Confessions

[Anonymous]

i am forever indebted to the man or women who invented wine.

[Anonymous]

I wish I was younger so I can have one more kid. Didn't even want one, but now that she is two, I adore her and want another.

I get extremely irritated when I see babies, esp. well-to-do ones (over-dressed, expensive gear, with annoying looking moms). I want to smack rich moms and their precious little darlings. Sad part is, I have an awesome kid and husband, we are comfortable financially, so I don't have an excuse.

I wish my toddler was more assertive. I wish my husband was more assertive.

I wish I could be a SAHM and had more friends with kids that I can hang out with. I feel I have no one that I can relate to sometimes.

I used to be one of those mean posters on DCUM, but I stopped that last week and have only been posting helpful comments - I feel better. I wish I could quit DCUM - outside of the entertainment factor, I get nothing out of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I secretly think my baby is cuter than my sister's baby.

No shame in that. Your baby IS cuter.

[Anonymous]

If I could get my hands on it, I would take vicodin every single day. It works for emotional pain just as well as for physical pain. But I can't. So I'm unwillingly virtuous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I could get my hands on it, I would take vicodin every single day. It works for emotional pain just as well as for physical pain. But I can't. So I'm unwillingly virtuous.

If you had a real problem, you would find a way to get your hands on it. So I think you'll be fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to be one of those mean posters on DCUM, but I stopped that last week and have only been posting helpful comments - I feel better. I wish I could quit DCUM - outside of the entertainment factor, I get nothing out of it.

Amen. And it's a shame...

[Anonymous]

this thread is depressing

[Anonymous]

I imagine myself happily married to someone else. But have resigned myself to stay with him because of the kids. I figure I don't really know what true love/passion is so hopefully I won't miss it in my lifetime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I worry that my child's first word will be motherf*cker or douchebag because i say those words in traffic more often than I'd like.

LOL!! You crack me up. This made my day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Before I met my husband twelve years ago, I think I had sex with around 25-30 people, some of whose names I can't even remember. (Thank GOD I didn't get some sort of disease.) I did this because I had very low self esteem. I have no clue why.

You did it because of alcohol, probably. A lot of women I know - myself included - had sex with more people than we ever intended to. It nearly always seemed like a good idea at the time - things just happened naturally! Alcohol helped w/ the comfort level.

For me, and maybe for you, I would start dating someone I liked, and things would progress to sex after a few dates or a couple months of dating. Then the relationship would fizzle and a few months later I'd be like, "why did I have sex with him?" or "why did i even date him?" But it made perfect sense at the time. If you meet people pretty easily and you're reasonably cute, you can rack up quite a number if you're single for a few years, even if you're dating monogamously and not acting particularly "slutty."

in my case, I did get a disease - herpes - but ironically, not from a casual encounter or short-term boyfriend, but from the guy i considered marrying. it was really annoying. here i'd been SO careful about protection and the first guy I trust enough to eventually stop using condoms, i get an STD? really shook me!

(sorry to digress from the chat - this one just spoke to me for some reason!)

OP here. It wasn't alcohol. I seriously had no respect, and oftentimes I slept with guys on the first (and last) date. It's strange because I'm a really strong, well educated, well bred (if you will) woman. Thing was, I was "in love" with a boyfriend, he dumped me after ... 5 months or so ... and I just, well, lost it.

[Anonymous]

I can relate with the sexual regrets and I have a similar "well bred" background.

I've slept with 6 guys total, but I really shouldn't have slept with 2 of them, and I REALLY shouldn't have slept with 1 one of them - totally wasted one night stand that I am not proud of. Sadly we were really good friends in high school, reconnected just after graduating from college, and because of that night - I am too ashamed to ever go to a high school reunion, etc. (I went to a pretty small high school where a lot of the kids have known each other since kindergarten).

I do think the 2 mistakes was a self-esteem thing - wanting to prove I was young and fun etc. I totally regret it and I'm really lucky I didn't end up with a disease or pregnant, but we did use condoms so at least I wasn't THAT wasted.

Sadly, looking back there is no reason - I was in my early 20s I was cute, and well educated, starting a good career, smart, had good friends.... why? I hope my daughter has more confidence.

Now that I'm in my 30s I think I am more comfortable with myself - and it's a shame that youth really is wasted on the young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I secretly think my baby is cuter than my sister's baby.

No shame in that. Your baby IS cuter.

But, who's hotter, you or sis ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can relate with the sexual regrets and I have a similar "well bred" background.

I've slept with 6 guys total, but I really shouldn't have slept with 2 of them, and I REALLY shouldn't have slept with 1 one of them - totally wasted one night stand that I am not proud of. Sadly we were really good friends in high school, reconnected just after graduating from college, and because of that night - I am too ashamed to ever go to a high school reunion, etc. (I went to a pretty small high school where a lot of the kids have known each other since kindergarten).

I do think the 2 mistakes was a self-esteem thing - wanting to prove I was young and fun etc. I totally regret it and I'm really lucky I didn't end up with a disease or pregnant, but we did use condoms so at least I wasn't THAT wasted.

Sadly, looking back there is no reason - I was in my early 20s I was cute, and well educated, starting a good career, smart, had good friends.... why? I hope my daughter has more confidence.

Now that I'm in my 30s I think I am more comfortable with myself - and it's a shame that youth really is wasted on the young.

Now, what are you going to to when your daughter does that at an earlier age than you ?

[Anonymous]

Another one with a sexual past here. Only sex with 3 guys total (including DH), but I was an "everything but..." with more than I can count. I was a BJ pro. I blame alcohol for some but just myself for the others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can relate with the sexual regrets and I have a similar "well bred" background.

I've slept with 6 guys total, but I really shouldn't have slept with 2 of them, and I REALLY shouldn't have slept with 1 one of them - totally wasted one night stand that I am not proud of. Sadly we were really good friends in high school, reconnected just after graduating from college, and because of that night - I am too ashamed to ever go to a high school reunion, etc. (I went to a pretty small high school where a lot of the kids have known each other since kindergarten).

I do think the 2 mistakes was a self-esteem thing - wanting to prove I was young and fun etc. I totally regret it and I'm really lucky I didn't end up with a disease or pregnant, but we did use condoms so at least I wasn't THAT wasted.

Sadly, looking back there is no reason - I was in my early 20s I was cute, and well educated, starting a good career, smart, had good friends.... why? I hope my daughter has more confidence.

Now that I'm in my 30s I think I am more comfortable with myself - and it's a shame that youth really is wasted on the young.

Now, what are you going to to when your daughter does that at an earlier age than you ?

I'm not PP, but a) she said she hopes to raise a child with more confidence than she had. I imagine that's a hope many of us share. I know I do. b) My children don't need to know all the details of my wilder days. c) I hope to use some of my more... regrettable experiences as a cautionary tale. I'm sure a lot of us have done things we wouldn't want our children to repeat.