Is it ever worth not having a relationship with family over ideological issues?

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Politics (i.e. other people's money) is number 1 stupidest reason to not have a relationship with someone. Number 1, I tell you.

OP, you are certifiable.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes ... people who engage in "in your face" political dialogs are not doing it to be friendly! They are doing it to challenge you and to "win". That's not enjoy able. I would not associate with anyone like that regardless of the dynamics of our relationship.

My eldest sister did this to me for years (after Obama was elected, because of course I made the deciding vote), and i just went along, smiling and nodding. My DC were confused about all the yelling (their yelling at me). Finally she cut me off, as did her entire extended family. It makes me sad.

Isn't your extended family and hers the same if you are siblings

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Anonymous wrote:Yup. Done this repeatedly with racist and homophobic family members. Yes, you are free to have your hateful opinion. And I am free to not associate with such people.

I explain to my children (and my DH agrees) that when we do not call people out for this sort of thing, we are condoning it and allowing it to continue to grow and hurt people. We are complicit. And you folks who are like "grandma's nice but racist" are complicit. You are feeding this fire of hate. Ugly but true.

And I'm free to say how sad I think this militant stance is for your kids.

I don't see what's "militant" about this stance. When your kids turn out to spout racist/homophobe beliefs, don't scratch your head as to where they got it from of you're the type to just ignore it because you want free babysitting and baked goods from your extended family.

Come back in twenty years when your kids cut you off for your beliefs.

Exactly. You're also teaching your kids that they dare not voice an independent thought that differs from Mom and Dad lest they be cut off. PP who cuts off and mentions baked goods is unbelievably shallow and controlling at the same time.

Meh. I don't buy this. There are absolute wrongs in this world- yes society dictates them and why but they do exist. Racism isn't a "two sides to every story" kind of issue. There is an absolute wrong. You are not "intolerant" because you don't accept speech that actively tries to hurt or deny others. Not everything is equal. I don't tolerate white supremacists- to pretend that makes me somehow "just as bad" as them is a ridiculous statement and you know it.