Anonymous wrote:I'm currently in a relationship where my boyfriend needs constant reassurance that I'm invested in the relationship. He is 33 and in a great career, where as I am still in graduate school, plus work part-time. I try to keep a balance of school, work, love/social life, and some me time, but it never seems like enough for him. We see each other every weekend and usually once during the week. We've even dating six months and I'm in love with him. I give him my full attention and make as much time for him as possible, but it doesn't seem like enough for him. I'm unsure if him being 5+ years out of school has made him forget how tough it is to juggle everything. We talked once about this but it didn't help. I assure him that I love him and wish I could spend more time together, but school is a huge aspect right now. What is troubling is he knew my schedule before we started dating. He offered me to move in so I don't has to work, but I don't feel comfortable being financially dependent on him - especially so early on in the relationship.
Last week a bunch of his friends got together with their SOs but I was working. We discussed that he felt hurt that I couldn't make it. I really do love him but I also have other priorities that I am not willing to drop for a relationship. It's tiring for him to keep whining about not seeing me more and how he feels I'm not interested in him. I am desperate to find a solution. I never want him to feel unhappy or unwanted with me. Trying to look at in from an unbiased prospective, I'm wondering if he's right in thinking this way and I need I more available? Maybe you DCUMers can help me!
I tolerated this for about 8 months in a relationship and the neediness got to be too much and suffocating so I ended it.
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