Ladies, are you heavier than your mother?

[Anonymous]

We're effectively the same - I'm about 4 inches taller but I just look like a taller version of her. When she was my age, she was thinner (but her diet basically just included water, lemon, and chicken)

Her mother, is probably her height but much, much smaller. She (and I) took after her father -- short and stocky.

[Anonymous]

My mom kept on the baby weight until done breastfeeding, just like me. It's heartening to me that she is thinner than me now!

[Anonymous]

My mom's always been overweight and on diets and I've always been thin except for when I gained some weight as a medication side effect and when I was pregnant (lost baby weight easily). I don't exercise much, although I do walk a fair amount. I take after my dad, body-wise.

[Anonymous]

I am heavier than my mother. I look just like my grandmother. My mother is thin and has never had any curves. I wore a 36D when I was 14. We just are not built the same.

[Anonymous]

I'm much thinner

[Anonymous]

No. I am also a little more petite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes but she obsesses over every. single. thing. that she puts in her mouth and I can't imagine living like that.

+1 And I actually have breasts.

[Anonymous]

I am heavier but also 5 inches taller, and very different body type. I am a size 10 and she's a 12-14 - her weight is in very different places.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, but I;m 6 inches taller and she has a smaller upper body and more booty and I have no hips/bum but a big chest and thicker waist and skinny legs.

I'd wager our BMIs are similar though?

[Anonymous]

My mom and I are about the same size - 6. She is a lot better at exercising than me though.

[Anonymous]

My mother battled her weight her entire life and I grew up watching and very aware of it. She tried every fad diet the 80s (and 90s and 2000s) had to offer. She would lose the weight, then gain it back and more. This cycle repeated until her weight, age and physical condition got to where she could no longer lose the weight and her mobility was beginning to be affected. She eventually had a fairly drastic type of bariatric surgery (not something "simple" like the lap band). I went with her for the surgery and stayed with her for the 4 days she was in the hospital afterwards. That likely will be the hardest thing I will have ever done, witnessed and been through in my life. Anyone who says weight loss surgery is taking the easy way out has no idea what they are talking about. At least for the type she had. So far, the results have been good, mostly because it forced the drastic lifestyle and mental changes she had been unable to adopt. Now she has not choice but is quite happy with that.

So, to answer your question, I am not heavier than my mother. When I was still carrying around about 25 lbs of baby weight with the desire but no plans to lose it when my youngest was around 2, it occurred to me that I could be going down her path. So I committed to frequent exercise and some diet changes. I do not want my kids to grow up seeing me struggle with my weight, as I did with my mother. And I definitely do not want to put my kids through what my mom put me through when she was in the hospital for her surgery. (She has no recollection of most of those days, and also has no idea how difficult it was for me and I'll never tell her.) I lost the baby weight and stay on top of keeping things within about a 5 lb window. I also try to be careful about not making big deal about it for my kids. We talk about healthy lifestyles and the focus is on physical activity. Good food choices is secondary but we try teach that indulgences are ok just not all the time. I hope I have struck the right balance, but if not, I'd rather err on the side of health than constant diet talk.

[Anonymous]

No, I've always been "the thin one."

[Anonymous]

My mom was always dieting and bemoaned how heavy she was. She died 10 years ago, but when I look at photos of her when she was around my age now, in her 40s, she looks like a perfectly normal weight. So sad she always felt she wasn't thin enough.

I was a skinny kid so her weight issues didn't affect me growing up. Unfortunately, I probably now weigh more than my mom did at my age.

[Anonymous]

My mother had a significant eating disorder and battled it her entire life until she died at 63. I'm much heavier (and also taller) and I dare say much happier.

[Anonymous]

Good grief, no. My mother was morbidly obese.