My wife refuses to tithe/give to our church

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We just began fully tithing a month ago and man we've been blessed! It's unreal. A week after, we got a check from a company who previously refused to pay us the money they owed us. Tithing is not quid pro quo of course, but you give to God and He will surely provide for you. Just keep praying for her heart to soften.

Was there a Nigerian Prince signing the check?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We just began fully tithing a month ago and man we've been blessed! It's unreal. A week after, we got a check from a company who previously refused to pay us the money they owed us. Tithing is not quid pro quo of course, but you give to God and He will surely provide for you. Just keep praying for her heart to soften.

My brain is paralyzed by the almost innumerable snarky things this post deserves as a response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi, OP... as with many things, we have to let go and let God take care of her heart. You have to give that up to Him. Our nature is to want to control when in reality, it's the Holy Spirit that does the work.

I agree with this poster, and she said it much better than I could have.

I just said a prayer for her heart though! And some peace for you right now accepting what is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just began fully tithing a month ago and man we've been blessed! It's unreal. A week after, we got a check from a company who previously refused to pay us the money they owed us. Tithing is not quid pro quo of course, but you give to God and He will surely provide for you. Just keep praying for her heart to soften.

My brain is paralyzed by the almost innumerable snarky things this post deserves as a response.

I'm a different poster - but I just have to throw this in. We joined a new church within the past year and for the first time in our married lives, we're both fully on board. We love the church, it's mission, the pastor, the familes, etc. We both felt God lead us to tithing, even though I write the checks monthly rather than weekly, because it was still a little hard to say goodbye to that much money. My point is, that we both wanted to tithe here, but it is still a mental struggle sometimes. In any case, though, like the PP, we have been blessed financially over and over since we have joined this church. Is it the tithing? Being more connected to the church? Luck? I have no idea. I do like to believe that as we entrust God with our finances, he rewards us and makes sure we are provided for. Like PP, we have received many financial rewards such as several thousand dollar credit card refund, unexpected checks and pay raises. I'm not saying oh, go tithe and be rewarded - but rather, trust God and you will be taken care of.

Snark away...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just began fully tithing a month ago and man we've been blessed! It's unreal. A week after, we got a check from a company who previously refused to pay us the money they owed us. Tithing is not quid pro quo of course, but you give to God and He will surely provide for you. Just keep praying for her heart to soften.

My brain is paralyzed by the almost innumerable snarky things this post deserves as a response.

I'm a different poster - but I just have to throw this in. We joined a new church within the past year and for the first time in our married lives, we're both fully on board. We love the church, it's mission, the pastor, the familes, etc. We both felt God lead us to tithing, even though I write the checks monthly rather than weekly, because it was still a little hard to say goodbye to that much money. My point is, that we both wanted to tithe here, but it is still a mental struggle sometimes. In any case, though, like the PP, we have been blessed financially over and over since we have joined this church. Is it the tithing? Being more connected to the church? Luck? I have no idea. I do like to believe that as we entrust God with our finances, he rewards us and makes sure we are provided for. Like PP, we have received many financial rewards such as several thousand dollar credit card refund, unexpected checks and pay raises. I'm not saying oh, go tithe and be rewarded - but rather, trust God and you will be taken care of.

Snark away...

Thanks. I'm the PP and just writing a response to.the skeptics. But, you said it much better. Malachi 3:10.

[Anonymous]

You are not supposed to give your tithes to the church, but to a Levite priest, and in the form of grain harvested from your field. You cannot even donate a cow unless you already have 10 cows.

The church is supposed to be funded by men, as it is being run by men. Women are to be silent in a congregation.
There is no need for this institution to also have the money/income of the women.

If the priest wants a new pair of shoes, tell him to and buy it himself, just like the Levite priests used to

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just began fully tithing a month ago and man we've been blessed! It's unreal. A week after, we got a check from a company who previously refused to pay us the money they owed us. Tithing is not quid pro quo of course, but you give to God and He will surely provide for you. Just keep praying for her heart to soften.

My brain is paralyzed by the almost innumerable snarky things this post deserves as a response.

I'm a different poster - but I just have to throw this in. We joined a new church within the past year and for the first time in our married lives, we're both fully on board. We love the church, it's mission, the pastor, the familes, etc. We both felt God lead us to tithing, even though I write the checks monthly rather than weekly, because it was still a little hard to say goodbye to that much money. My point is, that we both wanted to tithe here, but it is still a mental struggle sometimes. In any case, though, like the PP, we have been blessed financially over and over since we have joined this church. Is it the tithing? Being more connected to the church? Luck? I have no idea. I do like to believe that as we entrust God with our finances, he rewards us and makes sure we are provided for. Like PP, we have received many financial rewards such as several thousand dollar credit card refund, unexpected checks and pay raises. I'm not saying oh, go tithe and be rewarded - but rather, trust God and you will be taken care of.

Snark away...

As soon as a coin the coffer rings, a soul to heaven springs.
Can you not see you are practicing legalism, not faith. You are buying God. It must be easy to be a Christian when you have money

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just began fully tithing a month ago and man we've been blessed! It's unreal. A week after, we got a check from a company who previously refused to pay us the money they owed us. Tithing is not quid pro quo of course, but you give to God and He will surely provide for you. Just keep praying for her heart to soften.

My brain is paralyzed by the almost innumerable snarky things this post deserves as a response.

I'm a different poster - but I just have to throw this in. We joined a new church within the past year and for the first time in our married lives, we're both fully on board. We love the church, it's mission, the pastor, the familes, etc. We both felt God lead us to tithing, even though I write the checks monthly rather than weekly, because it was still a little hard to say goodbye to that much money. My point is, that we both wanted to tithe here, but it is still a mental struggle sometimes. In any case, though, like the PP, we have been blessed financially over and over since we have joined this church. Is it the tithing? Being more connected to the church? Luck? I have no idea. I do like to believe that as we entrust God with our finances, he rewards us and makes sure we are provided for. Like PP, we have received many financial rewards such as several thousand dollar credit card refund, unexpected checks and pay raises. I'm not saying oh, go tithe and be rewarded - but rather, trust God and you will be taken care of.

Snark away...

As soon as a coin the coffer rings, a soul to heaven springs.
Can you not see you are practicing legalism, not faith. You are buying God. It must be easy to be a Christian when you have money

I don't think it's legalism. We're not doing it because we're supposed to; we're doing this because we want to. Fine - I guess the 10% is a # defined by the old laws, but the giving, we really just want the church to use our money (provided by God, so really God's money) to do God's work.

[Anonymous]

Research church history. Churches did not have a doctrine of tithing, and it is a new phenome among American churches that emerged in the last 2 centuries. Catholics ask for 1%, the orthodox church does not set an amount.

There is no old law, only 1 chapter referring to a grain offering. A fool and his money are soon departed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just began fully tithing a month ago and man we've been blessed! It's unreal. A week after, we got a check from a company who previously refused to pay us the money they owed us. Tithing is not quid pro quo of course, but you give to God and He will surely provide for you. Just keep praying for her heart to soften.

My brain is paralyzed by the almost innumerable snarky things this post deserves as a response.

I'm a different poster - but I just have to throw this in. We joined a new church within the past year and for the first time in our married lives, we're both fully on board. We love the church, it's mission, the pastor, the familes, etc. We both felt God lead us to tithing, even though I write the checks monthly rather than weekly, because it was still a little hard to say goodbye to that much money. My point is, that we both wanted to tithe here, but it is still a mental struggle sometimes. In any case, though, like the PP, we have been blessed financially over and over since we have joined this church. Is it the tithing? Being more connected to the church? Luck? I have no idea. I do like to believe that as we entrust God with our finances, he rewards us and makes sure we are provided for. Like PP, we have received many financial rewards such as several thousand dollar credit card refund, unexpected checks and pay raises. I'm not saying oh, go tithe and be rewarded - but rather, trust God and you will be taken care of.

Snark away...

So God blesses you, but those starving people in the Congo, they just aren't getting with the program, is that it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just began fully tithing a month ago and man we've been blessed! It's unreal. A week after, we got a check from a company who previously refused to pay us the money they owed us. Tithing is not quid pro quo of course, but you give to God and He will surely provide for you. Just keep praying for her heart to soften.

My brain is paralyzed by the almost innumerable snarky things this post deserves as a response.

I'm a different poster - but I just have to throw this in. We joined a new church within the past year and for the first time in our married lives, we're both fully on board. We love the church, it's mission, the pastor, the familes, etc. We both felt God lead us to tithing, even though I write the checks monthly rather than weekly, because it was still a little hard to say goodbye to that much money. My point is, that we both wanted to tithe here, but it is still a mental struggle sometimes. In any case, though, like the PP, we have been blessed financially over and over since we have joined this church. Is it the tithing? Being more connected to the church? Luck? I have no idea. I do like to believe that as we entrust God with our finances, he rewards us and makes sure we are provided for. Like PP, we have received many financial rewards such as several thousand dollar credit card refund, unexpected checks and pay raises. I'm not saying oh, go tithe and be rewarded - but rather, trust God and you will be taken care of.

Snark away...

So God blesses you, but those starving people in the Congo, they just aren't getting with the program, is that it?

IF the starving gave 10% of their meager possessions, God would bless tem too. But are they doing that? Doubtful -- they're just scrounging around for food instead

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just began fully tithing a month ago and man we've been blessed! It's unreal. A week after, we got a check from a company who previously refused to pay us the money they owed us. Tithing is not quid pro quo of course, but you give to God and He will surely provide for you. Just keep praying for her heart to soften.

My brain is paralyzed by the almost innumerable snarky things this post deserves as a response.

I'm a different poster - but I just have to throw this in. We joined a new church within the past year and for the first time in our married lives, we're both fully on board. We love the church, it's mission, the pastor, the familes, etc. We both felt God lead us to tithing, even though I write the checks monthly rather than weekly, because it was still a little hard to say goodbye to that much money. My point is, that we both wanted to tithe here, but it is still a mental struggle sometimes. In any case, though, like the PP, we have been blessed financially over and over since we have joined this church. Is it the tithing? Being more connected to the church? Luck? I have no idea. I do like to believe that as we entrust God with our finances, he rewards us and makes sure we are provided for. Like PP, we have received many financial rewards such as several thousand dollar credit card refund, unexpected checks and pay raises. I'm not saying oh, go tithe and be rewarded - but rather, trust God and you will be taken care of.

Snark away...

As soon as a coin the coffer rings, a soul to heaven springs.
Can you not see you are practicing legalism, not faith. You are buying God. It must be easy to be a Christian when you have money

I don't think it's legalism. We're not doing it because we're supposed to; we're doing this because we want to. Fine - I guess the 10% is a # defined by the old laws, but the giving, we really just want the church to use our money (provided by God, so really God's money) to do God's work.

and if you see the pastor driving around in a corvette?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just began fully tithing a month ago and man we've been blessed! It's unreal. A week after, we got a check from a company who previously refused to pay us the money they owed us. Tithing is not quid pro quo of course, but you give to God and He will surely provide for you. Just keep praying for her heart to soften.

My brain is paralyzed by the almost innumerable snarky things this post deserves as a response.

I'm a different poster - but I just have to throw this in. We joined a new church within the past year and for the first time in our married lives, we're both fully on board. We love the church, it's mission, the pastor, the familes, etc. We both felt God lead us to tithing, even though I write the checks monthly rather than weekly, because it was still a little hard to say goodbye to that much money. My point is, that we both wanted to tithe here, but it is still a mental struggle sometimes. In any case, though, like the PP, we have been blessed financially over and over since we have joined this church. Is it the tithing? Being more connected to the church? Luck? I have no idea. I do like to believe that as we entrust God with our finances, he rewards us and makes sure we are provided for. Like PP, we have received many financial rewards such as several thousand dollar credit card refund, unexpected checks and pay raises. I'm not saying oh, go tithe and be rewarded - but rather, trust God and you will be taken care of.

Snark away...

Cod invented churches so ministers could make a living by people giving to the church thinking they were pleasing god and being convinced when good things happened to them, not thinking about all the horrible things happening to other people who are good christians, but who cannot afford to tithe. Apparently God loves money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cod invented churches so ministers could make a living by people giving to the church thinking they were pleasing god and being convinced when good things happened to them, not thinking about all the horrible things happening to other people who are good christians, but who cannot afford to tithe. Apparently God loves money.

Lighten up Francis, everyone suffers - tithe or no. Just because/if we've been financially blessed doesn't mean we don't have horrible things happen as well.

[Anonymous]

Should we tithe 10% of gross or net?

Thanks.