How do you make new friends in your 50s?

[Anonymous]

OP, are you in DC, MD or VA?

[Anonymous]

OP, what are you passionate about? What would you like to do that you have never done before? I believe that if you follow your dreams, the friends will follow. It may be that DC isn't really where you want or need to be, and that's why you haven't clicked with people here.

[Anonymous]

Work friends. Everyone I know has most of their friends at work. Don't give up OP - you will find something PT. keep trying. Do something you will enjoy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone had success making new friends in your 50s?

I moved here 5 years ago, and have not made any new friends. No one to go out for coffee or a movie. Lots of acquaintances, but no close friends. We don't entertain (renovating house, not a lot of $$ or time.)

I'm not very outgoing, nor am I chatty. The good friends I've made in my lifetime have been people I've spent a lot of time with either in jobs or school. I SAH, so spend a lot of time with my kids, who are now teenagers. In a few years, I'll have an empty nest, and be really alone.

Most people I meet who are around my age don't seem interested in making new friends. Most seem to have their fixed social networks, with no room for a newcomer. I socialize at my church, but the interactions are so superficial that I get bored. Nothing seems to click. I'm going to grad school, but my classmates are in their 20s, nice kids, but not exactly my peers.

Please share your 50-plus success stories making new friends! Any tips and suggestions?

TIA!

Roller derby league

Volleyball team

[Anonymous]

Who has a roller derby league? VA? That would be awesome!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't want new friends in my 50s. But, agree with previous posters that most friends are associated with my kids who are in MS. Between all the kids' sports, parties and school events, I don't have much time for establishing new friendships. Too much energy too that I don't want to invest in at this point in life.

My point exactly. I'm the OP. Most of the 50ish people I meet are just like you. Not interested in making new friends. Sigh. I've got old friends too, but they're far, far away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, what are you passionate about? What would you like to do that you have never done before? I believe that if you follow your dreams, the friends will follow. It may be that DC isn't really where you want or need to be, and that's why you haven't clicked with people here.

OP again. I just applied for a volunteer job/internship. I probably won't get that either because of my age! It's so frustrating being in my 50s!

I'm in grad school, and I love it, but I'm older than most of my professors. I used to teach in a university so sometimes it feels a bit awkward because I'm actually a peer of the profeasors ans student at the same time. And the other students are in their 20s, mostly. Not in the same place in life as me, except professionally, as we're all training for the same field.