How long married? Not how long you have been together. They are different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree that it's strange to tack on how long you've been together as a couple when asked how long you've been married.

Believe it or not, it was illegal for my parents to marry in the Great State of Mississippi. They were together long before they visited the District and got married here.

As with so many others who have responded, it provides context. Or, a more accurate account of how long they've been together as a married-like couple, without the documentation.

Ugh. I really don't see how so many silly things bother people.

Why couldn't thy marry? Why is it so important for them to add on those extra years? Do they feel simply being married is not enough? That they must justify their marriage to people in Te course of chit chat? Help me understand.

Black daddy, white mama.

Isn't interesting to learn that this was the case in our recent history? Why'd they "add" the years? Because they absolutely adored one another and were deeply committed long before that brief ceremony.

I hope that helped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People tend to try to compensate for things. I've only heard women do this, and it's because they dated a lot longer than they wanted to before getting married. I guess they think adding the extra years together somehow legitimizes it. Or they say they already "felt married" the whole time. It's silly but I just let people say whatever makes them feel good about themselves because it doesn't affect me in any way.

Absolutely. I have never heard a man answer this way.

Then you haven't met my husband. He remembers when we met (in college). So if you ask him how long we've been married, he would say a long time...we met in college.

Are you sure you went to college? This makes zero sense as written.

Suck it, Trebek! I didn't feel like switching screens to type the quotation marks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People tend to try to compensate for things. I've only heard women do this, and it's because they dated a lot longer than they wanted to before getting married. I guess they think adding the extra years together somehow legitimizes it. Or they say they already "felt married" the whole time. It's silly but I just let people say whatever makes them feel good about themselves because it doesn't affect me in any way.

Absolutely. I have never heard a man answer this way.

Then you haven't met my husband. He remembers when we met (in college). So if you ask him how long we've been married, he would say a long time...we met in college.

So he does not actually answer the question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A study came out that people who date 4+ years before marriage are more likely to get divorced.

Then several people on this thread contradict that study.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People tend to try to compensate for things. I've only heard women do this, and it's because they dated a lot longer than they wanted to before getting married. I guess they think adding the extra years together somehow legitimizes it. Or they say they already "felt married" the whole time. It's silly but I just let people say whatever makes them feel good about themselves because it doesn't affect me in any way.

Absolutely. I have never heard a man answer this way.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree that it's strange to tack on how long you've been together as a couple when asked how long you've been married.

Believe it or not, it was illegal for my parents to marry in the Great State of Mississippi. They were together long before they visited the District and got married here.

As with so many others who have responded, it provides context. Or, a more accurate account of how long they've been together as a married-like couple, without the documentation.

Ugh. I really don't see how so many silly things bother people.

Why couldn't thy marry? Why is it so important for them to add on those extra years? Do they feel simply being married is not enough? That they must justify their marriage to people in Te course of chit chat? Help me understand.

Black daddy, white mama.

Isn't interesting to learn that this was the case in our recent history? Why'd they "add" the years? Because they absolutely adored one another and were deeply committed long before that brief ceremony.

I hope that helped.

You must be quite old!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A study came out that people who date 4+ years before marriage are more likely to get divorced.

Then several people on this thread contradict that study.

So far... But odds aren't in their future that it will last.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A study came out that people who date 4+ years before marriage are more likely to get divorced.

I believe this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree that it's strange to tack on how long you've been together as a couple when asked how long you've been married.

Believe it or not, it was illegal for my parents to marry in the Great State of Mississippi. They were together long before they visited the District and got married here.

As with so many others who have responded, it provides context. Or, a more accurate account of how long they've been together as a married-like couple, without the documentation.

Ugh. I really don't see how so many silly things bother people.

Why couldn't thy marry? Why is it so important for them to add on those extra years? Do they feel simply being married is not enough? That they must justify their marriage to people in Te course of chit chat? Help me understand.

Black daddy, white mama.

Isn't interesting to learn that this was the case in our recent history? Why'd they "add" the years? Because they absolutely adored one another and were deeply committed long before that brief ceremony.

I hope that helped.

You must be quite old!!

Quite right! I'm 44. Ancient.

[Anonymous]

People who do that sound like teenagers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree that it's strange to tack on how long you've been together as a couple when asked how long you've been married.

Believe it or not, it was illegal for my parents to marry in the Great State of Mississippi. They were together long before they visited the District and got married here.

As with so many others who have responded, it provides context. Or, a more accurate account of how long they've been together as a married-like couple, without the documentation.

Ugh. I really don't see how so many silly things bother people.

Why couldn't thy marry? Why is it so important for them to add on those extra years? Do they feel simply being married is not enough? That they must justify their marriage to people in Te course of chit chat? Help me understand.

Black daddy, white mama.

Isn't interesting to learn that this was the case in our recent history? Why'd they "add" the years? Because they absolutely adored one another and were deeply committed long before that brief ceremony.

I hope that helped.

You must be quite old!!

Quite right! I'm 44. Ancient.

Not a spring chicken

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People tend to try to compensate for things. I've only heard women do this, and it's because they dated a lot longer than they wanted to before getting married. I guess they think adding the extra years together somehow legitimizes it. Or they say they already "felt married" the whole time. It's silly but I just let people say whatever makes them feel good about themselves because it doesn't affect me in any way.

Absolutely. I have never heard a man answer this way.

Then you haven't met my husband. He remembers when we met (in college). So if you ask him how long we've been married, he would say a long time...we met in college.

So he does not actually answer the question.

Well, he's not under oath and in the process of cross examination, so he feels comfortable answering like this and sharing information as he chooses.

Holy shit people are in rare form tonight! Gentle suggestion: have a glass of wine (or 3). Oy vey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree that it's strange to tack on how long you've been together as a couple when asked how long you've been married.

Believe it or not, it was illegal for my parents to marry in the Great State of Mississippi. They were together long before they visited the District and got married here.

As with so many others who have responded, it provides context. Or, a more accurate account of how long they've been together as a married-like couple, without the documentation.

Ugh. I really don't see how so many silly things bother people.

Why couldn't thy marry? Why is it so important for them to add on those extra years? Do they feel simply being married is not enough? That they must justify their marriage to people in Te course of chit chat? Help me understand.

Black daddy, white mama.

Isn't interesting to learn that this was the case in our recent history? Why'd they "add" the years? Because they absolutely adored one another and were deeply committed long before that brief ceremony.

I hope that helped.

You must be quite old!!

Quite right! I'm 44. Ancient.

Not a spring chicken

Creaky bones, awful metabolism, always looking for my glasses. This is true. Also, not the point of this thread, so back to why a couple's self-description bothers you...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It makes me wonder why te people couldn't get their acts together to marry sooner. Obviously they had problems.

God- no!! I know HS couples that broke up before college--they dated others, were single, learned about themselves. Should they have married at 18????

If they want credit, yes. And only if she can sew, cook, and do woodworking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree that it's strange to tack on how long you've been together as a couple when asked how long you've been married.

Believe it or not, it was illegal for my parents to marry in the Great State of Mississippi. They were together long before they visited the District and got married here.

As with so many others who have responded, it provides context. Or, a more accurate account of how long they've been together as a married-like couple, without the documentation.

Ugh. I really don't see how so many silly things bother people.

Why couldn't thy marry? Why is it so important for them to add on those extra years? Do they feel simply being married is not enough? That they must justify their marriage to people in Te course of chit chat? Help me understand.

Black daddy, white mama.

Isn't interesting to learn that this was the case in our recent history? Why'd they "add" the years? Because they absolutely adored one another and were deeply committed long before that brief ceremony.

I hope that helped.

You must be quite old!!

Quite right! I'm 44. Ancient.

Old to me, anyway.