Husband "married beneath him"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound really annoying, insecure, and shrill.

I pity your husband.

This.

He'll probably be googling divorce next.

+1000
DH here. you sound unbelievably difficult. do you realize you've beaten down your DH and now you are shifting the blame onto him?

[Anonymous]

Why is this such a big deal?

I think I'm better than DH in many categories (social status, culture, etiquette, literature, parenting), he probably thinks the same about me in different categories (tech and science, street smarts and troubleshooting stuff, more mental and physical strength).

Eh, who cares.

[Anonymous]

Are you talking about the Psychology Today article? I just googled marriage inequality and the first two pages of results were about same sex marriage, with two exceptions about power couples and income inequality. I didn't see that particular article though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of the topics I read on this forum might make my DH nervous if he stalked what I read online! But we don't do that to each other out of respect. I read some trashy stuff on here about bad relationships....but I'm very happily married.

+1
You might think you are being proactive OP, but you are borrowing trouble. This should not have risen to the level of a conversation, let alone an argument.

Yup. I look up random things all the time. I was curious about the shifting NFL standards on players suspected of domestic abuse because I saw a newspaper article talking about the most recent case. I read at least 3 threads a week on DCUM about divorcing your spouse and/or something about cheating or AP. Here I am reading this thread with no experience of DH feeling like he married beneath him or vice versa.

Please don't borrow trouble.

[Anonymous]

His search history is none of your business, b*tch.

[Anonymous]

I see we effectively scared off OP. Hopefully she's gone to her DH to apologize for her insane behaviour.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I found in my husband's internet search history an article with the topic "I married beneath me." I confronted him, and he said that because I complained of marriage inequality, he was googling marriage inequality and that this was a subject that popped up. Then he said because of my complaint, he thought "I" was thinking that he married beneath him. So it was preemptive.

I can't get past this. I'm an attorney turned SAHM because of his rigorous work/travel schedule.

What would you do if you saw this in your husband's search history?

The bigger issue here is that you feel the need to snoop in his browser history

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing. I'm secure in myself, my station in life and my marriage.

+1

[Anonymous]

If my DH saw the title of every thread I read on DCUM, he'd be worried I thought he was an asshole and planning to divorce him. Quit looking for problems.

[Anonymous]

What a bunch of shaming assholes. You have every right to ask him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I found in my husband's internet search history an article with the topic "I married beneath me." I confronted him, and he said that because I complained of marriage inequality, he was googling marriage inequality and that this was a subject that popped up. Then he said because of my complaint, he thought "I" was thinking that he married beneath him. So it was preemptive.

I can't get past this. I'm an attorney turned SAHM because of his rigorous work/travel schedule.

What would you do if you saw this in your husband's search history?

This is your problem. If you want to stay at home with the kids, you are expected to do the work associated with staying at home. The root of the marriages inequality arguments is that you should only count the work you do as a SAHM. How many hours does your husband work including travel? Are you working the same amount of hours and is your work reviewed and rated? Can you get fired?

[Anonymous]

Honest answer?

I'd go back to being an attorney.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound really annoying, insecure, and shrill.

I pity your husband.

I never would have said anything. People have bad days or do things after a fight.

OP sounds immature and very much a nag.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you made him feel like you think you married beneath you, and he was looking for articles about that. If you're always going on about marriage inequality, who knows what else you're raging about. You won't find anything else, though, because now you've outed yourself, and he'll either go incognito or erase all history.

[Anonymous]

You can't be serious- I click on all sorts of articles. You can't really just be going off of the title.