Wife is initiating more lately

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I googled a list of meds that caused delayed ejac and found one that worked for me..

Name of drug please?

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Anonymous wrote:Hormones, ovulation.

I hit something that made me get going with DH for a few really good months.

No basis for it except biological, and positive loop. I've never cheated, nor will I ever! Love my DH. (8 years, 2 kids in)

Come back in 22 years and let's us know how it is going.

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Anonymous wrote:She's cheating on you.

Yes, I think she is too. She is missing the other, so for now, or while she is with you, you get the benefits...but she is thinking of other

I am sure there are more than these two in the remaining remarks. It could be she has someone lighting the fire without cheating. Or it could be she is going through a shift in hormones. Or any number of life events letting up. Doesn't have to mean she is cheating.

BTW, men tend to cheat for sex, women tend to cheat to fill an emotional void of some kind. A little more than half of men are happy in their marriage when they cheat, only about a third of women are. So the odds are that if sexual frequency increases at home it isn't because she is having an affair.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you been doing anything different to bring about this change?

Does she want anything unusual or is it pretty much the same sex you always had? Sudden interest in a new and different type of sex is a red flag for cheating.

She seems to be wanting about the same stuff. The bj wan't expected but other than that she's doing hot things to turn me on such as straddling/grinding me in her underwear and telling me she can't wait to ____ me later. Also, shes flirting with me over text occasionally. Its been a lot of fun.

I'm not really doing anything different although I've pretty consistently:
-talked to her every day
- helped around the house daily
- do almost all kids homework and cub scouts, etc
- make a solid living and am fiscally responsible
- stay very fit and dress nice
- had some issues with pe which I addressed a few years ago. (She can pretty much rely on good sex and an O)

Hmm, I didn't think cheating until you posted this honestly but now I kind of do. Sorry.

Not to derail, but can you tell me in non-explicit terms how you addressed this issue. Askingforafriend

Tried for years to figure it out myself without much luck. It didn't help that my wife is very athletic and attractive. Finally talked to a doc about it who prescribed a med. The med worked great.

What is the med? Any side effects?

NP. Does your friend want to know?

Of course!

Another DH here. How do you two define "premature"?

Not the op but the pp. lasts about 2 min from intercourse, longer if drunk but not by much.

uh-oh. I didn't realize that was premature. OTOH, I always make sure she has an O beforehand.

My DH does the same and it's great but sometimes I'd like some good sex that lasts longer than 2 min.

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Anonymous wrote:WOW, I had to check to make sure I didn't post this - because my wife is suddenly initiating sex all the time after years of being a total asexual. She is 43 as well. I have spent years in desperation trying to get our sex life going and nothing, nothing worked.

I am pretty sure it's because she has a massive crush on a man. He is a SAHD, live in the neighborhood, our kids are the same age. They get together all the time, after school. He is attractive, objectively speaking. And she talks about him. A lot.

I am a bit suspicious, but to be perfectly honest, I am extremely happy with the new found sexual connection. I don't really care how this came about. Is that strange? It's awesome to be having energetic sex again.

This is me, age 42, husband benefitting from my harmless, massive crush. Husband has no idea.

And me. 32, married for 9 years, 2 kids. DH thinks everything is great. We've been having crazy sex 3-4 times a week, from once a week. He is also a great husband and helps out a lot, etc. But I think about the other when making love to my DH. Never say never.

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I googled a list of meds that caused delayed ejac and found one that worked for me..

Name of drug please?

Not pp, but I know that Prozac does.

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Anonymous wrote:WOW, I had to check to make sure I didn't post this - because my wife is suddenly initiating sex all the time after years of being a total asexual. She is 43 as well. I have spent years in desperation trying to get our sex life going and nothing, nothing worked.

I am pretty sure it's because she has a massive crush on a man. He is a SAHD, live in the neighborhood, our kids are the same age. They get together all the time, after school. He is attractive, objectively speaking. And she talks about him. A lot.

I am a bit suspicious, but to be perfectly honest, I am extremely happy with the new found sexual connection. I don't really care how this came about. Is that strange? It's awesome to be having energetic sex again.

This is me, age 42, husband benefitting from my harmless, massive crush. Husband has no idea.

And me. 32, married for 9 years, 2 kids. DH thinks everything is great. We've been having crazy sex 3-4 times a week, from once a week. He is also a great husband and helps out a lot, etc. But I think about the other when making love to my DH. Never say never.

I do the same. Same stats for length of marriage and number of kids. Talking about the other guy is a huge giveaway.

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Anonymous wrote:WOW, I had to check to make sure I didn't post this - because my wife is suddenly initiating sex all the time after years of being a total asexual. She is 43 as well. I have spent years in desperation trying to get our sex life going and nothing, nothing worked.

I am pretty sure it's because she has a massive crush on a man. He is a SAHD, live in the neighborhood, our kids are the same age. They get together all the time, after school. He is attractive, objectively speaking. And she talks about him. A lot.

I am a bit suspicious, but to be perfectly honest, I am extremely happy with the new found sexual connection. I don't really care how this came about. Is that strange? It's awesome to be having energetic sex again.

This is me, age 42, husband benefitting from my harmless, massive crush. Husband has no idea.

And me. 32, married for 9 years, 2 kids. DH thinks everything is great. We've been having crazy sex 3-4 times a week, from once a week. He is also a great husband and helps out a lot, etc. But I think about the other when making love to my DH. Never say never.

Meanwhile he's thinking about his coworker or one of your friends.

There are at least four people in that bed... virtually anyway.