Advice for late 20s woman- stick through or move on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I might be in the minority.

No one is perfect. There is no such thing as a "perfect person" for everyone. Some people get lucky and find them others do not. Marriage is hard work.

If you want a family, marrying him is not a bad idea.

Why wait for a Prince who may never come?

Jesus, you don't have to wait for a prince but PLEASE wait for someone who loves you.

And who isn't controlling. Good god woman, have some respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I might be in the minority.

No one is perfect. There is no such thing as a "perfect person" for everyone. Some people get lucky and find them others do not. Marriage is hard work.

If you want a family, marrying him is not a bad idea.

Why wait for a Prince who may never come?

Jesus, you don't have to wait for a prince but PLEASE wait for someone who loves you.

And who isn't controlling. Good god woman, have some respect.

So I'm supposed to believe all men are.controlling??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I might be in the minority.

No one is perfect. There is no such thing as a "perfect person" for everyone. Some people get lucky and find them others do not. Marriage is hard work.

If you want a family, marrying him is not a bad idea.

Why wait for a Prince who may never come?

Jesus, you don't have to wait for a prince but PLEASE wait for someone who loves you.

And who isn't controlling. Good god woman, have some respect.

So I'm supposed to believe all men are.controlling??

No that's the point. All men are NOT controlling, so why settle for one who is?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I might be in the minority.

No one is perfect. There is no such thing as a "perfect person" for everyone. Some people get lucky and find them others do not. Marriage is hard work.

If you want a family, marrying him is not a bad idea.

Why wait for a Prince who may never come?

Jesus, you don't have to wait for a prince but PLEASE wait for someone who loves you.

And who isn't controlling. Good god woman, have some respect.

So I'm supposed to believe all men are.controlling??

No that's the point. All men are NOT controlling, so why settle for one who is?

He makes a lot of money, he has met parents. etc, etc. you can't be too picky in life....you don't want to be some old maid in your mid 30's!

[Anonymous]

"Old maid" lol.

If you prefer to tie yourself to a man who has no affection or respect for you simply to achieve some piece of societal status, I suppose that's your choice.

Me, I got happily married at 36 to a wonderful man who adores me. He also has a job and has met my parents (wow, those are some low benchmarks).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Old maid" lol.

If you prefer to tie yourself to a man who has no affection or respect for you simply to achieve some piece of societal status, I suppose that's your choice.

Me, I got happily married at 36 to a wonderful man who adores me. He also has a job and has met my parents (wow, those are some low benchmarks).

Thone aren't my only benchmarks.

[Anonymous]

Those*, my bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Old maid" lol.

If you prefer to tie yourself to a man who has no affection or respect for you simply to achieve some piece of societal status, I suppose that's your choice.

Me, I got happily married at 36 to a wonderful man who adores me. He also has a job and has met my parents (wow, those are some low benchmarks).

Thone aren't my only benchmarks.

"He makes a lot of money, he's met the parents, etc etc" sure sound like the benchmarks you identified.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Old maid" lol.

If you prefer to tie yourself to a man who has no affection or respect for you simply to achieve some piece of societal status, I suppose that's your choice.

Me, I got happily married at 36 to a wonderful man who adores me. He also has a job and has met my parents (wow, those are some low benchmarks).

Thone aren't my only benchmarks.

"He makes a lot of money, he's met the parents, etc etc" sure sound like the benchmarks you identified.

And the first post says he's having employment issues due to his citizenship, right?

[Anonymous]

OP, whst do you like about him? What do you love about him? What characteristics of his are you excited that he'll model for your children?

[Anonymous]

Op again

Yes he is...his area of study requires a clearance, which he can't get cause he's on a student visa. It's tricky.

I like that we have common values when it comes to family and faith, I like that he charitable with fam and friends, his intelligence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Move on quickly! Do not marry this man, you will be miserable.

This. Trust your gut.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I might be in the minority.

No one is perfect. There is no such thing as a "perfect person" for everyone. Some people get lucky and find them others do not. Marriage is hard work.

If you want a family, marrying him is not a bad idea.

Why wait for a Prince who may never come?

Jesus, you don't have to wait for a prince but PLEASE wait for someone who loves you.

And who isn't controlling. Good god woman, have some respect.

So I'm supposed to believe all men are.controlling??

No that's the point. All men are NOT controlling, so why settle for one who is?

He makes a lot of money, he has met parents. etc, etc. you can't be too picky in life....you don't want to be some old maid in your mid 30's!

I can't believe a self respecting woman still thinks this way in 2016.

[Anonymous]

I was engaged at 26, I was trying to force it. Then I realized I didn't actually want to spend my life with that guy, and ended it. Best move ever. Met sexy soulmate at 30. Ten years later, we're still living happily ever after.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I might be in the minority.

No one is perfect. There is no such thing as a "perfect person" for everyone. Some people get lucky and find them others do not. Marriage is hard work.

If you want a family, marrying him is not a bad idea.

Why wait for a Prince who may never come?

No one is perfect. But there is someone out there that is perfect for you. DH isn't perfect. He can be cranky and anxious. And I'm far from being a perfect wife (I hate cleaning and cook dinner only 50% of the time. I'm also messy and ADD). But we adore each other. We are so perfect for each other. There are more choices than "waiting for my Prince " and "he's good enough, he'll do, I guess".

OP- I didn't meet DH until I was 38. Got married at 40. Not going to lie, having a child was a long difficult struggle. After 5 years and DE, we finally have the most perfect kid. But I'd do it over in a heartbeat to have DH by my side. All my friends that married in their 30's, panic married (even if they didn't realize it) and now are either in soul sucking miserable marriages (and their kids are paying the price for it) Or are divorced after horrible and expensive custody battles. There daily lives suck so much. It takes every ounce of energy to just get from one moment to the next. Meanwhile, I waited for the right guy to come along. I didn't wait for perfection. He has many flaws. But none of them impact the ability of our marriage to be a good one. (With a controlling person, your marriage will never be good).

Don't be a slave to a timeline. Don't think marriage is magically going to make things better. Being lonely and single is way way better than married and miserable!