When you outearn your husband

[Anonymous]

I earn 3*time more than Dh, the division of labour is based on time. He works from home and I commute so he does pick up and drop off and spends more time with the kids. When we are both home we do 50/50. I also travel more so he has to pick up the slack when I am abroad for 10 days.

I still feel that if the situation was reversed I would do more (I.e working from home I would find the time to launch a laundry or start the dishwasher or once in a blue moon take 15 min to put the chicken in the oven so that we can eat dinner at 6.30 instead of 7.30) but I am not complaining. My Dh loves his job and feels it is important and I want him to feel good about it. Not dismiss it as less important than mine just because it happens to be in a field that pays less.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its not about salary IMO its about hours you are home. Whoever is home more usually ends up doing more housework...duh. And BTW my husband would love it if I outlearned him because "more money is more money!"

+1

[Anonymous]

If your DH have more time at home and not willing to step up, you can outsource chores that he thinks you are slacking. Only those chores. If he still complaints about it, that's on him, look like he's looking to find fault with you no matter what.

Since you're making more money than him, make sure you max up your 401k and IRA, before contributing money to family funds.