Finding a sitter for morning monitoring appointments

[Anonymous]

PP again. There are already many, many (many, many) threads about whether it is appropriate to bring a child to a monitoring appt. at a clinic that says not to bring children. Do we really need to rehash that here?

[Anonymous]

If you think it's no big deal to have kids in the waiting room at SG, then petition SG for a change in policy. Don't violate a policy that others like because YOU don't see a benefit to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's super selfish to reject all good solutions to your childcare issue and then break the no children rule because you "couldn't" find care. Super selfish and lacking empathy. It makes me angry that people are suggesting that to an OP who has clearly not exhausted all avenues for care.

What "no children rule" are you talking about? When I went to CFA for treatment, they had a toy bin in the waiting area for older siblings.

Same with Dominion. If the PPs can't deal with seeing a child in a fertility office, how do they deal with seeing children during the course of their normal day?

[Anonymous]

Do you have a Nextdoor in your area? Lots of college kids home for the summer. There must be one near you. Ask a girl to come over and meet your son beforehand so that you aren't dumping him with a stranger. He will be fine. I promise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's super selfish to reject all good solutions to your childcare issue and then break the no children rule because you "couldn't" find care. Super selfish and lacking empathy. It makes me angry that people are suggesting that to an OP who has clearly not exhausted all avenues for care.

What "no children rule" are you talking about? When I went to CFA for treatment, they had a toy bin in the waiting area for older siblings.

Same with Dominion. If the PPs can't deal with seeing a child in a fertility office, how do they deal with seeing children during the course of their normal day?

I also find it hard to understand why it makes a difference to see a kid in the waiting room or in the elevator or on the street when you leave the clinic. Children exist and you will see them. You will see the pregnant woman the day you miscarry--these things happen. It sucks but at the same time, the world shouldn't conform to fit your issues. As they say, don't pave the world over, wear shoes.

[Anonymous]

Shady Grove should focus on hiring better financial counselors rather than making policies for moms struggling with infertility to bring their child in with them. Just my opinion on that clinic.

[Anonymous]

I'm really shocked that people are in disbelief when people share that it IS in fact difficult for them to see children in the waiting room at their RE's office. Some people can avoid children - certainly none at my office or gym. And if you shop for groceries at 9pm there usually aren't too many little kids. And if you just started spotting that very morning and you are heading in for a sure-to-be negative beta test, it is REALLY hard to see people disregard the rules and bring their fussy babies into the waiting room.

Try to be understanding and considerate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's super selfish to reject all good solutions to your childcare issue and then break the no children rule because you "couldn't" find care. Super selfish and lacking empathy. It makes me angry that people are suggesting that to an OP who has clearly not exhausted all avenues for care.

What "no children rule" are you talking about? When I went to CFA for treatment, they had a toy bin in the waiting area for older siblings.

Same with Dominion. If the PPs can't deal with seeing a child in a fertility office, how do they deal with seeing children during the course of their normal day?

I also find it hard to understand why it makes a difference to see a kid in the waiting room or in the elevator or on the street when you leave the clinic. Children exist and you will see them. You will see the pregnant woman the day you miscarry--these things happen. It sucks but at the same time, the world shouldn't conform to fit your issues. As they say, don't pave the world over, wear shoes.

Go away.

[Anonymous]

It's really not hard to get a sitter- you must not be trying hard enough.
There are many websites.Urbansitter.com Post on a neighborhood board. There are so many college students looking for jobs right now. Do you go to a church or something? You can tell your church leadership and I'm sure people would love to step forward and help.
Find an at-home daycare in your area.
So what if he cries a little- what you're doing is more important than avoiding him some tears.
Where I live, appoiments go from 6:45-11 (?)
Even if the appointment isn't available for when you want it, they are okay if you just go in when you can (if your appt is at 7, 8:30 is okay..)

[Anonymous]

Let the toddler play with your iPhone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh sweetie, it's time to get your sh*t together.
I remember you from six months ago, when I was lingering on this board during my last round of IVF. Now I'm considering DE, and I see you're back, too. If I lived anywhere near you if come watch your kid while you did monitoring, but I can't do the way out 'burbs.

You have many choices here, and they all involve either sacrifice, throwing money at a problem, or doing the thing that seems to be most uncomfortable to you: asking for help. (Welcome not just to parenthood, but adulthood!)

It's time for tough love and here are your options:

*get your husband to switch shifts or take a vacation day. Suck up the financial loss or loss of vacation time as a sacrifice for something you both want.
*ask your MIL to help.
*pay ridiculous amounts of money to a short term sitter to cover the morning shift while you do monitoring. Accept that your kid might not like it, but that it's just and hour out of their life, nothing more.
*get someone at your church or temple or gym or playgroup or library kids group or yoga class or WHATEVER to help you. Go do something to MAKE A FRIEND. Tell them you are in need.
*join the local RESOLVE support group, which meets monthly. Their email is [e-mail]. I bet they can help you find a fellow IVF traveler in your area who will help.
*ask a neighbor to drive with you to the clinic in the morning and to watch your (potentially screaming) kid in the car while you go in and do your thing. Tell your nurse you need to be in and out fast because you have issues that make everything challenging.

If none of these options work, then you are, for whatever reason, putting up your own road blocks to the thing you say you want. That's your trip, not anyone else's. And you seem to maybe have some legit reasons for dragging your heels on a second kid.

Best of luck to you.

+1

[Anonymous]

OP, you pretend to be trying to solve this, but clearly don't want to. canceling cycles because of such a minor issue seems ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

OP, do you actually want another child/do IVF? I ask because I was laser focused and dead set on being mother--I have to have all my children via IVF because we are severe MFI and I was childless before--and when I had a cancelled FET because of my thyroid, I was devastated and fought even harder. Also, you won't get much sympathy for your dilemma. I am going to be thrilled to pay for a sitter/ask a friend to watch my babies during monitoring when I go back for my next cycle.....because it means I am a mom and have a regular person problem!!

[Anonymous]

To to PP who shops at night -- that's not ridiculous. Good luck with your journey.

[Anonymous]

Hi Op , I live close to shady grove hospital 3 or 5 mns from the hospital I am a Sham, Have 20 months old son . Bring your son I can help you. Leave any contact info, or respond here .