Was this rude of me?

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thanks for the different perspectives. And yes, next time I will keep my mouth shut about how any food was made.
To the pp who asked what else was served- there was a salad with berry vinaigrette and a roast chicken with green beans. There was also some spiced nuts she apparently made.
I thought the food was pretty good, boxed brownies included.
This is only my second time at her house and she has always seemed friendly and nice. Which was why I was surprised at her reaction. But live and learn. People are sensitive about their cooking!

She wasn't being sensitive about her cooking. She was being sensitive about the fact that after she hosted and cooked a lovely dinner you took a dig at her by asking were they boxed. That minimizes the effort that goes into hosting. Clearly you don't know this but it's bad form to question your hostess on the provenance of the food she serves. All you had to say was "These brownies are delicious, mine never turn out this good." If someone at my house did that I would say "oh my gosh, I don't even get credit, that's just box brownies, we aren't fancy!" Now if I made a lasagna dinner and other sides and wine and at the end some chick I barely even knew said "was that stouffer's?" then yes, I'd be a bit peeved by the bad manners.


Live and learn. Now you know better.

Agree. It's kind of like if you had asked if the green beans were organic, or the chicken was free-range. Even though you didn't mean anything by it, the hostess may infer that you are judging her food in a negative way.

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doodlebug wrote:Is her son named Duncan? If not then they're Duncan Hines boxed. To the PP who is proud of having a scratch recipe mistake for boxed...WHY? Boxed brownies taste like chemicals and preservatives. Why would you want your homemade brownies to taste like they came from a chemistry lab?

No they don't, shut up. Boxed brownies are like the one thing everyone admits set the gold standard for brownies. It's almost not even worth doing scratch when you have ghirardelli boxed mix.

lol. Nothing that comes in a box is the gold standard for anything. It takes two minutes to make brownies from scratch. They have pretty much the same number of ingredients as the boxed stuff except no nasty preservatives. Who are you? Clark W Griswold?

And here comes the "natural is better" brigade.

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Anonymous wrote:Who makes brownies from scratch?

Me. Cakes too. I will never understand why people use box mixes.

So do I. Brownies are like butter, cocoa, sugar, eggs, flour, and vanilla. Box mixes are delicious but making them from scratch really isn't that difficult.

Can you give your recipe, please? I've tried making brownies at home and the recipes I've used involve so many steps and ingredients it's not worth it. TIA

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One of those unfortunately rude remarks.

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Agreed boxed brownies are excellent.
This ain't the 50's. Mixes have come a long way.

I'm sure you didn't mean anything by it. Was it the best way to phrase that? No, but the hostess doesn't sound like someone I'd want to socialize with. Prickly, and not very good on her feet. Sometimes friends, acquaintances, and co workers will say something unintentionally indelicate. That's life. Learn to roll with it.
She's sounds like the kind of personality just looking to be offended. Life's too short for that.
Brush it off OP.

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Anonymous wrote:No big deal. Also, some boxed brownies are delish, so I would never pass judgement if they were boxed or not. I think your friend is overly sensitive. The main point to your comment was that the brownies were good.

+1

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Great I want brownies now.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, rude.

Yes, rude. Clearly rude. You saw her response, and that of the other woman at the table. Someone at the gathering said something to you, then your DH mentioned it to you on the car ride home. Still, you post, wondering if it was rude?

Yes.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, rude.

Yes, rude. Clearly rude. You saw her response, and that of the other woman at the table. Someone at the gathering said something to you, then your DH mentioned it to you on the car ride home. Still, you post, wondering if it was rude?

Yes.

Yes, you are right. I understand that I was rude but it was not malicious. Lesson learned though.

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I think you just put your foot in your mouth. It happens to all of us. Try to forget about it; you can't really apologize. In a few days it will trouble you (to the extent it is now) less.

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Looking at another guest and rolling her eyes was way ruder, IMO. What a bitchy thing for the host to do.

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Anonymous wrote:Looking at another guest and rolling her eyes was way ruder, IMO. What a bitchy thing for the host to do.

I totally agree with this. Your rudeness was about a 3. Her rudeness was off the charts. This isn't someone I'd want to hang out with. She acts like she's 11.

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I ask this question frequently.

Maybe next time ask it in person instead of in front of the rest of the other guests.

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Anonymous wrote:The rolling eyes makes me think you have a reputation of being stuck up and judgemental. Maybe reassess your behavior. Especially since everyone, including your DH, said you were rude.

+1.

Asking about the brownies is absolutely NOT offensive. I can't think of a single person who would be offended by that.

So either your friend is crazy and easily offended (quite possible). Or it was the straw that broke the camel's back.

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Anonymous wrote:

doodlebug wrote:Is her son named Duncan? If not then they're Duncan Hines boxed. To the PP who is proud of having a scratch recipe mistake for boxed...WHY? Boxed brownies taste like chemicals and preservatives. Why would you want your homemade brownies to taste like they came from a chemistry lab?

No they don't, shut up. Boxed brownies are like the one thing everyone admits set the gold standard for brownies. It's almost not even worth doing scratch when you have ghirardelli boxed mix.

lol. Nothing that comes in a box is the gold standard for anything. It takes two minutes to make brownies from scratch. They have pretty much the same number of ingredients as the boxed stuff except no nasty preservatives. Who are you? Clark W Griswold?

Huh? There are no preservatives. These are not pre-made brownies that have to last weeks on a shelf.
So then by your previous statement, they have the same ingredients... and therefore, why waste time?