How to meet available guys?

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Anonymous wrote:You honestly need to put yourself out there. I am your age and I resisted dating because I had a mental block despite knowing there are many suitors waiting on the sidelines. It is time to open up the floodgates and have fun.

PS - work and co-ed sports teams are a great way to meet available men. I didn't realize how many men found me sexy/hot until I flashed the green light.

How does one do this? I did not come equipped with lights.

Do what you did in college. Make drunken decisions.

Or maybe just flirt?

Exactly. Whenever I've been single various men have emerged from the woodwork and expressed interest. Often a male friend or colleague who I'd never thought of in "that way" as Id been in a relationship.

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OP, let me give you a man's perspective to dating. First off, dating sucks for everyone. It's like boot camp. Nobody like's it but you have to get through it to reach your destination.

I talk to several divorced moms and single women at work. What I have learn is this:

- women suffer from quality and men suffer from quantity. Men do the hunting so there are a lot more guys out there. But the difference is that a decent guy can meet five women and at least three will have their head on straight while women seem to have to go through a lot of men. One of the reasons is that women generally have higher standards but a lot of guys cannot carry a conversation.

- like a pp said, the grocery store approach only works in the movies. What seems to work is the same as job search, networking. I set up a woman friend with my cousin and they seem to be doing well. She asked me if I knew any guys who might be available so I introduced them.

- what also works is starting as friends. Not to use celebrities as an example, but Cindy Crawford's husband said that they started as friends and after many years of marriage they are still friends. There is something to be said for that. I have seen couples where they knew each other for many years but involved with others and at this stage they are together and it is working for them.

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Thanks for the perspective. I get the networking, it's always about who you know. I ran into a divorced friend yesterday and she told me she meets a lot of guys online through dating sites but it normally turns into one meal and no chemistry. Unfortunately almost all of my friends are couples who are friends with other couples, like I was. I do have a few divorced female friends so maybe we can help each other. Pass along any potential date that isn't a good match for ourselves? It's going to be a long road...

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I would use online dating to supplement networking. I am a married woman in my 40s, work with a ton of guys, and know exactly two guys in the right age range who are single. One is obese and the other recently divorced and not someone I'd set up with a friend until he was in a better place. It may be there will be a wave of divorces later. Unless you're very good looking (not just good looking for 40) I wouldn't count on meeting men out and about.

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the perspective. I get the networking, it's always about who you know. I ran into a divorced friend yesterday and she told me she meets a lot of guys online through dating sites but it normally turns into one meal and no chemistry. Unfortunately almost all of my friends are couples who are friends with other couples, like I was. I do have a few divorced female friends so maybe we can help each other. Pass along any potential date that isn't a good match for ourselves? It's going to be a long road...

Yes. The person may not be right for your friend but very good for you. Any women can go on a date every night of the week with a different guy from a dating site. Maybe your friend doesn't vet well enough beforehand? And how can you really know if a person is even a "maybe" after one date in a restaurant?

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Anonymous wrote:Unless you're very good looking (not just good looking for 40) I wouldn't count on meeting men out and about.

Because we're not out and about. We're all busy doing drug deals or robbing old ladies. Oh, you mean men that meet insane standards. No, they're taken.

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has anyone mentioned dog walking yet? We just got a dog and suddenly I'm seeing the same people (people I've never seen before) walking their dog, every day; I have a new possy of soon-to-be friends!

I had dinner last night with a widow who has a crush on a guy she met walking her dog (he walking his dog).

Of course it helps to have a friendly dog! So their dog wants to say hi...

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If you have a dog, go to dog parks. Or take a friends dog.

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Anonymous wrote:What about asking friends to introduce you if they know someone that might be a good match? Trusted friends that know you well of course. I know a woman in her 40's who met her now husband this way. It's worth a shot I guess.

Man here. I've had some bad experiences with this one, as have others I know. A colleague once told me that when your friends match you up with someone, you can really see what your friends think of you.

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neighbors (38 and 42) love Tinder. They have already met several guys and are casually dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You honestly need to put yourself out there. I am your age and I resisted dating because I had a mental block despite knowing there are many suitors waiting on the sidelines. It is time to open up the floodgates and have fun.

PS - work and co-ed sports teams are a great way to meet available men. I didn't realize how many men found me sexy/hot until I flashed the green light.

How does one do this? I did not come equipped with lights.

Easy. Use these three words: "I am available".

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Anonymous wrote:Try the website "Its Just Lunch". It's not cheap but they do seem to have a decent screening process. The fact that it is pretty expensive is actually a good thing because guys trolling for booty aren't going to spend money. Stay away from places like CL. When its free you get what you pay for.

Don't do this. Google them first. Huge scam and for thousands of dollars

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Does Tinder really work for say the late 40's, early 50's crowd?

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Anonymous wrote:If you have a dog, go to dog parks. Or take a friends dog.

Or take my dog. I'm married, but my dog can certainly use the exercise.

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Guy-type events, for example at the Washington auto show in January / February at the Convention Center or some of the boat shows in Annapolis in a few weeks. Be friendly, smile a lot, show interest in cars / boats, take a girlfriend.