Kids that never throw tantrums?

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I would be worried if your kids are overly passive. That's just as weird as an occasional tantrum.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you think special needs kids have more tantrums? My SN kid has never had one. Ever. Two normal kids -- lots of tantrums.

If I saw a child hitting, kicking and screaming at their parent I would assume it was special needs related.

Hitting, kicking and screaming has nothing to do with special needs. My kid is special needs and has only hit another child once, who deserved it after hitting him many many times. He got sick of being hit, waited till I couldn't stop it, hit the child and that child never hit my kid again. Kids have tantrums. Hitting is not ok, but its NORMAL to have tantrums.

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Anonymous wrote:I would be worried if your kids are overly passive. That's just as weird as an occasional tantrum.

I'd be concerned the kids are sacred of the parents.

[Anonymous]

I think it has to do with personality and also how well they can verbalize. Maybe some parenting too. Mine is 2.5 and has had some meltdowns but no real crazy tantrums. But her verbal skills are off the chart and her teacher says she's very mature for her age. I know we have the threenager stage coming though, so perhaps she's saving her tantrums for then.

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Anonymous wrote:I have two. First was pretty even-keeled, never really threw a tantrum except for occasional meltdowns (i.e. crying hard for a minor issue, but nothing more). My second, totally different. Colic, demanding baby even as he grew up, basically he's been tantruming from birth. At about 13 months, he did his first full out lying-down kicking & screaming fit and I was like, whoa kid, this is going to be a long toddlerhood. (He is also more social and affectionate than my first - just *more* everything.) Given my experience I don't think parenting has any bearing on the *tendency* to tantrum, but may help in terms of handling them/ teaching your child self-regulation, etc.

This! I have one child that throws tantrums and one that does not. It is their nature. I don't give in and I don't back down. Other parents on this thread would probably judge my parenting and say it's my fault, which frustrates me, because I have read the books, I don't give in, and I try to stay calm. But he has been this way since birth. I hope it will serve him well in life as he gets older.

I have a friend who is very low key. Her kids never yell and scream and she has indicated that is how they are at home too. Her children are also very passive and don't have a lot of personality. It just is who they are. My son has a very "animated" personality.

[Anonymous]

Our DC1 never threw a tantrum. When DC2 (2 years younger) started throwing tantrums, we thought something was wrong with DC2 at first, since DC1 had never thrown tantrums. A few years later we saw that DC1 was having trouble with listening to directions and transitioning between activities. Recently diagnosed with ADHD, while DC2 who threw category 4 tantrums is now a quiet easy-going child. Each child has their own temperament and what you see early on is not always predictive of what you will see later or how good your parenting skills are.

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Anonymous wrote:Older DS never threw a tantrum.
Younger DD is very, shall we say, *dramatic*???

Hah. Laughing because my 5 yr old will often look at my 3 yr DD (in the middle of an epic tantrum) and say calmly 'You don't need to be so dramatic about it. We can hear just fine if you use your words'.
Which just gets the little one even more annoyed

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Anonymous wrote:I think it has to do with personality and also how well they can verbalize. Maybe some parenting too. Mine is 2.5 and has had some meltdowns but no real crazy tantrums. But her verbal skills are off the chart and her teacher says she's very mature for her age. I know we have the threenager stage coming though, so perhaps she's saving her tantrums for then.

My son was incredibly verbal, a kid who was cracking jokes with the neighbors at 18 months, and still had the most epic tantrums until he hit 5 even though he had all the verbal skills he needed to express himself at a young age. My daughter, who is not as verbal, is still having tantrums at 5.5. Drives me nuts. But they are assertive, outgoing kids who like to do things for themselves and engage with other people without any fear. I'm hoping that's the upside.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a lucky one - a few at-home meltdowns but never a public tantrum (or even misbehaving...it's like she saves it for home). I know it has nothing to do with me or my parenting style but I will take it and appreciate the sh*t out of it as long as it lasts!!!

OP here. I knew I couldn't be the only lucky one! This is just not the sort of thing you can ask people IRL. Not without sounding really obnoxious!

Are you also OP of parenting credit thread? You have same smug tone. Obnoxious is right.

OP here. No, I am not the OP of that other thread. Sorry I come off as obnoxious. I should have known better than to ask a question like this here.

I dont think you sound obnoxious at all. It's a fair question and like you said, where else can you ask?

Thanks PP. And actually I've found the responses here to be really interesting.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a lucky one - a few at-home meltdowns but never a public tantrum (or even misbehaving...it's like she saves it for home). I know it has nothing to do with me or my parenting style but I will take it and appreciate the sh*t out of it as long as it lasts!!!

OP here. I knew I couldn't be the only lucky one! This is just not the sort of thing you can ask people IRL. Not without sounding really obnoxious!

Are you also OP of parenting credit thread? You have same smug tone. Obnoxious is right.

OP here. No, I am not the OP of that other thread. Sorry I come off as obnoxious. I should have known better than to ask a question like this here.

I dont think you sound obnoxious at all. It's a fair question and like you said, where else can you ask?

Thanks PP. And actually I've found the responses here to be really interesting.

I agree this thread is not obnoxious, because the posters are not claiming credit for their kids' lack of tantrums. What would be obnoxious is the self-congratulatory and ridiculous kind of thing like "My kids have never had tantrums because I breastfed/always made sure they napped/gave them vegetables/don't allow screen time/give them a Serious Look and they know I mean business/am generally a great parent."

[Anonymous]

I have two sons (3 and 5) and neither has ever had a full blown tantrum in public, at least that I can recall. I only remember one kicking and screaming tantrum from my older one on the living room floor and he ended up falling asleep on the floor after about 5 minutes.

[Anonymous]

My first tried it once, she saw her little friend do it, whose parents gave in and I guess thought she'd give it a try.

I laughed at her and walked away. That was her only attempt at a screaming on the floor tantrum.

[Anonymous]

I've got twins. Both are parented exactly the same. One is a huge tantrum throwing - complete with the throwing herself on the floor, hitting, screaming, etc. The other has never thrown a tantrum. Its all personality based.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a lucky one - a few at-home meltdowns but never a public tantrum (or even misbehaving...it's like she saves it for home). I know it has nothing to do with me or my parenting style but I will take it and appreciate the sh*t out of it as long as it lasts!!!

OP here. I knew I couldn't be the only lucky one! This is just not the sort of thing you can ask people IRL. Not without sounding really obnoxious!

Are you also OP of parenting credit thread? You have same smug tone. Obnoxious is right.

OP here. No, I am not the OP of that other thread. Sorry I come off as obnoxious. I should have known better than to ask a question like this here.

I dont think you sound obnoxious at all. It's a fair question and like you said, where else can you ask?

Thanks PP. And actually I've found the responses here to be really interesting.

I agree this thread is not obnoxious, because the posters are not claiming credit for their kids' lack of tantrums. What would be obnoxious is the self-congratulatory and ridiculous kind of thing like "My kids have never had tantrums because I breastfed/always made sure they napped/gave them vegetables/don't allow screen time/give them a Serious Look and they know I mean business/am generally a great parent."

Ha! I love that serious look one. I would love to see someone try to stop my son's epic fits with a look. Please, show me the way. But they prob know their kids better and also have nipped in the bud, so whatevs, I will just have to keep on sucking.

[Anonymous]

Mine never did either. Now I guess you don't feel so special.