Well if it's not dancing, could you perform some movement to get the stick out of your ass? |
Why would you equate someone not liking to dance to having a stick up their ass? Heck, I don't really enjoy dancing. Why does that imply that I'm uptight? You'd be surprised at the things I DO enjoy, some of which couldn't be accomplished if I had a stick up my ass.
What's so special about dancing that makes it some sort of social requirement? |
If you don't like dancing, why would you respond to the first quoted post like you did? It said, "if you don't like dancing, because of the dancing, that's cool. Different strokes." -- to which you responded "Yeah. Because not dancing is such a loss." . . . It looked like you were responding to the second item -- that it's a shame if you don't like dancing because of feeling socially awkward. But you apparently just don't like dancing at all. Which would mean that the second item doesn't apply to you. |
FYI. I'm not all of the PP's that you are referencing. I was merely adding my opinion to the assertion that those who don't like to dance are somehow uptight. |
It's not the dislike of dancing that made the PP uptight, it was her attitude. |
OP, this and your bloke sounds like a right plonker. Does pull this insensitive/manipulative narcissist routine in other parts of your marriage? |
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Does he love you and care about your feelings? Then tell him how you feel, calmly. Tell him what would help you want to go out on the dance floor and dance with him -- e.g., feeling supported, not being mocked (which just plays right into your reticence--the opposite of what he wants, right?).
If what he wants is for you to desire dancing and to dance the way HE wants you to dance, then he's got himself a problem, and that problem is HIM. Not you. |
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Well if he makes fun of your dancing in the home, what makes him think you will automatically become the Queen on the Dance Floor somewhere else?
You are correct, your logic makes complete sense while his makes zero. |
So is yoga, but that doesn't mean that people who don't like it are defective. |