MILs and their different race DILs

[Anonymous]

People, OP hasn't bothered to comment once since original post, please stop posting about this. She obviously doesn't care. On top of this, I even asked her how her parents feel about her marrying a Christian and if she is a Muslim or not, no answer. While she is not obligated to respond, I would like to think it is basic manners to at least thank people who took time to answer.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes a thread has a decent discussion that has nothing to do with the OP. And that is fine.

[Anonymous]

I am from a Modern Jewish Orthodox family married to a Catholic guy. At first, both our mothers were terrified. Now their biggest fight is who bought the best and biggest present for the grandkids. And I caught them both smoking at our wedding.

[Anonymous]

Brother (white) married a wonderful Indian woman. Mom makes horrible racist comments and is generally awful. They have been married 10+ years, so I guess she didn't get over it.

However, it's all about how the husband acts. My brother stopped putting up with any shit from mom. She says something rude, it is called out. Mom refuses to behave, he leaves. As long as he's putting DW first, it can work out. If he isn't going to do that, don't bother getting married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Brother (white) married a wonderful Indian woman. Mom makes horrible racist comments and is generally awful. They have been married 10+ years, so I guess she didn't get over it.

However, it's all about how the husband acts. My brother stopped putting up with any shit from mom. She says something rude, it is called out. Mom refuses to behave, he leaves. As long as he's putting DW first, it can work out. If he isn't going to do that, don't bother getting married.

Opposite here. I am white and married someone south Asian. My family adores him. His mom (dad has passed) and other family didn't like me prior to us meeting simply because I was white. DH hasn't had any contact in years now, due to them calling me what he describes as "names untranslatable to English". Yipes. I feel terrible but not at fault, since I let him decide, rarely voice opinions on it and just try to listen. It is sad thought b/c his mom's only grandson has never met her.

[Anonymous]

Your husband is a keeper, PP. Some of us have had to do battle with a prejudiced, hateful Asian MIL for years, with the husband waffling at being caught in the middle. Your husband has your back, which is a huge thing in Asian families. He sacrificed in one way, and in another way, you have been his ticket to freedom from what can be a stultifying way of life.

[Anonymous]

I'm Christian and white and my inlaws are of Catholic and Asian decent. Yep they hate me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL and FIL insist on taking my kid to church on Christmas. We are raising the kids agnostic. The kids are both under three so it's not like they sit still. It's annoying and my DH has no spine. This year, we're not going for Christmas. Problem solved.

Agnostic is a race???

Your inlaws just want to fill a pew with the people they love on Christmas and proudly share their adorable grandkids with their church friends. It is harmless.

You are being silly and petty.

I would think if one was raising children to be agnostic, they would welcome opportunities for their children to investigate the various options.

...is the stupidest thing I've heard today.