Was this rude of me?

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You were rude

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Anonymous wrote:Who makes brownies from scratch?

Me. Cakes too. I will never understand why people use box mixes.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. I wouldn't be offended at all, but then again I'm not a sensitive snob.

+1 I can't fathom why anyone would waste time being offended by something like this. But like PP, I'm generally chill.

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Maybe small faux pas, but NBD in the scheme of things. The hostess was rude in her response! Rolling her eyes in front of you? No thanks .

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Anonymous wrote:Who makes brownies from scratch?

Francesca

It turn out she doesn't. Busted!

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Op here. Thanks for the different perspectives. And yes, next time I will keep my mouth shut about how any food was made.
To the pp who asked what else was served- there was a salad with berry vinaigrette and a roast chicken with green beans. There was also some spiced nuts she apparently made.
I thought the food was pretty good, boxed brownies included.
This is only my second time at her house and she has always seemed friendly and nice. Which was why I was surprised at her reaction. But live and learn. People are sensitive about their cooking!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who makes brownies from scratch?

Francesca

Katherine Hepburn and everyone

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doodlebug wrote:Is her son named Duncan? If not then they're Duncan Hines boxed. To the PP who is proud of having a scratch recipe mistake for boxed...WHY? Boxed brownies taste like chemicals and preservatives. Why would you want your homemade brownies to taste like they came from a chemistry lab?

You: Shut.

OP: I would have stopped at "tasty" in front of everyone, and asked more specific questions in the kitchen. But I do not think what you did is rude.

This. She was rude to roll her eyes at her friend.

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Yes, you were rude, because it's not relevant how the brownies were prepared. And, it doesn't sound like you were interested in duplicating them in your home. You just wanted her to admit to all the dinner guests that she used a box. That is pretty obnoxious of you. Probably why she rolled her eyes.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thanks for the different perspectives. And yes, next time I will keep my mouth shut about how any food was made.
To the pp who asked what else was served- there was a salad with berry vinaigrette and a roast chicken with green beans. There was also some spiced nuts she apparently made.
I thought the food was pretty good, boxed brownies included.
This is only my second time at her house and she has always seemed friendly and nice. Which was why I was surprised at her reaction. But live and learn. People are sensitive about their cooking!

She wasn't being sensitive about her cooking. She was being sensitive about the fact that after she hosted and cooked a lovely dinner you took a dig at her by asking were they boxed. That minimizes the effort that goes into hosting. Clearly you don't know this but it's bad form to question your hostess on the provenance of the food she serves. All you had to say was "These brownies are delicious, mine never turn out this good." If someone at my house did that I would say "oh my gosh, I don't even get credit, that's just box brownies, we aren't fancy!" Now if I made a lasagna dinner and other sides and wine and at the end some chick I barely even knew said "was that stouffer's?" then yes, I'd be a bit peeved by the bad manners.


Live and learn. Now you know better.

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The rolling eyes makes me think you have a reputation of being stuck up and judgemental. Maybe reassess your behavior. Especially since everyone, including your DH, said you were rude.

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Anonymous wrote:Who makes brownies from scratch?

Me. Cakes too. I will never understand why people use box mixes.

So do I. Brownies are like butter, cocoa, sugar, eggs, flour, and vanilla. Box mixes are delicious but making them from scratch really isn't that difficult.

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doodlebug wrote:Is her son named Duncan? If not then they're Duncan Hines boxed. To the PP who is proud of having a scratch recipe mistake for boxed...WHY? Boxed brownies taste like chemicals and preservatives. Why would you want your homemade brownies to taste like they came from a chemistry lab?

No they don't, shut up. Boxed brownies are like the one thing everyone admits set the gold standard for brownies. It's almost not even worth doing scratch when you have ghirardelli boxed mix.

lol. Nothing that comes in a box is the gold standard for anything. It takes two minutes to make brownies from scratch. They have pretty much the same number of ingredients as the boxed stuff except no nasty preservatives. Who are you? Clark W Griswold?

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Tone is everything, OP. I bet your tone sounded like you were trying to catch her out on something. And that is rude. Next time just say they're tasty. No reason to call her out in front of the whole group.

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Anonymous wrote:

doodlebug wrote:Is her son named Duncan? If not then they're Duncan Hines boxed. To the PP who is proud of having a scratch recipe mistake for boxed...WHY? Boxed brownies taste like chemicals and preservatives. Why would you want your homemade brownies to taste like they came from a chemistry lab?

No they don't, shut up. Boxed brownies are like the one thing everyone admits set the gold standard for brownies. It's almost not even worth doing scratch when you have ghirardelli boxed mix.

lol. Nothing that comes in a box is the gold standard for anything. It takes two minutes to make brownies from scratch. They have pretty much the same number of ingredients as the boxed stuff except no nasty preservatives. Who are you? Clark W Griswold?

Who are you, Julia Child? GMAFB.