Dropping DC off at college -- one of the hardest days ever

[Anonymous]

Also, it shouldn't be an endurance test for freshman, if they want to come home for a weekend before thanksgiving and it is affordable, it can be a healthy rest. Some kids are drained after a few weeks of meeting hundreds of new people, getting along with their roommate, figuring out classes and schedules and of course the social scene. Even if they love everything about it some kids want a break sooner than later, they return recharged.

[Anonymous]

OP here. He has a fall break from 9/30 to 10/5. He knows he is welcome to come home anytime. We'll see how he feels later in September.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Mine came back. All is not lost and it's not terrible that he's home.

He graduated in May with a BS in Comp. Sci. The good news is that he got a job that pays $65K. He asked if he could live at home to save up some money. I said of course.

He pays us a nominal amount of rent and he's back in his room. He goes to work every day, is fully funding his 401K and his HSA. We paid for college so he has no loans and I think if he stays with us for a year or two, he'll be well on his way to having a nice savings for either grad school or a down payment and we've taught him how to put it away for retirement. Although at 22, he looks at us like we're crazy to be talking to him about when he's 60.

White privilege.

You're right. Many white people believe in only having kids when they can afford them and while married. They also believe in saving for college. It's amazing how this works.

You have no monopoly on saving for college and everything else you spewed. Holier than thou bull$hit. Give us a break.

What the fuck does this mean? How about this: I'm black and didn't save for my son's college. I knew I could just write a check, which is what I did when I dropped him for his Freshman year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jeez!! No one race has a lock on when, how, what age kids return home for economics' sake. I just dropped my first of two, he's happy, doing great etc...For you younger parents, when they were 2, 5, 12 - THAT MADE ME CRY!!!!! I cherished every minute of their younger years -- so much. By the time you've trampled through tons of campuses, watched them suffer through testing and community service hour requirements, you are happy for them if they are happy and eager to start the journey. Even figuring out how to personalize their dorm is gratifying. The grief really doesn't hit until an unexpected moment. And for me, it hit like a ton of bricks like a limb was wrenched off, I was still on campus and had just said good bye, with some time left to work on the room. Boom. Then after crying, and pathetically plumping his pillows and placing some photos, I pulled it together. Was fine for a week. Then the first Friday, seeing his "spot" in the kitchen, fell apart again, missing his presence so much it was a biological separation pain. Then he called! We have texted/talked every day, with his dad/brother/me. He initiates. Also join the college parents' listserv/Facebook etc... Just checking the weather where he is makes me feel connected. Also already bought the Thanksgiving tix. Good luck, it will get better ) Take good care of yourself, have a massage or plan a weekend away. We're all in this together!

Thanks. This is a very gppd decription of what Iam going through.