Settle a Really Stupid Argument - Social Dancing

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Anonymous wrote:I hate dancing. My spouse hates dancing. On our first date we had gone to a comedy club, followed by another club where dancing was happening. Future spouse halfheartedly said, "do you want to dance?" To which I responded, "Not really. I hate dancing." To which he responded in jest, "Will you marry me?" A year later he asked me for real, and I believe our mutual distaste for dancing helped seal the deal.

I distrust anyone who enjoys dancing too much. Especially organized group dancing like line dancing or that dumb chicken dance. You all look stupid.

Not as stupid as you look standing against the wall with an ugly sneer on your face thinking everyone is worried about your opinion.

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Anonymous wrote:Good social dancers are good because they're having fun. It's not So You Think You Can Dance or anything. If you can dance and have fun, smile, relax, then you look great. But, since this is something you feel insecure about, it really doesn't help that DH's teasing makes you feel worse. Next time, just tell him, "you know I'm insecure about my dancing. I'm trying to have fun but when you tease, even if you mean it in a light hearted way, it makes me worry about dancing in public. Can you avoid teasing my dancing?"

This just isn't true. You need rhythm to look great. Not everyone has it.

Go pound sand. You're wrong, and you're part of the problem. If someone is dancing for fun and they're having a lot of fun, they look great.

It IS great to see people having fun, however that happens. However, that is not the same thing as saying someone looks great dancing. Trust me, I know this, as I don't have rhythm.

When I see someone dancing and having a good time, whether they have rhythm or not it makes me smile. I don't judge whether or not they look great in that moment because it's not a competition.

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Anonymous wrote:People who say they "hate" dancing are generally suffering from something else that impedes their ability to dance - self-consciousness/poor self-esteem, depression, poor physical health, etc....

Good sense and self respect. That's what keeps me from dancing.

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I love doing the white man on any wedding dance floor, but alas, I'm 6'5 and really look awkward...live and in the pictures.

I can feel myself being a foot taller than everyone on the dance floor, it's no fun.

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Anonymous wrote:First World Problems. Would you prefer he just ignore you and not want to share some fun with you on the dance floor?

I lived in a third world country for awhile.

I really hate when people say "First World Problems"

PP - have you done anything to solve a third world problem today?

Otherwise - help the OP with her first world problem.

love this response!

+1. I was going to post something similar.

By definition, anyone posting on DCUM is sharing first world problems.

So, hats off to OP for being able to live a life where social dancing is one of her to concerns. Other people prefer to be drama queens? Well, their choice.

agree! go OP! live your life -

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Anonymous wrote:People who say they "hate" dancing are generally suffering from something else that impedes their ability to dance - self-consciousness/poor self-esteem, depression, poor physical health, etc....

Good sense and self respect. That's what keeps me from dancing.

Honestly, that's just an excuse for poor self-esteem and anxiety driven by worrying about what other people think of you. Both the physical and mental health benefits of active, regular dancing outweigh any self-imposed harm related to "good sense."

Here's a hint: the more you dance, the better you get. Just like playing an instrument, learning a new language, learning how to read, or doing math problems. Repetitive practice makes perfect.

Don't even start with partner or coordinated dancing. Stuff like the tango, salsa, or line dancing are way too complicated and intimidating.

Just enjoy dancing to funk, disco, house music, motown, rock, or hip hop as a single person in a large group. I think dancing by yourself among a big group - such as at a wedding - takes the stress off. I personally HATE partnered dancing; I like to do my own thing.

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Anonymous wrote:People who say they "hate" dancing are generally suffering from something else that impedes their ability to dance - self-consciousness/poor self-esteem, depression, poor physical health, etc....

Good sense and self respect. That's what keeps me from dancing.

Honestly, that's just an excuse for poor self-esteem and anxiety driven by worrying about what other people think of you. Both the physical and mental health benefits of active, regular dancing outweigh any self-imposed harm related to "good sense."

Here's a hint: the more you dance, the better you get. Just like playing an instrument, learning a new language, learning how to read, or doing math problems. Repetitive practice makes perfect.

Don't even start with partner or coordinated dancing. Stuff like the tango, salsa, or line dancing are way too complicated and intimidating.

Just enjoy dancing to funk, disco, house music, motown, rock, or hip hop as a single person in a large group. I think dancing by yourself among a big group - such as at a wedding - takes the stress off. I personally HATE partnered dancing; I like to do my own thing.

Or maybe some people just don't enjoy dancing. Why does it have to be that they secretly want to but simply have too little self esteem to do so?

Does everyone enjoy golf? Bowling? Poker? No, they don't. Why is it that people can't have a dislike of dancing without attaching social or psychological inadequacies to it.

Here's a hint for you: I don't fucking like to dance and have zero desire to practice until I'm good.

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Anonymous wrote:People who say they "hate" dancing are generally suffering from something else that impedes their ability to dance - self-consciousness/poor self-esteem, depression, poor physical health, etc....

Good sense and self respect. That's what keeps me from dancing.

Honestly, that's just an excuse for poor self-esteem and anxiety driven by worrying about what other people think of you. Both the physical and mental health benefits of active, regular dancing outweigh any self-imposed harm related to "good sense."

Here's a hint: the more you dance, the better you get. Just like playing an instrument, learning a new language, learning how to read, or doing math problems. Repetitive practice makes perfect.

Don't even start with partner or coordinated dancing. Stuff like the tango, salsa, or line dancing are way too complicated and intimidating.

Just enjoy dancing to funk, disco, house music, motown, rock, or hip hop as a single person in a large group. I think dancing by yourself among a big group - such as at a wedding - takes the stress off. I personally HATE partnered dancing; I like to do my own thing.

Or maybe some people just don't enjoy dancing. Why does it have to be that they secretly want to but simply have too little self esteem to do so?

Does everyone enjoy golf? Bowling? Poker? No, they don't. Why is it that people can't have a dislike of dancing without attaching social or psychological inadequacies to it.

Here's a hint for you: I don't fucking like to dance and have zero desire to practice until I'm good.

NP here, your personal dislike of dance doesn't have shit to do with self respect.

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My guess is he's teasing you lightheartedly and you're being an oversensitive drama queen.

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Anonymous wrote:My guess is he's teasing you lightheartedly and you're being an oversensitive drama queen.

Ha ha. Thank you. People here are so serious. In a dancing thread of all things.

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Anonymous wrote:My guess is he's teasing you lightheartedly and you're being an oversensitive drama queen.

Ha ha. Thank you. People here are so serious. In a dancing thread of all things.

So it is fair game to tease people about things that they're self-conscious about, as long as you think you're being lighthearted? OK, then, guess all people with a stutter, lisp, weight problem etc. are just "drama queens" for not wanting to be teased.

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Anonymous wrote:My guess is he's teasing you lightheartedly and you're being an oversensitive drama queen.

Ha ha. Thank you. People here are so serious. In a dancing thread of all things.

So it is fair game to tease people about things that they're self-conscious about, as long as you think you're being lighthearted? OK, then, guess all people with a stutter, lisp, weight problem etc. are just "drama queens" for not wanting to be teased.

Good God. You're comparing a reluctance to dance to actual disabilities? Who's the idiot here?

And I wasn't teasing those who are reluctant to dance. I DON'T LIKE TO DANCE. I was teasing those who DO like to dance by suggesting that those who don't posses a certain self respect that those who partake in dancing lack.

People here take themselves WAY too seriously.

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If you don't like dancing because of the dancing, that's cool. Different strokes. If you don't like dancing because of feeling socially awkward, then that's a shame.

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Anonymous wrote:If you don't like dancing because of the dancing, that's cool. Different strokes. If you don't like dancing because of feeling socially awkward, then that's a shame.

Yeah. Because not dancing is such a loss. Not sure I'll be able to go on with life.

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Anonymous wrote:He shouldn't make fun of you. You shouldn't worry about what you look like.

The idea that one has to be good at dancing to dance is pernicious. Music + movement is fun. Full stop. If you're dancing competitively, by all means, get good at it. If you're dancing because it's fun to dance, just start moving however the music moves you.

I agree, OP!