Feel gut-punched by SIL's comment I overheard

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I understand OP. 16 years ago my SIL was quite drunk when over at our house. While I was holding her hair as she got sick she told me if I wasn't so damn nice she would hate my guts. She went on to say she would hate me because she was jealous of me in a bunch of different ways.

I don't think she remembers saying it. I don't bring it up. But I can see that it is true. And I will never forget it.

That was a compliment to you
GEEZUS CHRISTMAS!

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+2! My mom says this about her SIL all the time, to her face, because it's a compliment! Mom's SIL (my aunt) is beautiful, and talented (artist/painter), and a great mother, plus fun and funny to boot. When my mom says that she should hate her but can't, it's a cheeky compliment!

This would have made me feel more tender toward your SIL, not less. She was being honest with you in a moment of vulnerability, and yes - it was a compliment to you. It reflects that she wishes she were more like you. My goodness, PP!

Agree. Poor PP has been seething for 16 years over a compliment...

[Anonymous]

Gut-punched? OP, you're overreacting. WTF makes you feel so insecure around family?

[Anonymous]

OP, it would hurt my feelings, too. She said something scotty about you in front of a friend. I would tell her that it hurt my feelings and then kept it go. Don't count on her to 've your friend.

[Anonymous]

It was rude and I'd feel hurt, too. I'd back off for a while and see what happens. Let her be the one to plan the next get-together, or if you're both at a family event, visit with other family members.