Kids that never throw tantrums?

[Anonymous]

First, let me preface this by saying I don't mean this to be a brag or a fake question to hide a brag. I really want to know: Do any of you have kids that don't ever throw temper tantrums?

The "Bad Mommy" thread where her son was hitting and kicking and screaming made me wonder how frequent those kinds of outbursts are. I mean for kids that don't have any special needs.

I have three kids, between the ages seven and two and I can honestly say none of mine have ever thrown a tantrum like that. They have cried and had had meltdowns before, but never throwing themselves on the floor, kicking and screaming kinds of meltdowns.

Am I just really lucky? Some genetic fluke? It seems like a normal developmental phase so I doubt my parenting really has anything to do with it.

What say you DCUM? Have all your kids thrown tantrums or are there other lucky moms like me that haven't had to deal with them?

[Anonymous]

Well, troll, you know your own kids, right?

[Anonymous]

God really, how am I a troll? If this is a troll post, what does troll even mean?

[Anonymous]

Each threw one tantrum (I have four) except one kid. She's nine, and we joke that she's saving it and when it comes, it'll be epic.

Their one tantrums didn't involve hitting though. One refused to hold my hand walking into a busy parking lot and stood on the curb and screamed. One refused to come into a store with me and stood on the sidewalk and screamed. One laid down on the floor in total silence at the top of a staircase. I literally grabbed her ankle and dragged her away so people coming up the stairs could get by, and then stood over her so nobody would step on her. We knew she was upset, but since she was silent we didn't know why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First, let me preface this by saying I don't mean this to be a brag or a fake question to hide a brag. I really want to know: Do any of you have kids that don't ever throw temper tantrums?

The "Bad Mommy" thread where her son was hitting and kicking and screaming made me wonder how frequent those kinds of outbursts are. I mean for kids that don't have any special needs.

I have three kids, between the ages seven and two and I can honestly say none of mine have ever thrown a tantrum like that. They have cried and had had meltdowns before, but never throwing themselves on the floor, kicking and screaming kinds of meltdowns.

Am I just really lucky? Some genetic fluke? It seems like a normal developmental phase so I doubt my parenting really has anything to do with it.

What say you DCUM? Have all your kids thrown tantrums or are there other lucky moms like me that haven't had to deal with them?

You aren't alone. I've got four and I've never had one kick, hit, spit or scream. Meltdowns yes. I think its just luck mixed with a bit of parenting style. I'm very laid back and so are they.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Each threw one tantrum (I have four) except one kid. She's nine, and we joke that she's saving it and when it comes, it'll be epic.

Their one tantrums didn't involve hitting though. One refused to hold my hand walking into a busy parking lot and stood on the curb and screamed. One refused to come into a store with me and stood on the sidewalk and screamed. One laid down on the floor in total silence at the top of a staircase. I literally grabbed her ankle and dragged her away so people coming up the stairs could get by, and then stood over her so nobody would step on her. We knew she was upset, but since she was silent we didn't know why.

OP here. Thanks for sharing. Funny about the nine-year old saving her tantrum. Maybe that's what mine are doing!

[Anonymous]

None of my kids had tantrums, all three were pretty easy babies, toddlers, and kids. Now two are teenagers, and while lovely in public, they are hell raisers at home. Teenagers are hell. I hope it gets better before it gets worse (and we still have a lot of worse to navigate).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:None of my kids had tantrums, all three were pretty easy babies, toddlers, and kids. Now two are teenagers, and while lovely in public, they are hell raisers at home. Teenagers are hell. I hope it gets better before it gets worse (and we still have a lot of worse to navigate).

OP here. As my mom says, "Little kids, little problems. Big kids, big problems!"

[Anonymous]

I think it's personality. My two do, in different ways, and I'm a teacher with a pretty good idea of how to discipline, motivate, etc. my kids are pretty passionate, lively people. My nieces and nephews never had tantrums (according to my SIL) and she is very quick to chalk it up to her superior parenting. I do the same things she does, so I don't think that's it. Just like some kids sleep better than others, some learn to read better than others, and done learn to regulate their emotions more than others.

[Anonymous]

I'm a lucky one - a few at-home meltdowns but never a public tantrum (or even misbehaving...it's like she saves it for home). I know it has nothing to do with me or my parenting style but I will take it and appreciate the sh*t out of it as long as it lasts!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a lucky one - a few at-home meltdowns but never a public tantrum (or even misbehaving...it's like she saves it for home). I know it has nothing to do with me or my parenting style but I will take it and appreciate the sh*t out of it as long as it lasts!!!

OP here. I knew I couldn't be the only lucky one! This is just not the sort of thing you can ask people IRL. Not without sounding really obnoxious!

[Anonymous]

Is some of this maybe a matter of definition? I think that for some parents/kids the difference between a meltdown and tantrum might be a fine line and many would say their kids had tantrums without their necessarily being hitting and kicking or even screaming.

[Anonymous]

One of mine has, but not the other, and it is completely because of their personalities. The tantrum thrower is much louder, more expressive, very physical and out going. The other one is more even tempered, quiet and reserved. Both have been this way since they were born.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is some of this maybe a matter of definition? I think that for some parents/kids the difference between a meltdown and tantrum might be a fine line and many would say their kids had tantrums without their necessarily being hitting and kicking or even screaming.

Maybe. My kids definitely cry and even tell sometimes. But to me, a temper tantrums is where they really loose it physically and emotionally. Either throwing themselves on the ground or hitting or kicking. Screaming at the top of their lungs instead of just yelling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a lucky one - a few at-home meltdowns but never a public tantrum (or even misbehaving...it's like she saves it for home). I know it has nothing to do with me or my parenting style but I will take it and appreciate the sh*t out of it as long as it lasts!!!

OP here. I knew I couldn't be the only lucky one! This is just not the sort of thing you can ask people IRL. Not without sounding really obnoxious!

Are you also OP of parenting credit thread? You have same smug tone. Obnoxious is right.