Caucasian ladies, when did you start looking 'old'?

[Anonymous]

about age 40. I'm medium-toned white lady of italian/german heritage. crow's feet and forehead wrinkles, mostly. oh! and under eye bags.


I also smoked in my 20s and was very very very bad about never wearing sunscreen until recently in my 40s.

[Anonymous]

I'm 36, petite with a round face and olive/oily skin. So, I've always looked younger. But -- I'm tired and look tired. I have two very little ones and not much sleep. By the time these two are older and I'm (hopefully) sleeping more I'll probably truly be looking older not just tired, as I'll be around 40. I notice it around 39-45 with most women.

[Anonymous]

I imagine the process was gradual, but I had my kids around 40 and sort of woke up in my mid 40s (once kids are both more independent) and was like: what the!?!? I look old. My face is wrinkly all over, but the thing that bothers me is my saggy neck/chin area. I'm thin, so its not like a double chin - just saggy and my chin has lost its definition. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

45. Big difference from 40 to me. It seemed like it happened overnight. I've stayed out of the sun for years and taken very good care of my skin, but aging is inevitable, whether I like it or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:45. Big difference from 40 to me. It seemed like it happened overnight. I've stayed out of the sun for years and taken very good care of my skin, but aging is inevitable, whether I like it or not.

+1

I'm 45. I'm Irish-Italian with olive (the Italian in me) skin. I don't have any wrinkles, no lines--but I notice a slackness now in my face. I'm fit. I have always worked out and not yo-yo dieted--but eyes look slightly droopier to me, around the mouth a little less tight/taught.

I look great for my age, but I know what I was. I'm okay because I'm in a great place in my life, in incredible physical shape and loving/enjoying watching my boys grow right now. Life is great and we are lucky if we all get old, old and wrinkly. Keep having fun, keep drinking wine and let the superficial shit slide.

[Anonymous]

I'm 48 and really started to notice it last year. A more crepey neck and starting to get real lines around my eyes. I also have some grey that doesn't color over easily. My cuts and bruises don't heal as quickly as they did just 5 years ago.

I'm a little overweight. The extra weight keeps the wrinkles away a bit, for what it's worth. That and tons of sunscreen my entire life. And no drinking or smoking.

[Anonymous]

50, but I think it had more to do with stress when my husband died than aging.

[Anonymous]

I'm Mediterranean and have a few extra pounds at 47. I still have no wrinkles, crows feet, crepey neck, etc. My hair has a few grays, so I don't dye it, so that's the only giveaway for now. Check back in another few years.

[Anonymous]

Is it just me, or does there seem to be a troll on DCUM who is hell bent on trying to make Caucasian women feel like old hags who are worthless after age 32? The person is all over the relationship and other forums.

[Anonymous]

I'm kind of wondering about the veracity of all the PPs in their late 40s who assert they have "no wrinkles"

I'm not buying it. Real life doesn't support this astonishing internet gathering of wrinkle-free women who are 45, 47, 48.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This again?

How else will we get to hear from the fervent "all white women are hags" poster?

Yet look at all the replies s/he gets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:50, but I think it had more to do with stress when my husband died than aging.

Sorry for your loss, PP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:45. Big difference from 40 to me. It seemed like it happened overnight. I've stayed out of the sun for years and taken very good care of my skin, but aging is inevitable, whether I like it or not.

+1

I'm 45. I'm Irish-Italian with olive (the Italian in me) skin. I don't have any wrinkles, no lines--but I notice a slackness now in my face. I'm fit. I have always worked out and not yo-yo dieted--but eyes look slightly droopier to me, around the mouth a little less tight/taught.

I look great for my age, but I know what I was. I'm okay because I'm in a great place in my life, in incredible physical shape and loving/enjoying watching my boys grow right now. Life is great and we are lucky if we all get old, old and wrinkly. Keep having fun, keep drinking wine and let the superficial shit slide.

+1, also Italian-Irish, just hit around 45, though my hair is still natural brown. I realized it when people started coming up to me this year and said "Oh, that's your natural color?" as if assuming that I'd dyed it. I'm thinking of leaving in a few greys instead of plucking them just to get the point across.

However, all people look their age, especially to 20-year-olds. Pretending otherwise is unrealistic internet talk, but other ethnicities (whether they "crack" or not) look 30/40/50 when they are 30/40/50 too! Whether you grey, wrinkle, get double chins, sag, get puffy eyes, whatever, you DO look your age. When somebody tells you "you don't look a day over 35," they're being polite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it just me, or does there seem to be a troll on DCUM who is hell bent on trying to make Caucasian women feel like old hags who are worthless after age 32? The person is all over the relationship and other forums.

It's not just you, I've noticed the same. Sorry you've never been a popular white girl, but it's time to let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it just me, or does there seem to be a troll on DCUM who is hell bent on trying to make Caucasian women feel like old hags who are worthless after age 32? The person is all over the relationship and other forums.

It's not just you, I've noticed the same. Sorry you've never been a popular white girl, but it's time to let it go.

What? Put down whatever it is you're drinking. You're not making any sense.