Careless driver a good enough reason to break up?

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Anonymous wrote:So he's just reading his emails at red lights? Obviously still not good but better than texting while driving.

No he's touching/ holding phone while driving.

But not looking at it while driving? I think you're overreacting a bit but he should respect your feelings because they're very strong and it would take so little for him to accommodate your request. Maybe he feels that you're being controlling, especially if you're taking his phone away from him and putting it in your purse.

I would sit down with him when you're not in the car and talk it out - not accusingly or with any hostility. Just tell
Him how you feel, and why.

He IS looking at it. I've been out of town for the last week so I haven't spoken to him about this yet. Last week it just kind of hit me because he was speeding on 465 and trying to look up some address on his GPS at the same time. When I yelled at him for this, he pulled onto the shoulder of the highway. Parking on the shoulder for me is something I would only do if I had an emergency. He's done this quite a few times and we didn't have an emergency any of the times. He also got a reckless driving speeding ticket for going 80 over last summer. I think they waved everything because he showed up to court but still.

Why can't he just hand you the phone so you can look up the address? Seem like he has control issues. Does he like to have unreasonable power in other areas of his life?

Also, I want to add, why are you yelling at him? Can't you just say "Babe, hand me the phone and I'll look up the address for you". You both have issues and don't know how to be in an adult relationship.

[Anonymous]

It would be a deal-breaker for me, mostly because of the lack of respect he's showing for your requests and safety.

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Op here: I have tried asking him to let me look up the addresses on the gps . Unfortunately he usually grabs the phone and tries to do it himself. He's not controlling with other things.

I will admit I am strong willed. I can be demanding about healthy eating with my boyfriend. He actually thinks that this is great as he's lost weight since we started dating. Also because he's new to the US I feel I need to teach him things about US culture etc. This could come across as bossy.

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Do you want him driving your kids?
Do you want to lose your assests when he hurts somebody and you as a married couple get sued?

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Anonymous wrote:So he's just reading his emails at red lights? Obviously still not good but better than texting while driving.

No he's touching/ holding phone while driving.

But not looking at it while driving? I think you're overreacting a bit but he should respect your feelings because they're very strong and it would take so little for him to accommodate your request. Maybe he feels that you're being controlling, especially if you're taking his phone away from him and putting it in your purse.

I would sit down with him when you're not in the car and talk it out - not accusingly or with any hostility. Just tell
Him how you feel, and why.

He IS looking at it. I've been out of town for the last week so I haven't spoken to him about this yet. Last week it just kind of hit me because he was speeding on 465 and trying to look up some address on his GPS at the same time. When I yelled at him for this, he pulled onto the shoulder of the highway. Parking on the shoulder for me is something I would only do if I had an emergency. He's done this quite a few times and we didn't have an emergency any of the times. He also got a reckless driving speeding ticket for going 80 over last summer. I think they waved everything because he showed up to court but still.

He sounds pretty reckless and of course you can break up with him for any reason. My real question is why you aren't drive the two of you around?

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Anonymous wrote:So he's just reading his emails at red lights? Obviously still not good but better than texting while driving.

No he's touching/ holding phone while driving.

But not looking at it while driving? I think you're overreacting a bit but he should respect your feelings because they're very strong and it would take so little for him to accommodate your request. Maybe he feels that you're being controlling, especially if you're taking his phone away from him and putting it in your purse.

I would sit down with him when you're not in the car and talk it out - not accusingly or with any hostility. Just tell
Him how you feel, and why.

He IS looking at it. I've been out of town for the last week so I haven't spoken to him about this yet. Last week it just kind of hit me because he was speeding on 465 and trying to look up some address on his GPS at the same time. When I yelled at him for this, he pulled onto the shoulder of the highway. Parking on the shoulder for me is something I would only do if I had an emergency. He's done this quite a few times and we didn't have an emergency any of the times. He also got a reckless driving speeding ticket for going 80 over last summer. I think they waved everything because he showed up to court but still.

He sounds pretty reckless and of course you can break up with him for any reason. My real question is why you aren't drive the two of you around?

OP here: I don't have a car. I use the metro to get to/from work. We live in Reston now.

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Op, you can't have too many things that you get upset about. You telling him to not look at the phone is getting lost in the noise of your "lessons" about Americans and the evils of gluten.

Also don't take on the role of his cultural ambassador. He will figure things out without you being bossy about the way things are.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, you can't have too many things that you get upset about. You telling him to not look at the phone is getting lost in the noise of your "lessons" about Americans and the evils of gluten.

Also don't take on the role of his cultural ambassador. He will figure things out without you being bossy about the way things are.

You pulled all this stuff out of your ass. Gluten? Lessons?