.

5. He sounds very self-centered and unable to process his legitimate feelings in a way that's not aggressive, like many men.

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12/25/2016 00:00

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Anyone that refers to their husband as "the hubs" is an asshole.

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12/25/2016 14:16

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Well I don't think that you should go back-and-forth with him on what you sacrifice versus what he sacrificing I do think marriage is give-and-take and if he expects you to be there for him he should also be there for you. He needs to get over his macho insecurities and be able to address his feelings in an appropriate way and that does not mean sitting at the hospital for 11 hours a day and snapping and his wife when she asked him to hang out with her for a couple of hours on Christmas.