Ex's New Girlfriend

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Anonymous wrote:What do you mean new gf? If he's exposing someone he just met then I would have a problem with that. Did you guys stipulate when dating you won't subject the kids to that until it's serious?

Right now I would make sure she's not allowed to babysit them if he's not around because you don't know her. I wouldn't care what or who that joker dates, BUT my kids would be another matter.

I did flip out when I found out she had been spending the night. He pretty much blew me off. I think they've been dating a year, going on a year?

When did she start coming around or sleeping over? So I'm assuming you've already checked her out online.

She works with him. They do not live together or even remotely close and I actually do not know when she started coming around because my ex lied to me about it. I asked him outright and he said she was not staying at his house, then I asked the kids and they said she was. He took her with on a vacation they went on, again he told me she wasn't going with, later the kids said she was there... but my hands are tied, what can I really do other than complain to him that I do not like it? It puts the kids in a crappy position that I'm asking them if "anyone else was there" and that dad is telling them not to tell me. So...

And of COURSE I appreciate that this person is treating my children well, that is not why I am posting and it's not the point. It still hurts and it's still a process to grieve through. I am supposed to just be thankful she's nice to my kids and move on? It sucks. IT SUCKS. It sucks she's posting shit online that she can't wait to give them hugs (on school booster donation campaigns), it sucks they go out to dinner for my kids' birthdays, it just hurts. That's all.

I'll get over it and I am mom and I know my kids love me, but I wasn't prepared for my youngest to say "look what I got from Miss Sarah!" and for it to feel so strange for her gift to be included in the list of family gifts that he loved. And for her to be there with them on vacation.

She can have my ex, but my kids,

I don't have anything useful to say because I'm in the same boat, my kids do the same thing with exDW. It sucks !!!
Those people asking about morality clauses - they're worthless.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean new gf? If he's exposing someone he just met then I would have a problem with that. Did you guys stipulate when dating you won't subject the kids to that until it's serious?

Right now I would make sure she's not allowed to babysit them if he's not around because you don't know her. I wouldn't care what or who that joker dates, BUT my kids would be another matter.

I did flip out when I found out she had been spending the night. He pretty much blew me off. I think they've been dating a year, going on a year?

When did she start coming around or sleeping over? So I'm assuming you've already checked her out online.

She works with him. They do not live together or even remotely close and I actually do not know when she started coming around because my ex lied to me about it. I asked him outright and he said she was not staying at his house, then I asked the kids and they said she was. He took her with on a vacation they went on, again he told me she wasn't going with, later the kids said she was there... but my hands are tied, what can I really do other than complain to him that I do not like it? It puts the kids in a crappy position that I'm asking them if "anyone else was there" and that dad is telling them not to tell me. So...

And of COURSE I appreciate that this person is treating my children well, that is not why I am posting and it's not the point. It still hurts and it's still a process to grieve through. I am supposed to just be thankful she's nice to my kids and move on? It sucks. IT SUCKS. It sucks she's posting shit online that she can't wait to give them hugs (on school booster donation campaigns), it sucks they go out to dinner for my kids' birthdays, it just hurts. That's all.

I'll get over it and I am mom and I know my kids love me, but I wasn't prepared for my youngest to say "look what I got from Miss Sarah!" and for it to feel so strange for her gift to be included in the list of family gifts that he loved. And for her to be there with them on vacation.

She can have my ex, but my kids,

I don't have anything useful to say because I'm in the same boat, my kids do the same thing with exDW. It sucks !!!
Those people asking about morality clauses - they're worthless.

High five, I feel your pain. What can we do about this?