What is one thing your SO doesn't know about you?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have had an AP for the past year.

Same here.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recovered from a pretty serious eating disorder (former wrestler here). You wouldn't know it looking at me, for all intents and purposes now, but I nearly died from that stupid, stupid disease. Happened ten years before I got married and I just sort of don't talk about it.

DH doesn't know how extensive my eating disorder was and how it shapes my thoughts on my body image today, 25 years later. im paying the price now with gum recession, cavities and heart palpitations. DH knows about these but I've not shared my suspicion that my ED was direct cause.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That I have suicidal thoughts pretty often - and it's partly because I feel trapped in our marriage, and that is because I'm afraid if I walk away I'll be alone forever.

Hugs PP. Remember suicide is forever. Walking away from an unhappy marriage is not. Please ask a friend or family member for some help.

[Anonymous]

DW does not know the depths of my despair while in grad school. I tried to kill myself twice; first time, was the night the first gulf war began (and I stopped, because I wanted to watch it unfold); second time I was almost successful and spent a month in the psych ward. Thanks to a good therapist, a lot of hard work, and zoloft, I am ok now.

DW does not know some of my behavior then, including paying for sex, etc.

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I was a virgin until age 22. Too embarrassed to admit that to wife. I had a lot of girls between age 22-26 before I met wife after I lost some weight and quit smoking weed 24/7.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That I have suicidal thoughts pretty often - and it's partly because I feel trapped in our marriage, and that is because I'm afraid if I walk away I'll be alone forever.

If you are a woman it would be impossible to be alone forever. There is always a horndog or some needy, desperate guy out there.

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What is AP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is AP?

Somebody that has sex with you but does not want to spend the rest of their life with you and will throw you under the bus at the first sign of trouble. They tell you lies and it makes you feel good about yourself until it is over then they tell people lies about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW does not know the depths of my despair while in grad school. I tried to kill myself twice; first time, was the night the first gulf war began (and I stopped, because I wanted to watch it unfold); second time I was almost successful and spent a month in the psych ward. Thanks to a good therapist, a lot of hard work, and zoloft, I am ok now.

DW does not know some of my behavior then, including paying for sex, etc.

Glad you are doing better! I'm a DW who contemplated suicide twice in my 20's- even downing a bottle of meds at one point. I'm 38 now and no where near as desperate as I once was (Thank God! !)
DH doesn't know and I don't plan on ever telling him.

[Anonymous]

That about the time, I despise him. I keep a nice face for our 9 yr. old. Right now; can't stand him. Wish he travelled weeks at a time.

As he gets older, the more mean he gets. Not verbally abusive, but this morning he complained about how much creamer I put in my coffee. I told him to shove it up his ass. Our 9 yr. old was still asleep. Who the fuck cares about my coffee? Dear God!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That about the time, I despise him. I keep a nice face for our 9 yr. old. Right now; can't stand him. Wish he travelled weeks at a time.

As he gets older, the more mean he gets. Not verbally abusive, but this morning he complained about how much creamer I put in my coffee. I told him to shove it up his ass. Our 9 yr. old was still asleep. Who the fuck cares about my coffee? Dear God!

You do. I hope.

Fuck him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is AP?

Somebody that has sex with you but does not want to spend the rest of their life with you and will throw you under the bus at the first sign of trouble. They tell you lies and it makes you feel good about yourself until it is over then they tell people lies about you.

Affair partner.

But pp summed it up pretty well for a lot of people. Throwing under the bus I agree with, but the lies? Not my experience. But, I imagine it happens a lot. Crazy APs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That about the time, I despise him. I keep a nice face for our 9 yr. old. Right now; can't stand him. Wish he travelled weeks at a time.

As he gets older, the more mean he gets. Not verbally abusive, but this morning he complained about how much creamer I put in my coffee. I told him to shove it up his ass. Our 9 yr. old was still asleep. Who the fuck cares about my coffee? Dear God!

Wow. Overreact much?

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How many men I've slept with, or how many women (DW here).

guess we've already had the bisexual guy above, though.

DH is smart enough to never ask (it's not 100 or anything but more than you might expect) although most of my colleagues and friends would absolutely never guess.

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That I can't place on a map all of the states of the United States of America.