My wife refuses to tithe/give to our church

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just began fully tithing a month ago and man we've been blessed! It's unreal. A week after, we got a check from a company who previously refused to pay us the money they owed us. Tithing is not quid pro quo of course, but you give to God and He will surely provide for you. Just keep praying for her heart to soften.

This is a joke, right?

I pray for your heart to soften too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To be honest, it's kind of annoying.

She complains about how they're not helping her but have plenty of ability to help dysfunctional people. Today she told me for the 8th or 9th time that she doesn't want us to give anything.

She talks about strong families being important and how it's important for our kids a good religious background will be, etc., but gets annoyed when I talk about giving back to the church (and other charities), either in money or in time (she says we're too busy with a 9 y/o and a 2 y/o). Of course we have the money.

She's also the one who wanted us to join this church! (To be fair, it seems some of the more liberal churches are geared towards the rich, the old, and the single, and frankly don't seem to have much to offer middle-class/regular upper-middle class folks.)

I have been asked to be the preparer of the church bulletin and she gets annoyed when I spend time preparing the bulletin and making copies of said bulletin (maybe 90 minutes max a week).

I don't know where to bring this up w/o throwing her under the bus to other members, so I figure this is a safe place to vent since she doesn't read this page. She is blind so a lot of "get her to do XXX" advice won't really work (although some will).

Yes in theory I can cut a check but it's out of the same pot of money and replace "giving to church without my spouse's consent" with "buying a new XXX without my spouse's consent."

Please pray for me and my family, and that either I can be more at peace with how my wife is, or that some resolution can be found (new church, leaving organized religion altogether, her coming around to my way of thinking, etc.)

We tithe around 30% of gross income every year, to the Church of the White House and their local DC temple.

[Anonymous]

Do you live in a house that is as expensive as the one the priest lives in?
I ask because true religion is not offering money to the priest, but helping widows and orphans

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell that cheap woman there is no free ride to heaven.

Actually there is: "For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord." Romans 6:23.

Giving to church comes out of a grateful heart toward the Lord Jesus, who died for our sins when we didn't deserve it. But you can't give money or do anything else to earn your trip to Heaven. It's a free gift from God to those who believe in Christ as their Savior.

Ok, so when they don't run the A/C b/c they can't afford electricity, you better not complain!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell that cheap woman there is no free ride to heaven.

Actually there is: "For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord." Romans 6:23.

Giving to church comes out of a grateful heart toward the Lord Jesus, who died for our sins when we didn't deserve it. But you can't give money or do anything else to earn your trip to Heaven. It's a free gift from God to those who believe in Christ as their Savior.

Ok, so when they don't run the A/C b/c they can't afford electricity, you better not complain!

Love of God is related to your wealth

[Anonymous]

We stopped tithing and now we have $20K in one college savings account and $8K in another.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just began fully tithing a month ago and man we've been blessed! It's unreal. A week after, we got a check from a company who previously refused to pay us the money they owed us. Tithing is not quid pro quo of course, but you give to God and He will surely provide for you. Just keep praying for her heart to soften.

This is a joke, right?

I pray for your heart to soften too.

My heart is plenty soft, thanks! I just don't believe that God is a "pay to play" sort of a guy. Sorry your church duped you into believing that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be honest, it's kind of annoying.

She complains about how they're not helping her but have plenty of ability to help dysfunctional people. Today she told me for the 8th or 9th time that she doesn't want us to give anything.

She talks about strong families being important and how it's important for our kids a good religious background will be, etc., but gets annoyed when I talk about giving back to the church (and other charities), either in money or in time (she says we're too busy with a 9 y/o and a 2 y/o). Of course we have the money.

She's also the one who wanted us to join this church! (To be fair, it seems some of the more liberal churches are geared towards the rich, the old, and the single, and frankly don't seem to have much to offer middle-class/regular upper-middle class folks.)

I have been asked to be the preparer of the church bulletin and she gets annoyed when I spend time preparing the bulletin and making copies of said bulletin (maybe 90 minutes max a week).

I don't know where to bring this up w/o throwing her under the bus to other members, so I figure this is a safe place to vent since she doesn't read this page. She is blind so a lot of "get her to do XXX" advice won't really work (although some will).

Yes in theory I can cut a check but it's out of the same pot of money and replace "giving to church without my spouse's consent" with "buying a new XXX without my spouse's consent."

Please pray for me and my family, and that either I can be more at peace with how my wife is, or that some resolution can be found (new church, leaving organized religion altogether, her coming around to my way of thinking, etc.)

We tithe around 30% of gross income every year, to the Church of the White House and their local DC temple.

Hahaha! I haven't drunk enough coffee yet. I read that and thought "Sooooo, you're Mormon? I thought they only required 10%?" I thought White House was referring to their DC temple, then I got confused because you mentioned the temple in the next sentence. More coffee for me!

[Anonymous]

Yup all those blessings applied to the Israelites. Jesus comes in the new Testament and resets everything including all the prosperity gospel bs that some churches still cling to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be honest, it's kind of annoying.

She complains about how they're not helping her but have plenty of ability to help dysfunctional people. Today she told me for the 8th or 9th time that she doesn't want us to give anything.

She talks about strong families being important and how it's important for our kids a good religious background will be, etc., but gets annoyed when I talk about giving back to the church (and other charities), either in money or in time (she says we're too busy with a 9 y/o and a 2 y/o). Of course we have the money.

She's also the one who wanted us to join this church! (To be fair, it seems some of the more liberal churches are geared towards the rich, the old, and the single, and frankly don't seem to have much to offer middle-class/regular upper-middle class folks.)

I have been asked to be the preparer of the church bulletin and she gets annoyed when I spend time preparing the bulletin and making copies of said bulletin (maybe 90 minutes max a week).

I don't know where to bring this up w/o throwing her under the bus to other members, so I figure this is a safe place to vent since she doesn't read this page. She is blind so a lot of "get her to do XXX" advice won't really work (although some will).

Yes in theory I can cut a check but it's out of the same pot of money and replace "giving to church without my spouse's consent" with "buying a new XXX without my spouse's consent."

Please pray for me and my family, and that either I can be more at peace with how my wife is, or that some resolution can be found (new church, leaving organized religion altogether, her coming around to my way of thinking, etc.)

We tithe around 30% of gross income every year, to the Church of the White House and their local DC temple.

Hahaha! I haven't drunk enough coffee yet. I read that and thought "Sooooo, you're Mormon? I thought they only required 10%?" I thought White House was referring to their DC temple, then I got confused because you mentioned the temple in the next sentence. More coffee for me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yup all those blessings applied to the Israelites. Jesus comes in the new Testament and resets everything including all the prosperity gospel bs that some churches still cling to.

Jesus did not say a wife must tithe to the church.
Tithing was practiced by farmers (men) and they gave an offering of the wheat harvest. They did not need to provide butter or oil
Womens earning were never required by the temple

Perhaps today the churches prefer to be like businesses. As such, they should be funded by men, unless women get to run the churches too