Dropping DC off at college -- one of the hardest days ever

[Anonymous]

Oh camp will help him adjust to going off to college even more than it is helping you. Good job on building up his confidence.

[Anonymous]

My kids are 5 and 2 and I was just dreaming of the time they'll both be in college and we'll finally have a quiet house again. I hope I feel the way you do, OP, when the time finally comes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids are 5 and 2 and I was just dreaming of the time they'll both be in college and we'll finally have a quiet house again. I hope I feel the way you do, OP, when the time finally comes.

I don't mean to be snarky (far from it!), but if your kids are only 5 and 2, why are you in this forum? Of course you are free to go anywhere you like but just curious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids are 5 and 2 and I was just dreaming of the time they'll both be in college and we'll finally have a quiet house again. I hope I feel the way you do, OP, when the time finally comes.

I don't mean to be snarky (far from it!), but if your kids are only 5 and 2, why are you in this forum? Of course you are free to go anywhere you like but just curious.

I browse through "recent topics" instead of going by forum.

[Anonymous]

OP, I hear ya... dropped DS off on august 11 to start football camp. Kept a relatively stiff upper lip but cried most of the weekend and occasionally still do. Miss him so badly... He's a 10 hour drive away. Good news is he's doing well and loving life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine came back. All is not lost and it's not terrible that he's home.

He graduated in May with a BS in Comp. Sci. The good news is that he got a job that pays $65K. He asked if he could live at home to save up some money. I said of course.

He pays us a nominal amount of rent and he's back in his room. He goes to work every day, is fully funding his 401K and his HSA. We paid for college so he has no loans and I think if he stays with us for a year or two, he'll be well on his way to having a nice savings for either grad school or a down payment and we've taught him how to put it away for retirement. Although at 22, he looks at us like we're crazy to be talking to him about when he's 60.

White privilege.

I find it quite pathetic that all racial groups don't instill these values.
It;s a choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids are 5 and 2 and I was just dreaming of the time they'll both be in college and we'll finally have a quiet house again. I hope I feel the way you do, OP, when the time finally comes.

I don't mean to be snarky (far from it!), but if your kids are only 5 and 2, why are you in this forum? Of course you are free to go anywhere you like but just curious.

I browse through "recent topics" instead of going by forum.

I also browse through recent topics rather than forum topics

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine came back. All is not lost and it's not terrible that he's home.

He graduated in May with a BS in Comp. Sci. The good news is that he got a job that pays $65K. He asked if he could live at home to save up some money. I said of course.

He pays us a nominal amount of rent and he's back in his room. He goes to work every day, is fully funding his 401K and his HSA. We paid for college so he has no loans and I think if he stays with us for a year or two, he'll be well on his way to having a nice savings for either grad school or a down payment and we've taught him how to put it away for retirement. Although at 22, he looks at us like we're crazy to be talking to him about when he's 60.

White privilege.

You're right. Many white people believe in only having kids when they can afford them and while married. They also believe in saving for college. It's amazing how this works.

You have no monopoly on saving for college and everything else you spewed. Holier than thou bull$hit. Give us a break.

NP here. So you did learn something yes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine came back. All is not lost and it's not terrible that he's home.

He graduated in May with a BS in Comp. Sci. The good news is that he got a job that pays $65K. He asked if he could live at home to save up some money. I said of course.

He pays us a nominal amount of rent and he's back in his room. He goes to work every day, is fully funding his 401K and his HSA. We paid for college so he has no loans and I think if he stays with us for a year or two, he'll be well on his way to having a nice savings for either grad school or a down payment and we've taught him how to put it away for retirement. Although at 22, he looks at us like we're crazy to be talking to him about when he's 60.

I recommend that he takes some time off to see the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine came back. All is not lost and it's not terrible that he's home.

He graduated in May with a BS in Comp. Sci. The good news is that he got a job that pays $65K. He asked if he could live at home to save up some money. I said of course.

He pays us a nominal amount of rent and he's back in his room. He goes to work every day, is fully funding his 401K and his HSA. We paid for college so he has no loans and I think if he stays with us for a year or two, he'll be well on his way to having a nice savings for either grad school or a down payment and we've taught him how to put it away for retirement. Although at 22, he looks at us like we're crazy to be talking to him about when he's 60.

White privilege.

You're right. Many white people believe in only having kids when they can afford them and while married. They also believe in saving for college. It's amazing how this works.

You have no monopoly on saving for college and everything else you spewed. Holier than thou bull$hit. Give us a break.

NP here. So you did learn something yes?

I have learned that some people think they are better than others and ASSUME no one does it like they do. Also, they full of horse manure up to their eyeballs. Yes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine came back. All is not lost and it's not terrible that he's home.

He graduated in May with a BS in Comp. Sci. The good news is that he got a job that pays $65K. He asked if he could live at home to save up some money. I said of course.

He pays us a nominal amount of rent and he's back in his room. He goes to work every day, is fully funding his 401K and his HSA. We paid for college so he has no loans and I think if he stays with us for a year or two, he'll be well on his way to having a nice savings for either grad school or a down payment and we've taught him how to put it away for retirement. Although at 22, he looks at us like we're crazy to be talking to him about when he's 60.

White privilege.

You're right. Many white people believe in only having kids when they can afford them and while married. They also believe in saving for college. It's amazing how this works.

You have no monopoly on saving for college and everything else you spewed. Holier than thou bull$hit. Give us a break.

NP here. So you did learn something yes?

I have learned that some people think they are better than others and ASSUME no one does it like they do. Also, they full of horse manure up to their eyeballs. Yes?

*are*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine came back. All is not lost and it's not terrible that he's home.

He graduated in May with a BS in Comp. Sci. The good news is that he got a job that pays $65K. He asked if he could live at home to save up some money. I said of course.

He pays us a nominal amount of rent and he's back in his room. He goes to work every day, is fully funding his 401K and his HSA. We paid for college so he has no loans and I think if he stays with us for a year or two, he'll be well on his way to having a nice savings for either grad school or a down payment and we've taught him how to put it away for retirement. Although at 22, he looks at us like we're crazy to be talking to him about when he's 60.

White privilege.

Actually it is very common in Asian and South Asian families for young adults to live at home. Having your own apartment is the privileged path.

[Anonymous]

Jeez!! No one race has a lock on when, how, what age kids return home for economics' sake. I just dropped my first of two, he's happy, doing great etc...For you younger parents, when they were 2, 5, 12 - THAT MADE ME CRY!!!!! I cherished every minute of their younger years -- so much. By the time you've trampled through tons of campuses, watched them suffer through testing and community service hour requirements, you are happy for them if they are happy and eager to start the journey. Even figuring out how to personalize their dorm is gratifying. The grief really doesn't hit until an unexpected moment. And for me, it hit like a ton of bricks like a limb was wrenched off, I was still on campus and had just said good bye, with some time left to work on the room. Boom. Then after crying, and pathetically plumping his pillows and placing some photos, I pulled it together. Was fine for a week. Then the first Friday, seeing his "spot" in the kitchen, fell apart again, missing his presence so much it was a biological separation pain. Then he called! We have texted/talked every day, with his dad/brother/me. He initiates. Also join the college parents' listserv/Facebook etc... Just checking the weather where he is makes me feel connected. Also already bought the Thanksgiving tix. Good luck, it will get better ) Take good care of yourself, have a massage or plan a weekend away. We're all in this together!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how far away is the university? If close by then maybe in a couple of weeks, visit for the day and take him out to lunch.

OP here. He is in Connecticut. It is an easy flight. Really bad driving though!!!

[Anonymous]

Op ~ 3 hrs on the Acela And if you go that direction you can rent a car at the train station in New Haven. Our kids went to the NE and we/they never drive.