Dropping DC off at college -- one of the hardest days ever

[Anonymous]

My one & only DS is only 3 mo, and I am already tearing up every time I see an article or news story about this. I'm a college prof., so seeing move-in this week has been really rough. I just know the next 18 years are going to fly by.

[Anonymous]

I know it is hard, but perhaps concentrate and count your blessing on how wonderful your life has been if it is one of the hardest days ever. I mean this seriously. It is a bittersweet moment, focus on the sweet bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. DC is my first and only child. He is living in his dorm and definitely is not in my basement.

Congrats on a job well done!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine came back. All is not lost and it's not terrible that he's home.

He graduated in May with a BS in Comp. Sci. The good news is that he got a job that pays $65K. He asked if he could live at home to save up some money. I said of course.

He pays us a nominal amount of rent and he's back in his room. He goes to work every day, is fully funding his 401K and his HSA. We paid for college so he has no loans and I think if he stays with us for a year or two, he'll be well on his way to having a nice savings for either grad school or a down payment and we've taught him how to put it away for retirement. Although at 22, he looks at us like we're crazy to be talking to him about when he's 60.

White privilege.

[Anonymous]

Huh? You think a black kid with a computer science degree wouldn't have the same opportunities?

[Anonymous]

Ugh - I will face the same in the future so you have my sympathies

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Huh? You think a black kid with a computer science degree wouldn't have the same opportunities?

+1. What an asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine came back. All is not lost and it's not terrible that he's home.

He graduated in May with a BS in Comp. Sci. The good news is that he got a job that pays $65K. He asked if he could live at home to save up some money. I said of course.

He pays us a nominal amount of rent and he's back in his room. He goes to work every day, is fully funding his 401K and his HSA. We paid for college so he has no loans and I think if he stays with us for a year or two, he'll be well on his way to having a nice savings for either grad school or a down payment and we've taught him how to put it away for retirement. Although at 22, he looks at us like we're crazy to be talking to him about when he's 60.[/quote

Of course he can fund a 401k and health savings account. He's living at home with no bills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine came back. All is not lost and it's not terrible that he's home.

He graduated in May with a BS in Comp. Sci. The good news is that he got a job that pays $65K. He asked if he could live at home to save up some money. I said of course.

He pays us a nominal amount of rent and he's back in his room. He goes to work every day, is fully funding his 401K and his HSA. We paid for college so he has no loans and I think if he stays with us for a year or two, he'll be well on his way to having a nice savings for either grad school or a down payment and we've taught him how to put it away for retirement. Although at 22, he looks at us like we're crazy to be talking to him about when he's 60.

White privilege.

You're right. Many white people believe in only having kids when they can afford them and while married. They also believe in saving for college. It's amazing how this works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine came back. All is not lost and it's not terrible that he's home.

He graduated in May with a BS in Comp. Sci. The good news is that he got a job that pays $65K. He asked if he could live at home to save up some money. I said of course.

He pays us a nominal amount of rent and he's back in his room. He goes to work every day, is fully funding his 401K and his HSA. We paid for college so he has no loans and I think if he stays with us for a year or two, he'll be well on his way to having a nice savings for either grad school or a down payment and we've taught him how to put it away for retirement. Although at 22, he looks at us like we're crazy to be talking to him about when he's 60.

White privilege.

You're right. Many white people believe in only having kids when they can afford them and while married. They also believe in saving for college. It's amazing how this works.

You have no monopoly on saving for college and everything else you spewed. Holier than thou bull$hit. Give us a break.

[Anonymous]

Skype works a lot better than FaceTime. FT has a long lag time. Tried it several times, but for some reason skype works best from college. Have no idea why because I really wanted FT to work like it does at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Skype works a lot better than FaceTime. FT has a long lag time. Tried it several times, but for some reason skype works best from college. Have no idea why because I really wanted FT to work like it does at home.

Skype or FT....whichever works at the time is fine with me as long as I can see DC's smile!

[Anonymous]

OP, how far away is the university? If close by then maybe in a couple of weeks, visit for the day and take him out to lunch.

[Anonymous]

We are doing college visits and I start tearing up. Dc thinks I am crazy. I understand OP

[Anonymous]

My one and only is starting 7th grade. He goes to summer camp for a month in the summer partially because I need practice letting him go. Hopefully by the time he goes to college, I will not be a total mess.