Why should I feel guilty that I prepped my kid

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Anonymous wrote:AAP has enough space for everyone who qualifies, so what some other families do has no bearing on your child.

Sure it does. The teacher has had to give up trying to do much that requires real thinking and going more into depth now in my child's AAP center classroom, because half the class is the product of prepping and can't actually think at the level that a gifted program should bring out in gifted children. Oh but they can study and grind their little worker bee hearts out. They belong in gen ed, and gen ed should be higher quality. Ultimately I don't blame anyone for clawing and cheating their way out of the teach-to-the-lowest-ability gen ed mindset. Just don't kid yourself that it is without consequences.

And that's why Asian kids are admitted at lower rates to elite schools than their scores would suggest. They're hard workers, but they aren't creative or innovative thinkers. They aren't as smart IQ-wise as the white kids who have the same scores. Their scores overestimate their abilities.

I don't think this is actually true. I think this is something white people tell themselves to feel better.

I think the poster meant...They aren't as smart IQ-Colorwise...since color has so much to do with IQ.

Colleges see the test scores, they don't see IQ scores. So how can this poster say Asians aren't as smart IQ-wise as the white kids with the same scores?

Nevertheless, the Asians are significantly overrepresented at all the elite academic institutions, so maybe the alleged lack of creativity and innovativeness isn't such a
terrible handicap like this poster wants us to believe.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't. We didn't prep but if we did I wouldn't feel guilty. All these people who complain about test prep, talk to them when their kids get ready to take the SAT or ACT and I dare them to suggest no PSAT was taken and no prep courses were paid for.

AAP wasn't important enough for us to prep for so we didn't. 2 of my kids got in and 1 is too young, but had it been important to us, we would have prepped with no guilt. I can say with 100% certainty when the time comes we WILL do SAT prep for every single child. I had SAT prep, as did my husband. We got great scores and both went to Brown. I went on to get my JD from Harvard (with LSAT prep) and my DH got his MBA from Wharton at UPenn (he did GMAT prep). No guilt. No shame.

But a pathological need to trot out names of schools you attended as opposed to what you've contributed in life

My kid didn't prep for the PSAT or the SAT. He was a NMSF. So just because you needed to prep to get good scores, don't assume that everyone does.

I didn't need to prep to get good scores. I prepped to get great scores and admitted to schools with low acceptance rates. When you kid gets into an Ivy for undergrad and grad school and marries someone who does the same. Call me.

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't. We didn't prep but if we did I wouldn't feel guilty. All these people who complain about test prep, talk to them when their kids get ready to take the SAT or ACT and I dare them to suggest no PSAT was taken and no prep courses were paid for.

AAP wasn't important enough for us to prep for so we didn't. 2 of my kids got in and 1 is too young, but had it been important to us, we would have prepped with no guilt. I can say with 100% certainty when the time comes we WILL do SAT prep for every single child. I had SAT prep, as did my husband. We got great scores and both went to Brown. I went on to get my JD from Harvard (with LSAT prep) and my DH got his MBA from Wharton at UPenn (he did GMAT prep). No guilt. No shame.

But a pathological need to trot out names of schools you attended as opposed to what you've contributed in life

My kid didn't prep for the PSAT or the SAT. He was a NMSF. So just because you needed to prep to get good scores, don't assume that everyone does.

I didn't need to prep to get good scores. I prepped to get great scores and admitted to schools with low acceptance rates. When you kid gets into an Ivy for undergrad and grad school and marries someone who does the same. Call me.

What is your number? Signed Cornell & Brown

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't. We didn't prep but if we did I wouldn't feel guilty. All these people who complain about test prep, talk to them when their kids get ready to take the SAT or ACT and I dare them to suggest no PSAT was taken and no prep courses were paid for.

AAP wasn't important enough for us to prep for so we didn't. 2 of my kids got in and 1 is too young, but had it been important to us, we would have prepped with no guilt. I can say with 100% certainty when the time comes we WILL do SAT prep for every single child. I had SAT prep, as did my husband. We got great scores and both went to Brown. I went on to get my JD from Harvard (with LSAT prep) and my DH got his MBA from Wharton at UPenn (he did GMAT prep). No guilt. No shame.

But a pathological need to trot out names of schools you attended as opposed to what you've contributed in life

My kid didn't prep for the PSAT or the SAT. He was a NMSF. So just because you needed to prep to get good scores, don't assume that everyone does.

I didn't need to prep to get good scores. I prepped to get great scores and admitted to schools with low acceptance rates. When you kid gets into an Ivy for undergrad and grad school and marries someone who does the same. Call me.

I don't give a damn....call me when you get invited to sweden.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't. We didn't prep but if we did I wouldn't feel guilty. All these people who complain about test prep, talk to them when their kids get ready to take the SAT or ACT and I dare them to suggest no PSAT was taken and no prep courses were paid for.

AAP wasn't important enough for us to prep for so we didn't. 2 of my kids got in and 1 is too young, but had it been important to us, we would have prepped with no guilt. I can say with 100% certainty when the time comes we WILL do SAT prep for every single child. I had SAT prep, as did my husband. We got great scores and both went to Brown. I went on to get my JD from Harvard (with LSAT prep) and my DH got his MBA from Wharton at UPenn (he did GMAT prep). No guilt. No shame.

But a pathological need to trot out names of schools you attended as opposed to what you've contributed in life

My kid didn't prep for the PSAT or the SAT. He was a NMSF. So just because you needed to prep to get good scores, don't assume that everyone does.

I didn't need to prep to get good scores. I prepped to get great scores and admitted to schools with low acceptance rates. When you kid gets into an Ivy for undergrad and grad school and marries someone who does the same. Call me.

I don't give a damn....call me when you get invited to sweden.

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How do you even prep for these tests? I don't think prepping makes a big difference for NNAT or COGAT. It's just a way to make money off ultra competitive parents. Somebody is getting richer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't. We didn't prep but if we did I wouldn't feel guilty. All these people who complain about test prep, talk to them when their kids get ready to take the SAT or ACT and I dare them to suggest no PSAT was taken and no prep courses were paid for.

AAP wasn't important enough for us to prep for so we didn't. 2 of my kids got in and 1 is too young, but had it been important to us, we would have prepped with no guilt. I can say with 100% certainty when the time comes we WILL do SAT prep for every single child. I had SAT prep, as did my husband. We got great scores and both went to Brown. I went on to get my JD from Harvard (with LSAT prep) and my DH got his MBA from Wharton at UPenn (he did GMAT prep). No guilt. No shame.

But a pathological need to trot out names of schools you attended as opposed to what you've contributed in life

My kid didn't prep for the PSAT or the SAT. He was a NMSF. So just because you needed to prep to get good scores, don't assume that everyone does.

I didn't need to prep to get good scores. I prepped to get great scores and admitted to schools with low acceptance rates. When you kid gets into an Ivy for undergrad and grad school and marries someone who does the same. Call me.

I don't give a damn....call me when you get invited to sweden.

Been to Sweden. It was grand!

[Anonymous]

Anyone who plans to have their kids prep for SAT, ACT, LSAT, GMAT, GRE, or MCAT has a lot of nerve complaining about NNAT and CogAT prep. Maybe it's because you don't have older kids but 90% of people in this area prep for ACT and/or SAT. If you're not, you're in the minority and you can get a cookie!

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't. We didn't prep but if we did I wouldn't feel guilty. All these people who complain about test prep, talk to them when their kids get ready to take the SAT or ACT and I dare them to suggest no PSAT was taken and no prep courses were paid for.

AAP wasn't important enough for us to prep for so we didn't. 2 of my kids got in and 1 is too young, but had it been important to us, we would have prepped with no guilt. I can say with 100% certainty when the time comes we WILL do SAT prep for every single child. I had SAT prep, as did my husband. We got great scores and both went to Brown. I went on to get my JD from Harvard (with LSAT prep) and my DH got his MBA from Wharton at UPenn (he did GMAT prep). No guilt. No shame.

But a pathological need to trot out names of schools you attended as opposed to what you've contributed in life

My kid didn't prep for the PSAT or the SAT. He was a NMSF. So just because you needed to prep to get good scores, don't assume that everyone does.

I didn't need to prep to get good scores. I prepped to get great scores and admitted to schools with low acceptance rates. When yourkid gets into an Ivy for undergrad and grad school and marries someone who does the same. Call me.

I don't give a damn....call me when you get invited to sweden.

Been to Sweden. It was grand!

Signed Ivy

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't. We didn't prep but if we did I wouldn't feel guilty. All these people who complain about test prep, talk to them when their kids get ready to take the SAT or ACT and I dare them to suggest no PSAT was taken and no prep courses were paid for.

AAP wasn't important enough for us to prep for so we didn't. 2 of my kids got in and 1 is too young, but had it been important to us, we would have prepped with no guilt. I can say with 100% certainty when the time comes we WILL do SAT prep for every single child. I had SAT prep, as did my husband. We got great scores and both went to Brown. I went on to get my JD from Harvard (with LSAT prep) and my DH got his MBA from Wharton at UPenn (he did GMAT prep). No guilt. No shame.

But a pathological need to trot out names of schools you attended as opposed to what you've contributed in life

My kid didn't prep for the PSAT or the SAT. He was a NMSF. So just because you needed to prep to get good scores, don't assume that everyone does.

I didn't need to prep to get good scores. I prepped to get great scores and admitted to schools with low acceptance rates. When you kid gets into an Ivy for undergrad and grad school and marries someone who does the same. Call me.

I don't give a damn....call me when you get invited to sweden.

Been to Sweden. It was grand!

It was really cold when I was invited. December is cold in Sweden. Would love to go to scandanavia in the summer.

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Anonymous wrote:How do you even prep for these tests? I don't think prepping makes a big difference for NNAT or COGAT. It's just a way to make money off ultra competitive parents. Somebody is getting richer.

Agreed. OP, one should feel guilty only if prepping was extensive and effective enough to overcome all other checks and place a below borderline child in an environment where they are struggling. It’s my own belief that this result is nowhere near as common as folks on DCUM fear.

Critics like to point out the prepping culture of Asians. These same folks further a false belief that anyone who preps ONLY got in due to prepping. These clichés are somewhat incompatible. Chances are many of the top students in middle and high schools are Asian who “prepped” in early elementary as a prelude to AAP. Prepping likely had no effect other than to boost confidence. And if prepping got them in, what kept them going? If they did not deserve to be in AAP how can their continued success be explained?

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't. We didn't prep but if we did I wouldn't feel guilty. All these people who complain about test prep, talk to them when their kids get ready to take the SAT or ACT and I dare them to suggest no PSAT was taken and no prep courses were paid for.

AAP wasn't important enough for us to prep for so we didn't. 2 of my kids got in and 1 is too young, but had it been important to us, we would have prepped with no guilt. I can say with 100% certainty when the time comes we WILL do SAT prep for every single child. I had SAT prep, as did my husband. We got great scores and both went to Brown. I went on to get my JD from Harvard (with LSAT prep) and my DH got his MBA from Wharton at UPenn (he did GMAT prep). No guilt. No shame.

But a pathological need to trot out names of schools you attended as opposed to what you've contributed in life

My kid didn't prep for the PSAT or the SAT. He was a NMSF. So just because you needed to prep to get good scores, don't assume that everyone does.

I didn't need to prep to get good scores. I prepped to get great scores and admitted to schools with low acceptance rates. When your kid gets into an Ivy for undergrad and grad school and marries someone who does the same. Call me.

I don't give a damn....call me when you get invited to sweden.

Been to Sweden. It was grand!

Signed Ivy

Simmer down "Tiger Harvard Mom"...maybe you had to give up your career and live vicariously through your kids and the memory of what life used to be when you were young...but now your just like the rest of us regular non-Ivy league AAP parents...waiting for our DC to get home so you can prep the hell out of them so they can actually have success where you couldn't

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I didn't need to prep to get good scores. I prepped to get great scores and admitted to schools with low acceptance rates. When you kid gets into an Ivy for undergrad and grad school and marries someone who does the same. Call me.

This seems like such an awesome summation your personality, you should add it to your signature line.

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What happened to the other post about whites?

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't. We didn't prep but if we did I wouldn't feel guilty. All these people who complain about test prep, talk to them when their kids get ready to take the SAT or ACT and I dare them to suggest no PSAT was taken and no prep courses were paid for.

AAP wasn't important enough for us to prep for so we didn't. 2 of my kids got in and 1 is too young, but had it been important to us, we would have prepped with no guilt. I can say with 100% certainty when the time comes we WILL do SAT prep for every single child. I had SAT prep, as did my husband. We got great scores and both went to Brown. I went on to get my JD from Harvard (with LSAT prep) and my DH got his MBA from Wharton at UPenn (he did GMAT prep). No guilt. No shame.

But a pathological need to trot out names of schools you attended as opposed to what you've contributed in life

My kid didn't prep for the PSAT or the SAT. He was a NMSF. So just because you needed to prep to get good scores, don't assume that everyone does.

I didn't need to prep to get good scores. I prepped to get great scores and admitted to schools with low acceptance rates. When yourkid gets into an Ivy for undergrad and grad school and marries someone who does the same. Call me.

I don't give a damn....call me when you get invited to sweden.

Been to Sweden. It was grand!

Signed Ivy

This thread is pathetic. Step back and look at yourselves, people. All this bragging and competing on an anonymous mom forum - it's vulgar and pointless.