How to meet available guys?

[Anonymous]

I'm a 46 year old woman -divorced for 2 years after a 19 year marriage. I talked to a woman from it's just lunch on the phone about a year ago. She basically told me she was going to coach me on how to behave on a date. I told her I behave like myself and that I did not have trouble getting dates but that I needed someone to screen them for me so I didn't waste my time... Ended up telling her I wasn't interested but she called me every other day for a month even after I told her to stop calling me. I finally had to block her number.

I have been on almost every dating site and finally landed on OKC. I have met lots of great guys there. So far my longest one lasted 2.5 months. I'm dating another guy I met there exclusively now and am hopeful.

I have some friends who like tinder. It's not for me. If you do use it state clearly upfront that you are looking for a LTR and not a hook up.

[Anonymous]

1. Go to places frequented by men--Rush concerts, any type of man-band concerts, gyms, sporting events, breweries, and beer fests. Rush or similar man-band concerts come to our area once a year, but it's a total dude-o-rama. Skip Jack Johnson or any sappy girly music ones, they will be full of women.
2. If you're passionate about something...a hobby....make time for it and have fun doing it. You will be guaranteed to meet someone that shares same interests.
3. Get on Match and E-Harmony and have fun with it. There will be weird ones out there sending you "Antony Weiner" type of crap and you will have a few bad dates. BUT--Quality comes with quantity, so you will meet decent men. Get to know them first before you'll meet them in person to weed out bad apples.
4. If you click with someone, give them five dates to get to know you....but don't sleep with them right away....hold on to your panties!
5. Go younger or older as far as age difference. If you're in your 40s, you will probably be better off with a man a little older than you. You will also meet younger guys that are pretty fun .
5. Ask your friends, colleagues, neighbors, anyone to set you up. You're single and available sista!
6. If you have kiddos, sign them up for soccer or swimming or any other group sport. There will be single divorced fathers out there for you to meet and your kids will be active. It's truly a win-win situation!
7. Skip Tinder...cuz it's for hook-ups.
8. Take a look at your wardrobe, hair, make up....and make a little improvement to make yourself feel better.
9. Good luck and have fun!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does Tinder really work for say the late 40's, early 50's crowd?

Guy here - yes. Just say you don't want to hookup. Lots of fake profiles (younger women) though maybe different for women. Met my current date on tinder.

[Anonymous]

OP here- these are great suggestions. I already DO go to the auto show every year, normally with my husband and kids. I am inheriting a fun car in the divorce and I do like to go to the cars and coffee events around the area. Just not sure how to actually meet people there but I can figure it out.

And I already go to sporting events (Redskins season ticket holder here) but again normally with my family. I have heard good things about OKC so maybe I can start there. And a good friend met her boyfriend on Tinder but it started as a hookup. I'm not into that, at least not any time soon.

I guess I'm just going to have to put myself out there and see how it goes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here- these are great suggestions. I already DO go to the auto show every year, normally with my husband and kids. I am inheriting a fun car in the divorce and I do like to go to the cars and coffee events around the area. Just not sure how to actually meet people there but I can figure it out.

And I already go to sporting events (Redskins season ticket holder here) but again normally with my family. I have heard good things about OKC so maybe I can start there. And a good friend met her boyfriend on Tinder but it started as a hookup. I'm not into that, at least not any time soon.

I guess I'm just going to have to put myself out there and see how it goes.

You are going to be overwhelmed with choices. Seriously, men usually have more dating problems.