Generalizing: husbands and IL relationship management

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree. Why do women raise sons that don't know how to properly buy a gift and give one? DH didn't even know his parents, grandparents and sister's birthdays until I started writing them down.

The thing that annoys me the most about this dynamic is that when we don't see my inlaws, it's ME that gets blamed and not him. Except my DH travels 3 weeks out of the month and has a hectic work schedule, but the lack of visits is somehow due to me.

Why don't men raise sons that don't know how to properly buy a gift and give one?

Touché.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree that the onus of building/maintaining relationships gets placed on women.

Our family is extremely nontraditional. DH cooks, does laundry, and is primary parent with respect to school/daycare. And yet... this is like the one wifey thing that falls 100 percent on me.

I agree. My DH does his full 50%, but relationships are ALL on me. This was a recent conversation:
me: "What do you want to give your mom for her birthday?"
DH: "Idk, what did you buy her?"

LOL

Not funny. You sound like his servant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree that the onus of building/maintaining relationships gets placed on women.

Our family is extremely nontraditional. DH cooks, does laundry, and is primary parent with respect to school/daycare. And yet... this is like the one wifey thing that falls 100 percent on me.

I agree. My DH does his full 50%, but relationships are ALL on me. This was a recent conversation:
me: "What do you want to give your mom for her birthday?"
DH: "Idk, what did you buy her?"

LOL

Not funny. You sound like his servant.

Oh please. We all do some tasks on our own. I bet she doesn't mow the lawn, and he does. It's called divide and conquer.